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The first time you fell in love
Posted 11/17/17
Hey guys. A contest of sorts. Describe for us:

The first time you met someone you were infatuated with , the feeling of it. Did it work out , and if not, did you find someone better who can appreciate you? Still keep hope if not.

Good luck!


(When I fell in love with my first boyfriend, a felt a sense of calm just being near, it was beautiful, and although we went on our separate ways, I still remember fondly those days..)



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Posted 11/17/17
Love isn't real.
Posted 11/17/17

HateKillingCamels wrote:

Love isn't real.


It was for me.
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Posted 11/17/17 , edited 11/17/17
I can't remember. And I can't remember what it felt like the first time I felt it, except that I probably did things that would only embarrass myself if I look back on them now.

But as far back as two years ago, I would sometimes become wildly infatuated with someone I had just met. The feeling is a kind of madness, and not something I would want to repeat. (I don't feel it anymore, which is a good thing.) The closest thing I can approximate it with is that ... it feels like spring. (See song below.) There's a surging feeling of endless wonderment. Everything seems new and wonderful and delightful. The area around the chest feels light and aches slightly, and the feeling in the mouth is ... airy, like one is constantly eating tiramisu.

This is the song that approximates the feeling of love the most closely, I feel. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DgUEXe019l0

It's not unpleasant, but it's a kind of madness, and I wouldn't want to repeat it again. As for what I would like in a relationship now, I prefer feelings of contentment and comfort. Even if a relationship starts out with love, it doesn't last anyway and has to turn into something else, like contentment and comfort, in order to last.

There's a term in Japanese for pure, innocent love that young people first feel when they fall in love: junai. I think what I have described is what junai feels like. When people become more tainted by the world, love feels possessive--in the sense that the person feeling it becomes "possessed" by love, and also being "possessive" of the person they desire.

Edit: I've never seen the show this song is from, but I like this one too. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wsNqtuDGqRY

And this one. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=btWIS4ET0W0

I don't listen to them regularly--only on special occasions.

and this one too: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6un5ym6wbII
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Posted 11/18/17
its hard to remember the happy times.
i fell in love with the wrong person. and it hurt. it still hurts. it will always hurt.
and becase i love them, i will still always give them everything, no matter how much it hurts.
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Posted 11/18/17

Madamspica wrote:


HateKillingCamels wrote:

Love isn't real.


It was for me.


For how long did it last?
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Posted 11/18/17

mittemeyer wrote:
I can't remember. And I can't remember what it felt like the first time I felt it, except that I probably did things that would only embarrass myself if I look back on them now.


Which is why you don't remember. (cough)

I know I don't remember clearly either and I'm equally thankful for the same reason.

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All my experiences with love have been negative. I have not (personally) known of one relationship, be it family or otherwise that was not abusive or controlling in some manner or form. So I kinda try to avoid the subject all together. Much better to surround myself with books and cute animals.
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Posted 11/18/17
I first experienced real love at age 19. I had crushes before then, but they were super shallow. This was with my BFF. Months before I had trusted her enough to come out to her - something I hadn't really done with anyone off of the internet except for my mom. It went well, and then I developed feelings for her. We got into a relationship and I fell hard. Being best friends, we were already super compatible. She felt like family to me.

It's long over now, and we don't even talk anymore for reasons I don't even know. So, you could say, love screwed that up really bad. But I'm not sure we would be friends anymore either way, so I don't know.
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Posted 11/18/17 , edited 11/18/17

runec wrote:
I know I don't remember clearly either and I'm equally thankful for the same reason.


If only we could remember other people's experiences. Those are the ones that are interesting, especially when they are embarrassing. One's own, less so.
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Posted 11/18/17
Meh, it was a disaster. He ignored me when I tried to confess so I finally gave up. Many years later I met my boyfriend who I'm marrying next summer.
Posted 11/18/17

JanusCascade wrote:


Madamspica wrote:


HateKillingCamels wrote:

Love isn't real.


It was for me.


For how long did it last?


For about a year and then we kind of drifted apart. Actually he fell in love with someone else.. however it was for the best, I found someone better which softened the blow.
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Posted 11/18/17
It happened several months ago, but she was too busy for me even when we were together. It even drained out my energy to search for a relationship (for now). Oh well, I've got my work and entertainment to keep me well.
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Posted 11/18/17
Changed my life forever.
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Posted 11/18/17 , edited 11/26/17
I don't know.I have so many waifus,i don't remember the first one I fell in love with.
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