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Similar values and income.
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BBQ, did I say BBQ?
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All that's needed is having a willing partner to marry her.
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jtjumper wrote:

What do you think makes a woman "wife material"?


Bzzt! Sorry, now that you've also brought back the Necro-posting, I'm afraid that's exceeded your One-Shtick Trademark Quota limit for the month--

You'll have to either give up one, or cut back on the Faux-Fredreload dumb bombs, house rules, you know....


But don't you know? I've duel-classed from just being a necroposter to also being a memeposter. Since I never post memes, I stick to the other abilities that class gives. That allows me to retain +10 damage against whiners, but I do suffer a 10% frustration handicap vs he who shall not be named.
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Being alive.
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simple...make themselves available to me when they can...this goes both ways though
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That person has to at least make you feel comfortable around her.

Uncomfortable = red flag, not wife material
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nanikore2 wrote:

That person has to at least make you feel comfortable around her.

Uncomfortable = red flag, not wife material


No that takes some time. When I first told my wife my feelings for her, she felt uncomfortable, but later came to reciprocate. Now she loves me more than I love her, I think. But love is for pussies. White-knuckle commitment, is what gets you through. Marriage is "Till death do us part," not until we get tired of trying.
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2 years? huh...can you stand the test of time.....for me your 2 year relationship is superficial, and still in it's infancy. My children, knowledge of life, success, and my wife do validate me, and empower me in ways hopefully you will someday come to understand. You're just beginning to see what you could have, don't spoil it with pride. Ahhh youth, both fun and ignorant at the same time. If you're still with her in 20 years and you are still not married, I'll be very surprised, every single one of my friends who had relationships like yours are no more. Sometimes commitment means more than words....


You can claim on a subjective level that my relationship may be superficial.
However, you haven't any real basis to consider it so.
You're appealing to emotion because you feel offended that I've trivialized the institution of marriage (of which you've taken part in yourself).
You cannot help how you feel, even if you're wrong.
Historical knowledge of the act of marriage, data sets over the last century, and overall awareness states that marriage is a superficial act that is not required in order to have a committed relationship.

Also, I would suggest you not attempt to guess my age at the moment as you seem to believe I'm a "young spring" in my twenties.
Validation could have been obtained from your significant other without needing an exorbitant ceremony to seek validation from those who have little input regarding your relationship.
As for children, I (nor my girlfriend) will ever have children.
Before you doubt that statement: http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-999191/why-are-so-are-so-many-weebs-racist-sexist-homophobic-andor-transphobic?pg=26#56740905 is a post that outlines that both of us are biologically incapable of having children due to our personal choices in the matter (without any interaction from one another).

To summarize:
I understand that you're offended that I've minimalized your marriage.
While you may have a subjective point in regard to how it felt, to yourself, regarding marriage it does not exonerate any of my claims regarding it being superficial and shallow as an institution.
On my own subjective level, I have chosen never to have any biological children and I'm successful in both my personal and professional lives.
External to that, you are free to feel as you wish (as one cannot help how they feel) and I wasn't directly insulting you as a person, but the act of getting married that is not required.
If I were to ever become married, it would strictly be due to financial and estate matters which I have outlined beforehand in this thread.



Wow, you're not going to last are you? You gotta get more serious. I can tell your age by your writing, and your general experience. Look man there's nothing bad about being young, I was your age at one time. However what you are trying to do is recreate what has been done over and over and over for the last 50K years. Marriage is a institution going back time immemorial, under many forms and names. You define it with emotional, verbal, social and legal aspects. However the one point you cannot fathom is sacrifice, under all conditions. Example if the woman you love asks you to marry her what would you say? No? Are your beliefs so strong that love is secondary? But, suppose she did ask? She won't? But suppose she did? You're willing to throw away love over a ceremony? One big party? A social ritual? Some words? Financial obligation? Some other persons idea of what a marriage is? You better think about this more. I just saw someone online making a statement that they may regret later. I've made arguments like yours in the past and so have some of my close friends, none of it came to pass as we thought. The ones who didn't want children are now the greatest parents. Of the three who refused marriage, two are alone (longest dry spells ever) and one died. Look man argue your case all you want, I'm just saying never turn down a good thing because of ideology or pride, It's not logical, but it is true. If you love her and she asks to marry, don't you dare say no. Love is rare, and true love is ephemeral.
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llunga wrote:


That's sexist


Not sexist, but rather sexiest.
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nonspecificscientific wrote:


nanikore2 wrote:

That person has to at least make you feel comfortable around her.

