Post Reply Need to figure out how to live again
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Ive spent the last 6 years in a relationship with the most fantastic woman on earth. We broke up on the 4th of November. She claimed she couldnt be what i wanted her to be and that she needed time on her own to change. But thats not what matters, What matters is i was a bit of a husbando, she worked and i cleaned took care of the house and cooked and stuff but now that shes gone ive just drank for the last 3 days straight, i think i had a fast food chicken burger at some point but i dont really remember. How do you live after loosing the person you devoted yourself to for so long. Maybe recommend some anime or activities or online communities. Im really lost.
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My first advice is to put down the bottle. I know the username makes me sound like a hypocrite, but it's only going to make you feel worse in the long run. I nearly drank myself to death when my last relationship ended and things did NOT go well for me. Secondly, I recommend you not dwell on the past. Work to better yourself. Exercise, try to learn a new language, or just take a class in something you're interested in. Don't just wallow in your own pain. It's a deep, dark hole that will be difficult for you to drag yourself out of.

Also give the girl her space. If she needs time on her own to change, let her do her thing. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. You never know, she might come back but don't count on it. Give yourself a little time to adjust to the single life and then get out there and start talking to some other girls, if only to get your self-confidence back.

Time heals all wounds, and although it might seem like the end of the world right now, you will feel better eventually. Good luck dude.
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Life has no meaning and we're all going to die and spend an eternity in nothingness.Hope this helps.

Sending love your way.
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Thanks Drunkkanti and ronin99 although ronin if i wanted nihilism i woulda watched the big Lebowski for the 80th time
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Have a read or three through the Gospel of John.

Sign up for Habitica and set some goals and have fun.

Get out and see people and spend time with them.
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karatecowboy wrote:

Have a read or three through the Gospel of John.

Sign up for Habitica and set some goals and have fun.

Get out and see people and spend time with them.


Wow lol, i had no idea that there was a manga of the bible. Im not being sarcastic there actually is.
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Toothy_Jones wrote:

Wow lol, i had no idea that there was a manga of the bible. Im not being sarcastic there actually is.


Yah I've heard of it. Didn't read the manga version because I read 'the novel'. I hear the author is a lot like George RR Martin, killing off his main characters left and right.
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Women want a man and men are suppose to provide for the family. You need to go out and make something of yourself. If you cannot provide for your family then no women will want to stay with you.
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jewishrapscallion wrote:

Women want a man and men are suppose to provide for the family. You need to go out and make something of yourself. If you cannot provide for your family then no women will want to stay with you.


Nah women that want that kind of guy are shallow and tend to be simple minded. Not my thing.
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I don't know. I've never had someone like that.
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Watch Mushi-shi if you want to reeaaaaalllly chill out.

Natsume Yujin-cho for warm highschool friend times and empathy.

Haikyu!! if you want something motivational with dramatic arcs but not romance. I used to watch 2-3 eps of Haikyu before going to the gym.
Ping Pong the Animation is in a similar category but not in the moe style - it's in a league of its own and the characters are a bit older.

March Comes in like a Lion is one half cute therapy and one half sad times.

Monthly Girls' Nozaki-kun or Haven't You Heard I'm Sakamoto for some really sarcastic comedy. Seitokai Yakuindomo for lewd jokes.

Recently I have enjoyed reading the slice of life manga Shirogane no Nina about a Finnish girl who moves to the Japanese countryside.
I also enjoyed reading Hakoiri Drops - lighthearted 4 panel highschool comedy.
Heck, if manga is on the table I have to throw down for Hakumei and Dungeon Meshi too. Hakumei might be the highest recommendation of all.

If you need a good cry instead maybe Clannad? Not sure how well its aged. Toradora also has some drama but it's not the smoothest ride.

Watch out for Makoto Shinkai movies if you don't already know though.. seriously avoid them for a while..
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Use this time to reflect and strengthen yourself mentally.
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Toothy_Jones wrote:


jewishrapscallion wrote:

Women want a man and men are suppose to provide for the family. You need to go out and make something of yourself. If you cannot provide for your family then no women will want to stay with you.


Nah women that want that kind of guy are shallow and tend to be simple minded. Not my thing.


Men provide for the family. Women expect it even if they don't say it. Read if you want http://www.artofmanliness.com/2011/06/20/the-5-switches-of-manliness-provide/
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