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Post Reply Are you racist for not being attracted to a certain race?
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Posted 10/1/17 , edited 10/1/17
The only thing I've been attracted to my whole life is gas station hot dogs.
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Hm? I wouldn't say so.
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Hmm... attraction is tricky. On a certain level you can't help who you're attracted to, but it's also true that the more you grow to like a person the more attractive you'll rate them. So you might come to find someone attractive if you spend enough time with them and like their personality, even if you didn't originally think they were attractive. Also all individuals are different, so just because you haven't found someone of a certain race that you find attractive doesn't mean you never will. So in general, I think it would definitely be wrong to decide you'll never date someone of a certain race because you don't believe you could ever find someone of that race attractive, but if you interact with people of all races normally and just never come to be attracted to someone of one or another race that's fine.
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No. People who think that are just stupid.
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no.
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TerraAngel20 wrote:

What happens if you find a person from that race that has everything you want in a boyfriend/girlfriend? Is that honestly going to stop you? Everybody has their preference, but sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with (race, gender, creed, etc).


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The thing is, each race (especially African/Afican descendants) is so diverse in looks that finding a whole race unattractive is kind of hard. More than you realize, what you find attractive can be traced back to social beauty standards.
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What a weird question. I'm attracted to females of my own race. Humans, you know. I mean being attracted to females of other races would be like, bestiality.
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no
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No.

And how is having preferences racist anyway?
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TheZaphod wrote:

No.

And how is having preferences racist anyway?


I suppose that depends. I mean, if your reason for having that preference is "I think race x or y is subhuman and I would never defile my genitalia by touching it to said race" then you're probably racist.

Seriously though, I think it's more nuanced than just yes or just no. I personally have dated all different races of girls but if you have a real thing for pale skinned, ginger girls for example you're unlikely to find too may black or asian women who fit the bill. On the other hand there's a difference between "I haven't seen or met a person of race x or y that I was attracted to yet" and "I'm not attracted to race x or y BECAUSE they are race x or y".
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No it is not racist.
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I wish I could date my toe but society won't let me.
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Pretty sure if I said I found Lithuanian people to be ugly people would take it as being racist.
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bane247 wrote:

Just a preference.

Calling someone a racist because they are only attracted to a certain race is like calling a heterosexual homophobic for being straight or even a homosexual being heterophobic. All are ridiculous.


It's not homophobic/heterophobic, just sexist.

Put it this way: If you were writing letters with someone, as a friend, and just, from the way they wrote, from their personality, etc., you fell in love with them... and then you found out their race or gender wasn't what you thought it was, would that fact alone make you fall out of love with them?

Most people who would answer "yes" would probably say "that category of person could never have the sort of personality that I'd fall in love with". Making that assumption is sexist or racist.

But being more attracted to certain physical features over others isn't sexist or racist... I dunno, this is why I don't believe in monogamy. With monogamy, if you're dating a woman, you can never experience a man, and vice versa. If you're dating a tall person, you can never experience a short person, and vice versa. That just seems really confining to me.

Basically, if everyone would just be pansexual and polyamorous, all the world's problems would go away...
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