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Posted 9/29/17 , edited 9/29/17

MakotoKamui wrote:

Break up. You seem unsuited to this whole relationship, based on previous threads.
Also asking advice on a random anime forum, rather than of your partner, seems like a bad sign overall.

I would say that prior advice about slapping would fall under a) wrong and b) probably illegal, as even while dating such abuse will fall under either assault or domestic violence depending on where you live and the severity.


Makoto, being a staff and having a Japanese name have my respect to a certain degree. I suppose I've posted some unreasonable stuff


P.S I did say I should stay as friend heh, looks like her value just went up
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The secret is to treat a girlfriend like a pet. What do you do to badly behaved pets? Calm them down with cuddles and food so they calm down and then make them understand they were being bad. It's sad but that's just how you have to treat girls.
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Well, based on the gold fish experiment..... So I should give her some time?

That's the technique I use with angry clients. Just listening will bring the conversation down a notch or two. I can't tell you if you should give her more time. If obtaining girlfriends is easy for you, maybe not. But if you have just come off a long dry spell, I would try to make it work.
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Nyxali wrote:

The secret is to treat a girlfriend like a pet. What do you do to badly behaved pets? Calm them down with cuddles and food so they calm down and then make them understand they were being bad. It's sad but that's just how you have to treat girls.


She is too much like that previous girl I went for. She could be just imitating her but she even moves like her.

Here's what happened:
1. She works at a restaurant and I sort of go in to visit everyday after work, I asked for her Facebook but she said I am going too fast.
2. As much as I seem like a burden to her work I do not know what she thinks about me, just someone blindly going after her.
3. As much as I do not want to be a burden to her work, not visiting her leaves gaps, and gaps are bad

Should I, wait for a few days before my next visit? It is good that there's this weekend until Monday. Should I, hang out with her as a friend? Is her temper going to get to me? So much unknowns


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Well, based on the gold fish experiment..... So I should give her some time?

That's the technique I use with angry clients. Just listening will bring the conversation down a notch or two. I can't tell you if you should give her more time. If obtaining girlfriends is easy for you, maybe not. But if you have just come off a long dry spell, I would try to make it work.


I see. She is quite passionate. The conversation right now is at a fairly awkward stage. I am supposed to be the one in control and smooth talk. Right, this whole thing went too fast and out of control while I was sort of skeptical. Forgive me I've had some pretty bad relationship history.
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MakotoKamui wrote:

Break up. You seem unsuited to this whole relationship, based on previous threads.
Also asking advice on a random anime forum, rather than of your partner, seems like a bad sign overall.

I would say that prior advice about slapping would fall under a) wrong and b) probably illegal, as even while dating such abuse will fall under either assault or domestic violence depending on where you live and the severity.


Makoto, stop accusing me of stuff. Being a staff and having a Japanese name have my respect to a certain degree.


P.S I did say I should stay as friend heh, looks like her value just went up


Sorry, what did I accuse you of? My apologies if you thought I meant it was you who suggested the slapping - there were posts above mine suggesting violence, I was attempting to put a stop to that.

My pseudonym is Japanese, yes, though mostly because I find it amusing to use "sincerity" as a pseudonym. The rest was from an old boss of mine who gave it to me, but neither part is my real name, sorry.
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Bend to her will, become the doormat on which she cleans her shoes, the bucket in which she can emotionally vomit into. It is your destiny.
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That is will never change,you will try every time to deal with that temper, you are going always to solve it but without any results. Just try to find another Girl friend hehe
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Posted 9/29/17 , edited 9/29/17

MakotoKamui wrote:


fredreload wrote:


MakotoKamui wrote:

Break up. You seem unsuited to this whole relationship, based on previous threads.
Also asking advice on a random anime forum, rather than of your partner, seems like a bad sign overall.

I would say that prior advice about slapping would fall under a) wrong and b) probably illegal, as even while dating such abuse will fall under either assault or domestic violence depending on where you live and the severity.


Makoto, stop accusing me of stuff. Being a staff and having a Japanese name have my respect to a certain degree.


P.S I did say I should stay as friend heh, looks like her value just went up


Sorry, what did I accuse you of? My apologies if you thought I meant it was you who suggested the slapping - there were posts above mine suggesting violence, I was attempting to put a stop to that.

My pseudonym is Japanese, yes, though mostly because I find it amusing to use "sincerity" as a pseudonym. The rest was from an old boss of mine who gave it to me, but neither part is my real name, sorry.


Ah you caught me off guard lol, sorry that I thought you were accusing me of not breaking up with the girl(words play no offense, and I changed my mind about it being my original thought). If I ever do that it is because me being cat like got frightened by something unexpected. I did post some unreasonable stuff on Crunchyroll lol, we'll leave it at that sorry


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That is will never change,you will try every time to deal with that temper, you are going always to solve it but without any results. Just try to find another Girl friend hehe


Fred doesn't want to get Makoto to have superiority over me. The only person who has that on this forum is Staphen(Ayanokouji). You're free to set traps on him

P.S Alright he can have superiority over me, but he can't sue me = =
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Should I, wait for a few days before my next visit? It is good that there's this weekend until Monday. Should I, hang out with her as a friend? Is her temper going to get to me? So much unknowns


It appears that the vast majority of the advice given to you at this time was under the assumption that she was your girlfriend and not your girlfriend (a friend that is a girl).
Somehow, I am under the impression that this is not abnormal for you to pursue females without much due diligence.
I do not mean that in a negative way; more so in the manner that it appears that you have issues understanding social cues and body language.
I would say that if you're at the stage where adding one another to Facebook is "too fast", it appears that there is a basic exchange of dialogue going on at this moment without much of a relationship or friendship yet.
Rather than attempting to pursue her to engage in a relationship, you should take a step back from the situation and try to work on a friendship.
From there, at least you would have additional exposure to this woman without having a blind faith that the relationship appears out of nowhere.
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fredreload wrote:
Should I, wait for a few days before my next visit? It is good that there's this weekend until Monday. Should I, hang out with her as a friend? Is her temper going to get to me? So much unknowns


It appears that the vast majority of the advice given to you at this time was under the assumption that she was your girlfriend and not your girlfriend (a friend that is a girl).
Somehow, I am under the impression that this is not abnormal for you to pursue females without much due diligence.
I do not mean that in a negative way; more so in the manner that it appears that you have issues understanding social cues and body language.
I would say that if you're at the stage where adding one another to Facebook is "too fast", it appears that there is a basic exchange of dialogue going on at this moment without much of a relationship or friendship yet.
Rather than attempting to pursue her to engage in a relationship, you should take a step back from the situation and try to work on a friendship.
From there, at least you would have additional exposure to this woman without having a blind faith that the relationship appears out of nowhere.


Seriously? And I thought she was into me this whole time? No but she was busy with the customers when I asked for her Facebook, she said wait for a second. So I said I'll wait for a second next time I come in. She said alright.

She said it was too fast when I asked for her phone number, but clearly she is without a boyfriend when I asked her.

I agree on the friendship scenario, but my fortune cookie tells me I should settle this as fast as possible(god knows).
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Communication is the key. But it's really hard to say without context
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TheOmegaForce70941 wrote:

Communication is the key. But it's really hard to say without context


Sigh, it took her 0.5 seconds to process between letting me go or offering me her Facebook. To me that is something. For me, I guess I will take it slow and make it happen
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HateKillingCamels wrote:

Beat her up.


Goddamn, this literally made me laugh out loud way too hard!
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this reminds me of my wife and why i chose to live in my car.
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Re-establish the 3rd Reich


maybe the only suitable advice here tbh
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