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Post Reply What do you think makes a woman "wife material"?
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Ravenstein wrote:

To determine if she is made of wife material we need to discern what materials wives are made of. While I have never disassembled a wife I would speculate she would be made of carbon, hydrogen, oxygen, nitrogen, calcium, and phosphorous with trace amounts of potassium, sulfur, sodium, chlorine, magnesium and other elements.


And of course, weird science--Plastic tubes and pots and pans, bits and pieces and magic from the hand, weird science!


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I would greatly suggest you brush up on your vocabulary.


Marriage -noun | mar-riage | \ ˈmer-ij , ˈma-rij \
the state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law

alternate: Mawwiage - | maw-waige | \ meh-wij \
what bwings people together


(Always helps to look these things up.)
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Ravenstein wrote:

To determine if she is made of wife material we need to discern what materials wives are made of. While I have never disassembled a wife I would speculate she would be made of carbon, hydrogen, oxygen, nitrogen, calcium, and phosphorous with trace amounts of potassium, sulfur, sodium, chlorine, magnesium and other elements.


^^ forgot to include the philosopher stone. No Rock No wifey materilization!
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Cydoemus wrote:

Nothing.
Marriage is a shallow institution.
Too many people spend copious amounts of money to have an extravagant wedding, which is completely superficial.
Marriage, more or less, is designed for tax breaks and easier management of the estate upon death.


hahaha! Poor lonely guy. Never been in love huh?
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Cydoemus wrote:

Nothing.
Marriage is a shallow institution.
Too many people spend copious amounts of money to have an extravagant wedding, which is completely superficial.
Marriage, more or less, is designed for tax breaks and easier management of the estate upon death.


hahaha! Poor lonely guy. Never been in love huh?


Currently in a loving relationship for the last two years without any issues.
Both of us see marriage as a superficial "statement" that has no real meaning.
Neither of us is religious; thus, no claim for religious pretense.
We have calculated that if we filed taxes together that it would have consequences (as we would lose about 15% of our earnings over what we lose now).
We each have wills indicating whom things are left to, as I do not have any family to really associate my belongings to.

Point is, marriage is a shallow ceremony that hasn't any meaning.
I'm committed to my girlfriend until I die without some superficial ceremony that calls for validation from external people.
We're confident enough in our relationship without requiring validation.
I guess some people feel that without that validation that their relationship doesn't have the meaning or "weight" that they desire.
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Has to be 2D.
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lmao, the institution of marriage which is by definition devoting your entire life to another person is shallow? Its only shallow nowadays because nobody takes it seriously and cheats or get divorced for stupid reasons.

When you find someone you truly love and would do anything for, spending alot of money on a ceremony that reflects that is important to the individual. It shows how much you value the decision you made to devote and spend your entire life with them. It adds more weight and gives you amazing memories with the person you found as a lifetime partner. The catch is it is suppose to be a once in a lifetime deal. Sad that its more likely to not be nowadays.

You think that the institution of marriage was designed for tax breaks and to make sure someone is there to get your stuff when u die? Wow, seriously? Do u really think this? Or do your views only exist to be edgy or "cool" because you dont agree with the "norm"? Im starting to suspect the latter because that is one of the most ignorant things I have ever heard.



I would greatly suggest you brush up on your vocabulary.


Marriage -noun | mar-riage | \ ˈmer-ij , ˈma-rij \
the state of being united as spouses in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.


Marriage has always been a civil institution at its core.
It wasn't until the 12th century that marriage was fully recognized as a religious institution that was sanctioned as a sacrament.
It is a rather shallow statement to require the validation of your believed deity or your friends and family to make a commitment to one another.
You, yourself, admitted it was shallow by indicating that it "adds more weight" to a relationship.
The hypothetical weight is merely a superficial element that you place on a relationship because you've held a ceremony that has next to little objective meaning.

Filing taxes together can either be beneficial or harmful as a married couple.
This depends on both of your financial state (income, bills, and so forth).
It is also beneficial when your spouse (or yourself) passes away as it gives them legal precedence over your estate, even in light of surviving family members.
There is also the aspect which allows you or your spouse to relocate your spouse's home country (if different than your own) under a spousal visa.
These are objective observations of marriage.

There is not any implication of being "edgy".
These statements are facts.
Marriage is not required to devout one's life to the relationship they are currently in.
Nor is it required to obtain "amazing memories" as these can be obtained through experience.
It is true that divorce has increased overall in the last fifty years, as people have learned that relationships are fluid and there aren't any social requirements to stay in a relationship when you are unsatisfied.
Though, the idea of monogamy in marriage was not always there either.
It was the Greeks and Romans that indicated that monogamy was required as you could only have one spouse at a time.
Other civilizations allowed for males of the upper social echelons to have multiple wives while married.

