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do you believe in soulmates? I personally don't cause it doesn't make sense to me. If having a soulmate mean you found the one person you can love for the rest of your life, what happens if the person dies? Will you find someone else? If the person you believe to be your soulmates passes away and you move on to someone else then that person wasn't really your soulmate. What do you guys think?
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If 'soulmate' means someone you can love on multiple levels then yes. I've loved people for different reasons -- passion, companionship, etc. Rarely do you find yourself completely enamored by different kinds of love at once. That's what I think it is.

A soulmate is a fluid definition though. What it means for me could be something different for you. How do we define its intensity?
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mxdan wrote:

If 'soulmate' means someone you can love on multiple levels then yes. I've loved people for different reasons -- passion, companionship, etc. Rarely do you find yourself completely enamored by different kinds of love at once. That's what I think it is.

A soulmate is a fluid definition though. What it means for me could be something different for you. How do we define its intensity?


lol that is a really solid answer
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Highly doubt this is the pace to be posting this. Most of the people here are.. you know... :/
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If you're able to love each other completely, flaws and all, then sure there are soulmates.

I don't believe it has anything to do with "destiny" or "the red string of fate" or what have you though.
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The idea of a soulmate is nonsense.

Any person has the potential to be a "soulmate". It's a matter of compatibility and willingness to put in the effort to make the relationship work.
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I would disagree with those who say a 'soul mate' does not exist. My parents are a prime example: together for 35 years and are more in love with each other than I've ever seen. Also, no one said that having a 'soul mate' doesn't mean you don't put in effort! What a crackpot statement.
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Absolutely! I'll have been married to mine in 25 years next Wednesday. Like the X-Files says, they're out there.
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Sure.
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No reason not to I guess
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How fucking silly for a study to assume that a soulmate had to be randomly encountered. I guess it was a decent logical exercise for someone though.

I guess a lot of people have their own ideas of what a soulmate is, and many of those believe that's the only way it has to be. Then a lot of those people use this ideology to say it's a stupid or illogical idea. For those that fit all of that criteria, what a joke! It's a soulmate. It's an abstract idea and yet some people are trying to treat it like a hard science or some psychological phenomenon. You're pointing to a tunnel with no visible exit and scoffing.

I don't really plan on going in to why I believe this. That's not really the point. It's to logically approach an abstract possibility. Imagine redefining your existence as a spirit(soul). Your life had ended quite some time ago and satisfying or not, you want to do the whole meat-bag thing again. You're not alone in it. You had friends when you were human and a fair chance of romantic love and some of them want to go on the journey with you. Wow! What great friends you had! It sure would be nice if with the foresight of a spiritual hierarchy you could choose a number of factors to become a (more or less) predetermined basic structure in said life. Hey! The soul of a previous life's mate wants to give it a good shot with you. So a path to meet is spiritually computed out for the both of you.

With this line of thinking believing that a chance meeting being (more or less) assured isn't that much of a stretch. In this case, the soulmate has already been found compatible and struggled and loved with you before. Calculate in a very likely meeting and there's your good shot at a love spanning beyond life and death.

Not everyone is going to have a soulmate set up for them. Sometimes your romance might play a bigger role in the growth of your partner than yourself. That doesn't mean your choices along the way can't break this structure either. If you believe in reincarnation, then you probably believe the whole idea of rebirth is trying to grow through one's chosen actions in a number of scenarios (with a good chance of those possibly being calculated). Even regarding such, you won't know if you have a soulmate or not in life. So don't hold back your love based on the unknown. If you have a destined love, then you'll probably get your chance.
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People read into the phrase a bit too literally. Most definitions are subjective in this world, so it's whatever you make of it. They could literally be your one and only true love, or just someone you connect with on a personal, romantic, and/or emotional level. In other words, it varies in interpretation and meaning. Some don't believe they exist, others do. But even those that do believe in "soulmates", their perspectives of the phrase might be different.
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Hahahahahahaha no. Nothing is destined or set in stone. You have to make the relationship work. Won't just be magical sadly.
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If you use it as a general term sure, but I don't believe in the sense that there's only one person out there.

We all have our own ranges of personality and appearance we can tolerate in a S.O., people who best fall within that sweet spot make for long relationships.
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