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Posted 10/5/17 , edited 10/5/17
A man who isn't a tyrant
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He needs to play catch ball with me!

DAD WHY THE FUCK DIDN'T YOU EVER PLAY CATCH BALL WITH ME? WHY DID YOU GO OUT FOR A PACK OF CIGARETTES AND NEVER COME BACK? WHYYYYYYYYYY DAD WHYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!
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Being strict but fair and not knowing exactly who you are but tries their best to help as well as being critical of you and occasionally insulting in a joking manner but when you are upset trying to fix it or teach you how to fix it teaching you that there's sometimes not a right way and when you experience that for the first time and feel like crying and giving up on it all looks at you in a cold but sympathetic way as if he's lived it himself and not just understood the feeling but has become desensitized to it making you realise just how great he is and that it might not be worth it but you need to continue because he wants you to and he's never been and will never be a person who willingly causes you suffering so you trust him knowing full well he knows there's not more to life and this is it your reward for being born was the bond you developed with your family all along a family that looks out for you and tries its best to support and look out for you the one he made for everyone inside of it his spirit feeling like one of endurance, love, authority, wisdom, mystery and sympathy as he full well knows and accepts that your existence is based on selfish desire and your challenges, happiness and sadness was something that you did not decide for yourself and can't avoid from that moment that it fully sunk in that you can't change all of your choices and an apology doesn't always cut it but if you mean it and genuinely regret or tried to avoid it that's good enough with him because he understands and knows that feeling but never speaks to you about the stuff that pains him because that's not your responsibility but you can tell he's hurt and somehow avoided being destroyed by the world.
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He goes to the store for milk, the most dangerous thing a dad can do.. most never make it back.
Posted 10/6/17 , edited 10/6/17

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He goes to the store for milk, the most dangerous thing a dad can do.. most never make it back.


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Having sex with a woman who gives birth=dad.

But with that said there are multiple types of dads.

The responsible one, the abusive one and etc
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Being around, loving and caring person, who will support you when you need it and also makes everyone in family feeling loved.
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As a father, I try to keep things simple.

My philosophy is that children are small human beings.

They are not pets. They are not servants. They are not minions, or lesser beings.

Your job is not to only keep them alive, but to teach them how to keep themselves alive. You teach them how to be adults.

So, I do everything with that in mind. And I make mistakes. I know at times, I have said things harshly, and when my oldest ran towards the highway and chased her younger sister around the house poking her with a fork, I know I spanked her a little too hard (no bruises or anything). But, I hug them, I tell them I love them, and explain why they can't do those things after I punish them. And I apologize for my mistakes.

And sometimes I let them get away with too much. Sometimes, I let them do stuff that will hurt them, like climbing into a lawn chair sideways, and flipping it... because some lessons they refuse to learn any other way.

I constantly question if what I am doing is right. Divorced for their sake, so they don't have to see the fighting. Married for their sake in the first place. Letting my ex-wife have custody. Constantly wondering if these things are the right things to do.

I love the shit out of them, and I just want them to be happy and healthy. I know they aren't going to make it through childhood without a few emotional and physical scars, but I have spent my entire adult life trying to overcome what I went through as a child, and if I can keep them from that, and make them into well-adjusted, happy adults, I am going to do whatever it takes. I don't care if I get strange looks when I spank them in the middle of the store for acting like miniature monsters, I don't care if people say I am sometimes spoiling them or letting them do too much, my responsibility to my girls takes priority over the opinions of everyone else.

Yeah, so maybe that isn't so simple.

I have found this from observation: Good parents acknowledge failures and constantly question if what they are doing is right for their child. Bad parents rarely acknowledge they have done anything wrong in their parenting, and assume because they are the parent they must be in the right. So, based on that, I don't know how good of a father I am, but I don't think I am too bad.

