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I didn't really know where else I could post something like this so I just decided to do it here. I'm just starting this topic because I'm having difficulty staying motivated and happy at university and just constantly feel like just being here is unhealthy for me. I have anxiety and autism so socialising and doing normal shit is really difficult for me. On top of that I just feel completely unmotivated to even do work, and I've gotten to the point where I'm just skipping meals because I'm too anxious/unmotivated to make it. I feel like I should just drop out but I have no idea what I would do with myself if I did so I honestly just feel like I'm stuck here anyways.

Dunno what I really want from this thread. I guess just advice on what I could/should do? Feel free to vent or ask for advice here as well.
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Are you getting any exercise?

I've struggled with anxiousness in the past but starting exercise after a period of inactivity often clears my mind and helps me put things into perspective. If you are unfit, start off with a brisk walk in the local area for however long you can manage and build up from there.

A change of scenery can also take your mind out of a rut and help you see that other options are available.
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Are you sure university is for you?

I can definitely relate when it comes to skipping meals because you don't have the energy to do it. It's not difficult or time consuming at all when you think about it, but sometimes you just can't bring yourself to accomplish simple tasks like making food for yourself, or you don't have the appetite despite your stomach growling. You might want to speak to someone about that, because it is absolutely linked to depression.
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Check and see if your school offers any counselling services, it would be a good place to start so that you can talk to a professional who understands your situation and can lead you in the right direction. Remember that the counsellor is there to listen to you and to help you it is not their place to judge, their job is unique in the way that they listen to these sort of concerns everyday. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for professional help but of strength and wisdom with the realization that we can't always do things on our own.

Try some relaxation techniques like: breathing exercises, yoga, meditation or any activities that you find calming or enjoyable when you feel anxious. (I focus deeply on a YouTuber's voice named Cryaotic bc the tone of his voice helps me a lot, and a singer named Daniel Caesar, some people listen to music and focus on each individual instrument).

Maybe drop 1 or 2 courses in order to lighten your workload. But also consider if university is right for you, one of my professors dropped out of university in his 2nd year because he wasn't motivated to learn and was failing all of his classes. He enrolled again at a time in his life where he really wanted to be at university and wanted to learn. There's no shame in dropping out, he worked during his time off and went back to school but you don't necessarily have to enrol into university or return to school at all, decide what's best for you, and your future.

When you don't feel as motivated to prepare a meal for yourself I always try to go with toast, bc it's quick and simple, and you can spread whatever you like on it, or boiled eggs, and any other ready to go snacks like granola bars. Something small is better than nothing at all.
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You Need To Eat. Don't skip meals bruh.
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Work out, eat, eat again, drink, bathe in sunlight.

Consider finishing college if you have more than 2 years done on your degree.

And try to take it easier on the workload. Say you took 15 units this semester try taking 12 next semester.


Consider your options and if dropping out and finding a job is what you want to do then go for it.

Lastly make sure you are doing something you are passionate about or else you will never have the "push" to get over all the barriers and walls that will be placed on the road to graduation.
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ThatGaymer wrote:

I didn't really know where else I could post something like this so I just decided to do it here. I'm just starting this topic because I'm having difficulty staying motivated and happy at university and just constantly feel like just being here is unhealthy for me. I have anxiety and autism so socialising and doing normal shit is really difficult for me. On top of that I just feel completely unmotivated to even do work, and I've gotten to the point where I'm just skipping meals because I'm too anxious/unmotivated to make it. I feel like I should just drop out but I have no idea what I would do with myself if I did so I honestly just feel like I'm stuck here anyways.

Dunno what I really want from this thread. I guess just advice on what I could/should do? Feel free to vent or ask for advice here as well.


It's normal to have anxieties about college and doing well. It's not normal to skip meals and not want to leave your apartment. I'd suggest to see a doctor and consult with a councilor.
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Get a good group of friends to surround you.
Also, school shouldn't be the most important thing in the world to you. Again, find meaningful connections.
But don't party too hard. Bad decisions can be bad sometimes
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