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Posted 12/18/17 , edited 12/18/17

AedonBlackheart wrote:

I myself am very similar to you. I have never felt any sort of attachment to my family, despite knowing who they are to me. I've always doubted if I ever felt love because I never knew what it was like to feel loved. I wonder if theres even a point of trying. Is it really necessary?


I personally don't think it's necessary to go out and find love. If you go out in search of something that you don't understand you'll end up most likely finding a false belief of what love is. I see it as less of something that's less of a necessity and more of something that's a pleasant surprise when it comes along.
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Do you care for someone so much you'd sacrifice the thing you consider most important for them?
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Think about whether or not you'd be sad if they died. If you'd be sad, even a just a little bit, then you care about them to some degree. How much you actually care is something random strangers on the internet cannot answer. Whether or not you'd call your degree of caring "love" is up to you.
Posted 12/20/17 , edited 12/20/17
Love is when you're willing to do anything for a person even if it hurts you. When their happiness is yours and their sadness is yours.
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AedonBlackheart wrote:

I myself am very similar to you. I have never felt any sort of attachment to my family, despite knowing who they are to me. I've always doubted if I ever felt love because I never knew what it was like to feel loved. I wonder if theres even a point of trying. Is it really necessary?


I completely understand what you mean. More than not feeling love towards my family, I also don't know what it's like to be loved. They say the love me, and I know in my head that they do... But at the same time, not really? If that makes sense... I mean if you asked me right now if my family (or anyone) loves or has loved me, the answer would be no. And no, I do not believe there's much of a point in trying.

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Potentsaliva wrote:


Vahvi wrote:

Love is when you brush your teeth for someone


I thought it was when you brush someone elses teeth.


Thank you SO much for this you guys, this made my day

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llunga wrote:


Comfortably numb


Yes
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Kito97 wrote:

This is a hard question for everyone to answer so I dont know why you would ask it but okay. Heres my answer if its any use (doubting that you will even read it)

Thats a question that cannot be defined because everyone experiences differnet kindsa love because their expiriences are diffenerent depending on the person.
I would personally say sometimes it can be blunt and stupid
Sometimes you just want to die
Sometimes its great
But if you get through the pain to the finish line you can have happiness for a short time
((a short time got that because Ill get too depressed from your success and my failure ofc)I mean otaku arent really meant to be popular haha))


Well, I read it and I was not asking for a definitive answer or the RIGHT answer, I literally just wanted input from whoever wanted to give it, and that's what I've been getting so far. And I appreciate all of it
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ZetsubouShoujo wrote:


Potentsaliva wrote:


Vahvi wrote:

Love is when you brush your teeth for someone


I thought it was when you brush someone elses teeth.


Thank you SO much for this you guys, this made my day



My pleasure
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niotabunny wrote:
in the end, if you can't tolerate being around yourself, then it is going to be complicated settling down with one person.


And you know, this is, I think, is the core of the issue. I realized a long time ago that I cannot tolerate being around myself. When I was living with my family I never realized it, because I rarely had silence. But when I started living alone, there was nothing but silence and me. And that broke me.


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I don't mean to be confrontational, but I recommend ignoring the "love thyself" bull and the "those who haven't loved have never lived" nonsense. Pretty but empty words, all. I've seen the world, experienced plenty, and already lived more than I ever wanted to; this, all without "love" for anything more than vidya games and anime. Live your life however you see fit; you're the one who will be confronted by it and left judging yourself in the end (barring an abrupt unexpected demise).


I do understand where you're coming from, but are you actually content with your life? Also not trying to be confrontational, I'm legitimately curious. If you don't buy into the whole "love thyself" ("those who haven't loved have never lived" are words I also believe to be empty, by the way), then do you actually enjoy your life of loving games and anime?
Because I do enjoy anime and manga and games, but when I finish an episode, volume or level, I go back to feeling nothing. I can't even say I LOVE these things because they only provide temporary solace. I guess what I mean is that I agree that I will be the one to decide and judge how to live my life, but I feel like if I were to die right now, I'd think what a waste of life this was. Would you be pleased with your life if that were the case?

Aaaah, I wish I could reply to all of these, but I'm just spamming my own thread, haha...

Thanks so much everyone for replying and sharing your thoughts and experiences :)
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yagi86 wrote:

it is like you think about the other person all the time and you want nothing more than to be with them and spend time with them and you want to see them happy and never sad, it breaks your heart to see them sad or hurt. and you'll do anything to be with them and you can't imagine life without them


That's infatuation and imposing your ideas of someone else's desires upon them.
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Posted 12/20/17 , edited 12/21/17

koakoakoakoakoakoakoakoakoa wrote:

First, you need a definition of what love IS.

I don't think you'll find a concrete one.

Don't stress it man.

This society puts way too much emphasis on loving another, when we rarely get to the crux of what's real, which is:

Love yourself.


There's a LOT of people on here that are already into self love....
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It feels like a beej of the heart...
Posted 12/20/17 , edited 12/21/17
it isn't real
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