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So, tell me, does respect work in both ways?

I mean a child can respect his or her mother and father because they have to, but does the child(depending on the age) earns respect back from their parents? Just a little example.



What do you think about respect and other people?


Posted 9/30/17 , edited 10/1/17
Respect is a 2 way street. Regardless of status, age, occupation, or any position in society or family structure; it should be shared equally among all human beings. My parents always proposed the atrocious rationality that a parent doesn't have to respect their child, due to being significantly older, and how they legally "own" their offspring. That method of logic is asinine to say the least. On the other hand of the spectrum, if they choose to treat you like shit; then they don't deserve your respect and recognition. It can be initially earned, but you have to maintain that connection of respect, in order for it to continue and prosper.
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Obligatory respect isn't respect at all. I might say, look at this woman and all she has accomplished, you ought to respect her. But if I don't actually convince you and you just outwardly agree that you respect her, it's nothing more than empty words.

Honestly I think parent need to earn respect from their children just like anyone else. They have a bigger responsibility in regard to their children than other people do but it is how they rise to that responsibility that defines if they earn respect, not simply having that responsibility. Undergoing to biological process of having offspring alone doesn't entitle you to respect, maybe some gratitude simpyl for the ticket to life, but the rest is up to their behavior.

In regards to if respect can be one way, I think it can, but but I also think that it probably isn't that healthy on some level to respect someone who does not respect you in return. Say you have a superior at work, so maybe you have 'more' respect for them than they have for you in terms of seniority, but as people or just as an employee, if the respect isn't mutual that's a shame.

To respond to the example specifically, Golly, I sure hope parents aim to raise children whom they can have respect for. Though there is something of an issue in those parents that just always offer up copius praise without any critical analysis. It is one thing to support your kid, it is another to put a veil over their eyes and make them think the world revolves around them or that they are special only to have that all shattered when they go into the real world.

Since you can only control your actions all you can do is be respectful. to to hers and hope they understand that being respectful themselves isn't a weakness or a give of ground.
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EternalVerity wrote:

Respect is a 2 way street. Regardless of status, age, occupation, or any position in society or family structure; it should be shared equally among all human beings. My parents always proposed the atrocious rationality that a parent doesn't have to respect their child, due to being significantly older, and how they legally "own" their offspring. That method of logic is asinine to say the least. On the other hand of the spectrum, if they choose to treat you like shit; then they don't deserve your respect and recognition. It can be initially earned, but you have to maintain that connection of respect, in order for it to continue and prosper.



That makes sense.



AsukaAyanami wrote:

Obligatory respect isn't respect at all. I might say, look at this woman and all she has accomplished, you ought to respect her. But if I don't actually convince you and you just outwardly agree that you respect her, it's nothing more than empty words.

Honestly I think parent need to earn respect from their children just like anyone else. They have a bigger responsibility in regard to their children than other people do but it is how they rise to that responsibility that defines if they earn respect, not simply having that responsibility. Undergoing to biological process of having offspring alone doesn't entitle you to respect, maybe some gratitude simpyl for the ticket to life, but the rest is up to their behavior.

In regards to if respect can be one way, I think it can, but but I also think that it probably isn't that healthy on some level to respect someone who does not respect you in return. Say you have a superior at work, so maybe you have 'more' respect for them than they have for you in terms of seniority, but as people or just as an employee, if the respect isn't mutual that's a shame.

To respond to the example specifically, Golly, I sure hope parents aim to raise children whom they can have respect for. Though there is something of an issue in those parents that just always offer up copius praise without any critical analysis. It is one thing to support your kid, it is another to put a veil over their eyes and make them think the world revolves around them or that they are special only to have that all shattered when they go into the real world.

Since you can only control your actions all you can do is be respectful. to to hers and hope they understand that being respectful themselves isn't a weakness or a give of ground.


So, respect is trickier than I thought it would be.

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I think in a civil society people should begin at least with a basic outward show of respect. and downgrade or upgrade from there. Too many 'edgelords' these days think they are being free and 'real' by acting like savages.
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Respect is whatever you want it to be. To correctly use a term I saw recently... Respect is a social construct. That is to say it exists because humans say it does. However that also means its level and meaning very with time, region, and even the individual. That said there is no right or wrong way to interpret respect since its subjective and ephemeral.

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Respect:
NOUN

a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements:

VERB

admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements:
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Respect should work both ways, however it's not often given.
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Yes.
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Respect begets respect.
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Respect should be mutual. To begin with you don't know everyone so you give them the benefit of the doubt and show respect. If they disrespect you and keep doing it they're most likely best avoided. When avoidance isn't possible you can let them know they're being disrespectful. You're not obligated to be respectful to them but you do need to be aware of the circumstances and consequences with this.
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Respect is mutual, but what if people are being rude to me? That me being rude to this one guy pissed off a thousand because I am a second rate citizen. This crap is endless


P.S Why do you think Midoriya get picked on by Batsuko?
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Respect is a meaning one (might) apply to the imagery it has of other individuals. That being said, it's just a set of ideals applied on whether you approve or not of others.

One sided respect if often fear and not really respect. If we are talking how things should be ideally, respect should always go both ways.

If we are talking about the true meaning of things, respect is just a subjective point of view and holds no true value whatsoever.
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A son/daughter (any age) should respect their parent. The parent should show love to the son/daughter, respect isn't something that can be applied from parent to child until they have grown up into an adult.

If talking about 2 groups of people, both groups should respect each other's group.
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Mariox777 wrote:

A son/daughter (any age) should respect their parent. The parent should show love to the son/daughter, respect isn't something that can be applied from parent to child until they have grown up into an adult.

If talking about 2 groups of people, both groups should respect each other's group.


As someone who was raised by abusive parents who straight up tortured me and made me always think that I was the problem and not them, that I should do things their way and accept what they used to do with me instead of questioning, I know that no children should be obliged to blindly show respect for their parents.

A parent just as any other human must earn their children's respect through their deeds. If you see any value in respect, then it MUST go both ways or not exist at all.

Also, as I said, one sided respect is just plain fear. Most children who were raised by abusive people do not respect them, just fear the power those people hold over them. Once they have enough age and understand how wrong were the things done to them, that fear becomes hatred through a feeling of resentment and might lead to terrible things.
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The familial bonds between child and parent are different to the adult concept of respect. It may not even be accurate to call the love and trust of a child for it's parents "respect" as we adults mean it. It could even be that by the time offspring are capable of recognising respect and deciding if their parents are worthy of it then that person isn't really a "child" any more.

In adult to adult interactions everyone above pretty much nailed it. Show respect as a courtesy until you know if someone is truly deserving and hope the other person is doing the same to you (most normal people probably so simply by nature).
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