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I make them go away with my intent or mind.
Posted 1/30/18 , edited 2/24/18
Deploy that commandline argument:
How cute you are!
You've worked hard. Well done!
You have to say it softly snd kindly.


She just wants to be praised. I know someone like the girl you're talking about. The more she likes somebody the more she annoys that person and those people just treat her coldly. You don't want her to think you're friends but you also want to make her feel at ease so she wouldn't try so hard.
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Give her the nunchucks ಠ_ಠ
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Rinnybean wrote:

There's this girl in work who is really nice but she does not stop talking about herself and interrupts everyone all the time, and the staff break room is not pleasant when she is there. She's very loud too and attention seeking, I'd be in the middle of a story and she'd interrupt like "OH I DID THAT..." then continue to talk about her and by the time she's done the conversation has changed. Anyway I deal with it by nodding along but in my mind I'm smothering her with a bread roll...



Good thing I'm hard of hearing (stone deaf if I turn off the hearing aids :p), all I have to do is turned off my hearing aids and wouldn't hear a words she said! j/k
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AnimeAddictANN69 wrote:

girl in work? you are not talking about dating sim game right ?


I like The Sims but I'm much too busy burning them alive or drowning them in their own pool to make up imaginary friendships with them thank you.
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Posted 1/31/18 , edited 2/3/18
If she starts talkin again, just get up and turn the other cheek...



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Just tell them. Something none of you are capable of.
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Tell them to leave me alone as much as possible and focus on the task at hand.
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Focus on the task at hand and ride pones.
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In a personal setting, I would respond "Our conversation wasn't important. We really want to hear what you have to say". Would only work though, if they are bright enough to understand sarcasm.

At work, my answer is quite different. I am going to assume you are not in management our else we wouldn't be having this discussion. Managers have to have their staff working well together as a team which means you have to routinely deal with these types of issues. An account manager also has to deal with customers, which are much worse than co-workers. As an employer, if I got a whiff that you felt this way about a co-worker, I would not promote you to manager.

I think you should look at this as a career opportunity. My wife is similar to your co-worker. When she gets nervous, she talks a mile a minute and she gets nervous when she feels she doesn't belong. I suspect your co-worker is feeling isolated. My suggestion would be to invite her to lunch, one on one. Not in a group. If she just talks about herself, that's fine. Sharpen up your listener skills. It would not be a bad thing to have a reputation as a good listener. At some point, she will run out of things to say about herself and to keep the conversation going, will ask about you and then normal conversation commences. It might take a few lunches to get there, but you will get there. It is also not a bad thing to build a reputation for being able to get along with difficult people. That will make you management material.
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Posted 1/31/18 , edited 2/3/18
Spit venom in their face then hide under nearby furniture in the confusion.
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I really can’t stand my little sister. As an older sibling, I know that I am somewhat a role model to her, and she has started copying me in the way she dresses and keeps her room and does her hair. I know she hasn’t found a style of her own yet, which is why I just try to roll with it, tho honestly that copying is what I find the most annoying about her I try to act like a decent, patient, kind, etc. girl around her in hopes that she will learn to act that way herself. But let me tell you, sometimes it’s soooo hard not to lash out at her...
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I tune them out and not allow them to affect me.
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Posted 2/12/18 , edited 2/12/18
I knew someone like that. I told them they talk about themselves too much and they basically stopped talking (to me at least) ever since.
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Posted 2/12/18 , edited 2/12/18
When its a co-worker its a tough one. The best thing you can do is take comfort in the fact that its likely your other co-workers feel the same about her!

I have told a co-worker to be quiet before, but I was polite-ish about it (if not clearly stressed). Was trying to listen in to a conference call on the phone, and he kept yelling and laughing on the next desk (despite having been reminded a few times that myself and others were on this call), eventually I snapped and said curtly, "Well you please be quiet for 5 minutes!" and pointed to my phone.

The upshot of this is that after that he was better behaved in general with his volume, but if he ever got too loud he'd normally realise and snarkily say "Ooop, better keep it down!" with that kind of false humour. Either way, my office was quieter.
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