Uncomfortable = red flag, not wife material


No that takes some time. When I first told my wife my feelings for her, she felt uncomfortable, but later came to reciprocate. Now she loves me more than I love her, I think. But love is for pussies. White-knuckle commitment, is what gets you through. Marriage is "Till death do us part," not until we get tired of trying.


................I'm talking about uncomfortable in general, not just one thing anyone says at one time


How'd you like it if you're just uncomfortable around someone, PERIOD?
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nanikore2 wrote:


nonspecificscientific wrote:


nanikore2 wrote:

That person has to at least make you feel comfortable around her.

Uncomfortable = red flag, not wife material


No that takes some time. When I first told my wife my feelings for her, she felt uncomfortable, but later came to reciprocate. Now she loves me more than I love her, I think. But love is for pussies. White-knuckle commitment, is what gets you through. Marriage is "Till death do us part," not until we get tired of trying.


................I'm talking about uncomfortable in general, not just one thing anyone says at one time


How'd you like it if you're just uncomfortable around someone, PERIOD?


Oh, nvm then.
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A woman is wife material if you can put up with their crazy. Every chick is crazy you just have to find the one who's crazy you can tolerate
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Wow, you're not going to last are you? You gotta get more serious. I can tell your age by your writing, and your general experience. Look man there's nothing bad about being young, I was your age at one time. However what you are trying to do is recreate what has been done over and over and over for the last 50K years. Marriage is a institution going back time immemorial, under many forms and names. You define it with emotional, verbal, social and legal aspects. However the one point you cannot fathom is sacrifice, under all conditions. Example if the woman you love asks you to marry her what would you say? No? Are your beliefs so strong that love is secondary? But, suppose she did ask? She won't? But suppose she did? You're willing to throw away love over a ceremony? One big party? A social ritual? Some words? Financial obligation? Some other persons idea of what a marriage is? You better think about this more. I just saw someone online making a statement that they may regret later. I've made arguments like yours in the past and so have some of my close friends, none of it came to pass as we thought. The ones who didn't want children are now the greatest parents. Of the three who refused marriage, two are alone (longest dry spells ever) and one died. Look man argue your case all you want, I'm just saying never turn down a good thing because of ideology or pride, It's not logical, but it is true. If you love her and she asks to marry, don't you dare say no. Love is rare, and true love is ephemeral.


It's adorable that your only argument seems to be "You're young and inexperienced, even though I haven't any clue how old you are and am only basing it on your views of the world that are objectively stated."
It is true that you have about fifteen years on me (if the age on your profile is correct).
What is also true is that you have yet to read what I have stated about my own relationship.
My girlfriend and I are both "neutered" (for lack of a better term); as I have had my vasectomy well over a decade ago and my girlfriend had her tubes tied before I met her.
Her and I both have agreed that we'd only get married if we were old enough to concern ourselves with the difficulty with managing assets and one another's estate when we're in our elderly years (age sixty-five or higher).
If we do happen to get married, it will simply be a legally binding document without any ceremony, fanfare, or otherwise.
Again, this has long been agreed upon when we began to merge some of our assets and wrote wills that left the majority of one another's estate to one another.

Essentially, your ramble about how you've known guys who didn't want to parents and are now the "world's greatest parents" is kind of moot.
As it's been over a decade since my vasectomy, there is no procedure to undo the snip.
In regard to your question about whether I would get married, if someone I cared about asked me to do so, it would solely depend on what they considered a marriage.
I've mentioned several times; it's a superficial and shallow institution.
Its sole purpose in the modern day realm is to have financial matters solved and sorted to ensure that, in your passing, your spouse or loved one would have little issue with managing your estate (or you, their own estate).
There is an objective element to marriage and that's as far as I would go with it.

You have made quite a lot of assumptions in the last response of yours.
I won't get too into it, just stating that you should probably improve on reading comprehension instead of skimming over my posts if you are to return with a similarly lengthly response.
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Jk but I have Asperger's syndrome and don't really focus on relationships so I have no clue my dude.
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