EDIT: Interesting thing that I find stupid and annoying..... I have gotten a lot of negative comments for hugging my girls and telling them I love them immediately after giving them a spanking. I don't get it. They aren't any less punished, just more loved.
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well anyone can be a dad, provide the seed and tada he is a dad. but it takes a man to be a father. someone who disciplines, teaches, learns, etc. basically, it seems, some of men these days are just a dad in that definition I suppose.
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fredreload wrote:


zero356 wrote:


Potentsaliva wrote:


gornotck wrote:

Being aloof, inaccessible, condescending, indomitable, indefatigable, unyielding, cold, uncaring, harsh, inflexible, cruel, deceitful, and abrasive.


So basically Vegeta


Interestingly enough, Vegeta did end up being a pretty good dad


How in the world is Vegeta a better dad than Goku ?


well considering goku's childhood and genetic disposion he is a pretty good dad but by human standards vegeta is the better one he does more then teach his kids to fight which is all goku really has done to help his kids.
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Successful seed implantation


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A man who knows what he wants in life. Holds down a job. You can tell alot about how a man will be when it comes to looking at his work life. A man with convictions and stands by what he believes in and will stand by his child and show them how to be MEN and not BOYS. A guy who will teach his kid the value of a hard earned dollar even if they are well off. Intelligent, but down to earth enough to be silly. I have found some of he silliest and nerdiest men make the BEST fathers because they are SO interactive with their kids.

---I know a dad who DM's for his kids DnD group.. I went to Highschool with his guy and he was the biggest geek/nerd around.
(not that I wasn't one. But we were also both band kids)

Everyone even women will make mistakes cause kids dont come with handbooks.. But.. as long as you are in your kids lives and teach them. That is important.. but being able to relate to them is even better.
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HolyDrumstick wrote:

As a father, I try to keep things simple.

My philosophy is that children are small human beings.

They are not pets. They are not servants. They are not minions, or lesser beings.

Your job is not to only keep them alive, but to teach them how to keep themselves alive. You teach them how to be adults.

So, I do everything with that in mind. And I make mistakes. I know at times, I have said things harshly, and when my oldest ran towards the highway and chased her younger sister around the house poking her with a fork, I know I spanked her a little too hard (no bruises or anything). But, I hug them, I tell them I love them, and explain why they can't do those things after I punish them. And I apologize for my mistakes.

And sometimes I let them get away with too much. Sometimes, I let them do stuff that will hurt them, like climbing into a lawn chair sideways, and flipping it... because some lessons they refuse to learn any other way.

I constantly question if what I am doing is right. Divorced for their sake, so they don't have to see the fighting. Married for their sake in the first place. Letting my ex-wife have custody. Constantly wondering if these things are the right things to do.

I love the shit out of them, and I just want them to be happy and healthy. I know they aren't going to make it through childhood without a few emotional and physical scars, but I have spent my entire adult life trying to overcome what I went through as a child, and if I can keep them from that, and make them into well-adjusted, happy adults, I am going to do whatever it takes. I don't care if I get strange looks when I spank them in the middle of the store for acting like miniature monsters, I don't care if people say I am sometimes spoiling them or letting them do too much, my responsibility to my girls takes priority over the opinions of everyone else.

Yeah, so maybe that isn't so simple.

I have found this from observation: Good parents acknowledge failures and constantly question if what they are doing is right for their child. Bad parents rarely acknowledge they have done anything wrong in their parenting, and assume because they are the parent they must be in the right. So, based on that, I don't know how good of a father I am, but I don't think I am too bad.

EDIT: Interesting thing that I find stupid and annoying..... I have gotten a lot of negative comments for hugging my girls and telling them I love them immediately after giving them a spanking. I don't get it. They aren't any less punished, just more loved.



You sound like a great father. Can I trade my ex-husband for you? Or do I have to make this transaction with your ex? :P

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Posted 10/8/17 , edited 10/9/17

Dart22345 wrote:

You sound like a great father. Can I trade my ex-husband for you? Or do I have to make this transaction with your ex? :P



Thanks. I do my best. Haha
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