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Post Reply Stranger put her hand on another Woman's belly thinking she pregnant, but its just her Fat Stomach!
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Posted 10/23/17 , edited 10/23/17
Will copy and paste about the woman encounter at Starbucks

A Word Of Advice To The Stranger Who Grabbed My Fat Belly At Starbucks Thinking I Was Pregnant

Hands. Off.

Here are four important facts you need to know about me before we get into the terrible floor-please-open-and-swallow-me-right-now-thank-you thing that happened to me at Starbucks today so that you can fully appreciate just how awful an experience this was.

1. I am fat.

2. I am 34-years-old.

3. I am female.

4. I am not pregnant.

All of these are facts you need to know. Their relevance will be explained shortly as I begin my narrative of these foul events.

Today, while I waited in line at a Starbucks to use the bathroom, a woman I've never met sidled up into line behind me.

She smiled, and I smile back, because that is what you do when someone smiles you. At least, that's something I do that inexplicably hasn't been beaten out of me after over a decade of living in New York City.

I should have known better.

She took my smile as an invitation to talk, you see. I'm not big on chit chat in general. If I'm going to talk to someone I want it to be for a reason, not just because I feel obligated to do so.


Plus, waiting-to-sh*t small talk is infinitely worse than all other small talk because while the two of you are standing there talking about the weather or how long the line is, what you are both tacitly saying to each other is, "I need to pee and/or poop and you need to pee and/or poop, but we're not going to directly address the situation because we are strangers and that would be weird."

That's because the woman in line behind me, having made eye contact with me while baring her teeth in a smile, had been welcomed and received by my own toothsome rejoinder, which she apparently took as an invitation to place both her hands on my gunt (you may say belly, but I'm calling a things like they are today — she put her hands on the place where my gut becomes my c*nt, and thus, is my gunt) and said to me cheerfully:

"Any day now!"

It took me a moment of frantic blushing and blinking to realize what she meant.

She thought I was pregnant.

She had mistaken the gentle swell of my fat stomach, replete with that morning egg and cheese on a roll, with that of a growing new life and decided that my portion of breakfast was so sizable that at any moment my water my break and I might welcome a new addition to my family right there in Starbucks.

To be fair, I'd eaten a lot of cookies the night before, so I can see where she was coming from.

Instinctively, I stepped back and away from her hands. Because that's what you do when a stranger decides to touch you without your permission.

At first, I didn't say anything. I was simply stunned. Her own puzzled expression matched my own.

She tried again. "Coming along, aren't you?"

To which I finally said (well, barked if I'm being honest), "No. There is nothing coming along."

I walked away from the exchange mortified, both for myself and for her. I cringed at the thought of being in her shoes, because, frankly, that was easier than sinking into the shame of knowing that I have surpassed a new marker for fat women: Being the one who gets mistaken as pregnant because she cannot keep her fat self from eating.

I poked at the shame I felt and was surprised when it melted away into something else: White. Hot. Rage.

Here's the thing. It doesn't matter if I'm fat. It doesn't matter if I'm thin. It doesn't matter if you think I'm pregnant or not.

Regardless of my shape or whatever happens to be growing inside of me, be it baby or burrito, my body — and any woman's body — is not yours to talk about or to touch. Ever!

I get it. People love babies. And they hate fat people.


When you see a fat person and think they are pregnant, that concept makes their "fatness" totally okay. It also gives people the false illusion that their thoughts, opinions, and hands are somehow on the receiving end of a standing invitation when it comes to a pregnant body.

Chances are that this woman didn't seek me out to destroy my day or to paw at the dangling raw nerve system that is my self-esteem. Chances are she thought that she was being nice, sweet, and even polite!

But the truth of the matter is that we as a society have so little respect for women's bodies that even other women often don't stop and think twice before invading another woman's personal space and/or making comments about her body as though it is all that she is and all she has to offer.

I'm 34.

I'm fat.

I'm not pregnant, but I do hope to be pregnant someday.

Ideally, the next time someone makes a comment about my expectant belly there will be something my belly is actually expecting to give birth to in it. But even if that is the case, it STILL will NOT be okay to comment on or touch it!

Source: https://www.yourtango.com/2017306554/advice-strangers-touch-stomach-comment-pregnant-because-fat-belly
Posted 10/23/17 , edited 10/23/17
Wow. That is.. Hmm.
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AtropaB wrote:

Wow. That is.. Hmm.