It appears that most of your reasons to believe that marriage is more than "filing taxes together and ease of estate management upon you or your spouse's death" are primarily based on either the possibility that you are currently married or have an inclination towards being married.
Which really doesn't hold much ground in the discussion, to be frank.


The textbook definition is not really what marriage means to the individual. My response has more to do with beliefs than copy and paste. Feel free to believe what you want. Three words come to mind reading your beliefs on the matter. "Highly educated fool"
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Cydoemus wrote:


Steelmonk wrote:


Cydoemus wrote:

Nothing.
Marriage is a shallow institution.
Too many people spend copious amounts of money to have an extravagant wedding, which is completely superficial.
Marriage, more or less, is designed for tax breaks and easier management of the estate upon death.


hahaha! Poor lonely guy. Never been in love huh?


Currently in a loving relationship for the last two years without any issues.
Both of us see marriage as a superficial "statement" that has no real meaning.
Neither of us is religious; thus, no claim for religious pretense.
We have calculated that if we filed taxes together that it would have consequences (as we would lose about 15% of our earnings over what we lose now).
We each have wills indicating whom things are left to, as I do not have any family to really associate my belongings to.

Point is, marriage is a shallow ceremony that hasn't any meaning.
I'm committed to my girlfriend until I die without some superficial ceremony that calls for validation from external people.
We're confident enough in our relationship without requiring validation.
I guess some people feel that without that validation that their relationship doesn't have the meaning or "weight" that they desire.


2 years? huh...can you stand the test of time.....for me your 2 year relationship is superficial, and still in it's infancy. My children, knowledge of life, success, and my wife do validate me, and empower me in ways hopefully you will someday come to understand. You're just beginning to see what you could have, don't spoil it with pride. Ahhh youth, both fun and ignorant at the same time. If you're still with her in 20 years and you are still not married, I'll be very surprised, every single one of my friends who had relationships like yours are no more. Sometimes commitment means more than words....
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A kind friend that stands by me, does that apply to males? Meh I dunno. It's always the same thing, I complain too much and the guy/girl ends up leaving
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DazzleKitty wrote:

LOL, another one of these kinds of threads?


Seriously. A bunch of unmarried young guys giving advice about what makes a good wife.

And why wife and not "significant other?" There's ladies in this forum ya know.
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DazzleKitty wrote:

LOL, another one of these kinds of threads?


Seriously. A bunch of unmarried young guys giving advice about what makes a good wife.

And why wife and not "significant other?" There's ladies in this forum ya know.


It's too hard, non of the fish takes the bait, I'm not saying this forum though
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If she's honest and as commited to the idea of marriage as you are. That's really it.




this. shit will happen, and i need to know you are honest with me, and you are commited to making this work.
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2 years? huh...can you stand the test of time.....for me your 2 year relationship is superficial, and still in it's infancy. My children, knowledge of life, success, and my wife do validate me, and empower me in ways hopefully you will someday come to understand. You're just beginning to see what you could have, don't spoil it with pride. Ahhh youth, both fun and ignorant at the same time. If you're still with her in 20 years and you are still not married, I'll be very surprised, every single one of my friends who had relationships like yours are no more. Sometimes commitment means more than words....


You can claim on a subjective level that my relationship may be superficial.
However, you haven't any real basis to consider it so.
You're appealing to emotion because you feel offended that I've trivialized the institution of marriage (of which you've taken part in yourself).
You cannot help how you feel, even if you're wrong.
Historical knowledge of the act of marriage, data sets over the last century, and overall awareness states that marriage is a superficial act that is not required in order to have a committed relationship.

Also, I would suggest you not attempt to guess my age at the moment as you seem to believe I'm a "young spring" in my twenties.
Validation could have been obtained from your significant other without needing an exorbitant ceremony to seek validation from those who have little input regarding your relationship.
As for children, I (nor my girlfriend) will ever have children.
Before you doubt that statement: http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-999191/why-are-so-are-so-many-weebs-racist-sexist-homophobic-andor-transphobic?pg=26#56740905 is a post that outlines that both of us are biologically incapable of having children due to our personal choices in the matter (without any interaction from one another).

To summarize:
I understand that you're offended that I've minimalized your marriage.
While you may have a subjective point in regard to how it felt, to yourself, regarding marriage it does not exonerate any of my claims regarding it being superficial and shallow as an institution.
On my own subjective level, I have chosen never to have any biological children and I'm successful in both my personal and professional lives.
External to that, you are free to feel as you wish (as one cannot help how they feel) and I wasn't directly insulting you as a person, but the act of getting married that is not required.
If I were to ever become married, it would strictly be due to financial and estate matters which I have outlined beforehand in this thread.
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AedonBlackheart wrote:

If she's honest and as commited to the idea of marriage as you are. That's really it.




this. shit will happen, and i need to know you are honest with me, and you are commited to making this work.


Aye. Most, if not any problem can be fixed as long as both sides are working together towards a solution.

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