Yea, Hopefully PV is reading this, so he doesn't make mistake! :p Also Fred! XD

I agree with her that strangers shouldn't just walk up and touch someone belly just because they assumed she is pregnant... I find that creepy that anyone can just walk up and touch your belly! >.<
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just putting your hand on a stranger unasked should get you punched
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Had a man done it he'd be in prison
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omg can't breath... lmfao
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camay1997 wrote:

Had a man done it he'd be in prison



Man actually do that? I never heard of man doing something like that...

You gotta admit... It does sound sting (Hurt) Imagine that you're female and you're overweight.. and someone walk up and place their hand on you, thinking you're having baby OUCH! lol I bet she never thought it'll happen to her or anyone thinking she having baby. She must be severely overweight! >.<
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I've never made that mistake after mother told me about the embarrassing time she asked a colleague if she was expecting. Even if the woman was pregnant, no one has the right to touch her without her expressive permission. That's her personal space and body. I've heard many pregnant women complain about strangers touching their gravid bellies. I've got nieces and nephews from my sisters and I never touched their bellies.

At the other end there's pregnant women getting disapproving looks and comments that maybe they should eat less and be more active because others thought their big bellies was fat.

You don't necessarily have to be severely overweight to have a big tummy. Some body shapes tend to get a lot of fat there first. Some can gain weight and never be mistaken for pregnant. There's even pregnant women who don't look it almost up to the due date.
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We had a party last Friday at my place. I invited a friend (or rather a mom who's daughter is friends with my daughter) and I hadn't seen her in almost a year.

She had a bump but initially didn't say she was pregnant. The thing is she's always been in good shape so I assumed she was pregnant. But myself and my other guests didn't say anything in fear of her not being pregnant. It turns out she is but for half the night I wasn't sure. If you're not sure don't say shit.

My wife was totally oblivious the entire night. So when she told everyone my wife's mind was blown. I was like "honey, did you not see her stomach? It was pretty freakin' obvious" She said she didn't even notice.
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Posted 10/23/17 , edited 10/23/17
I once commented on a woman being pregnant....she wasn't.


I felt horrible.
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I've had people ask if I was pregnant on several occasions, and took it in stride depending on the situation. I carry my fat in my belly and my lower abdomen had swelled due to a benign non-lethal medical issue that hadn't been addressed because had no idea at the time. So I did look like I was four months along

One time I was in the baby section getting something for a coworker's baby shower and another mother asked was having a girl. I said no and she apologized and we were polite about it. No harm no foul because she didn't know and I was buying baby clothes.

Another one was a woman who came to me and said "You got yourself a big ol' bun in the oven! You look like you're about to pop!" in a very obnoxious tone as if it was funny. I shook my head and the lady refused that as an answer. the man in line behind her had the 'oh shit' look. I was working the front register and had a line and my coworkers stopped what they were doing and looked at me.. So instead of getting mad at her attitude,it replied with a big smile "Actually I got four buns in this oven! Buy one get one free burgers at Arby's! Here's your change! Have a great day!" She walked off in a huff without apologizing. I could have handled it better but I was preventing the same rage as the woman in the article.

If someone put their hands on me, I would have lost it. You just don't do that to strangers. And I have a problem with being touched by people I don't know. Given the situation, walking off was probably the best way to handle it.
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Posted 10/23/17 , edited 11/1/17

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omg can't breath... lmfao


^ This

When your so fat people think your pregnant then its time to lose weight.
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Posted 10/23/17 , edited 10/24/17
LMAO that's hilarious. Why would you let yourself get that fat to the point where it looks like you're pregnant. No excuse. She should take it as a motivational starting point.
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Posted 10/23/17 , edited 10/24/17
While I am on the fence about the touching part(especially since your supposed to rub Buddah's belly for good luck) at least the author realizes and was mortified that her eating habits are problematic.
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JanusCascade wrote:
Here are four important facts you need to know about me before we get into the terrible floor-please-open-and-swallow-me-right-now-thank-you thing that happened to me at Starbucks today so that you can fully appreciate just how awful an experience this was.

1. I am fat.

2. I am 34-years-old.

3. I am female.

4. I am not pregnant.

All of these are facts you need to know.


Well, THOSE should all help your glorious conquests for the Empire, "Marcus".
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