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What if you had an extremely open-minded family?
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Imagine having a family that is highly open-minded. Would that be a good thing for you or a bad thing?


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Hmm, coming from a incredibly close minded family, I like to think it'd be cool.
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IMO that will be a good thing since you'll all be able to openly discuss various issues without having the anxiousness to open up especially on sensitive stuff. Being open minded doesn't mean they'll let you do whatever you want, of course there are still boundaries to be set up in things you can and can't do. It just means you can discuss it with them and have a chance of getting what you want to do or able to get some good advice if it comes to personal matters.

Like me for example, I'm in a relationship with a girl whose open minded and due to this we avoid fights or nagging. Basically we both sit down and discuss what went wrong that lead to a certain outcome or decision. My family though is not open minded so i had a hard time dealing with growing up before since i can't discuss growing up problems with them and had to face them alone or with a friends help or advise.

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libresse wrote:

IMO that will be a good thing since you'll all be able to openly discuss various issues without having the anxiousness to open up especially on sensitive stuff. Being open minded doesn't mean they'll let you do whatever you want, of course there are still boundaries to be set up in things you can and can't do. It just means you can discuss it with them and have a chance of getting what you want to do or able to get some good advice if it comes to personal matters.

Like me for example, I'm in a relationship with a girl whose open minded and due to this we avoid fights or nagging. Basically we both sit down and discuss what went wrong that lead to a certain outcome or decision. My family though is not open minded so i had a hard time dealing with growing up before since i can't discuss growing up problems with them and had to face them alone or with a friends help or advise.

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That makes sense. Thank you.
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Growing up on a close minded family pushed me to be open minded and will raise a family that is open minded. Another thing is that it's hard to have a discussion or debate with someone whose close minded. You usually get nowhere when debating with someone close minded.
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It would be an extremely good thing instead of a family who told me they hoped I would go die alone in the streets somewhere. OR a family who told me that the new wife will always come before the child if you want to have a successful marriage. Or accuse you of trying to steal your father away for yourself. OR tell you a whole bunch of things like "your mother would still be alive if you weren't born/being born early means you will probably die early/no one obviously wants to be with you unless its to steal money from you.

On a side note: yes I haven't talked to them in years.
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since my parents (of whom that's all that matters to me) are open minded, then no there's no problem at all in this situation. I'd find a close minded family to be the worst, unable to tell them anything. depending on the parents they could be abusive and what not.
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Bad, overall. They're my family, and I'd much rather they be themselves, as oppose to being soulless imposters. I am vehemently opposed to the common belief that "open-minded" is some magical cure-all for what is essentially the human condition. I also consider it almost poetically ironic to hypothetically wield "open-minded" as a tool for veritable brain-washing. Unfortunate implications and hypocrisy, and all that jazz. It's kind of funny how "open-minded" can be corrupted.
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Well a 1/3rd of my family could be considered pretty open minded since I'm pretty sure their skull at this point is quite hallow
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Well, like they don't care what I do as long as I'm not in jail. They are realists like me.

But are they open minded? Their views are pretty similar to mine, but not as in depth and soul crushing

Like for example( this sums up how open minded my family is), if I was gay or Trans, I don't think they would accept that fully. They would probably understand, but like my views they would still hold that stance towards it, but since I'm their son, family comes first regardless of such a situation.

My Mom is more caring and just hopes for the best from you, she doesn't like when people start bullying because of a Title, or name calling so to speak, and that's where my Dad comes in to occasionally mock them, and the banter would begin. My Dad would probably show no care on the matter, but deep down inside he would feel some disappointment, but he would never truly show it. So this is basically me in a nut shell, which is why you'll sometimes see my responses as either not giving a shit to what I say, to actually taking a caring approach, which allows me to suffer from guilt every time I feel like I pushed things to far, but always standing my ground. Best of both worlds. But if they deserve it, they deserve it, I can't feel sorry for you when I make that final decision, and that's exactly the way my family functions. The Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. This applies to most scenarios.

Open minded in a sense that they would still accept me as their son. Where if I was in jail they wouldn't Bail me out, but make me learn, and still accept me as their son. You know, like any real parent would do.

Being open minded is good, but for my family I'm sure there is that line in which you do not cross. That's the way I see it as well

Deep down. I'm just a big softy, even though I seem like such an asshole.
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But being the patriarch of my family I consider myself open minded.

Be yourself kids.
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I fall more in the middle of this. My folks were open-minded to an extent. But that's because I'm not doing drugs and didn't get pregnant at 15. If that happened, I'm sure I would get kicked out. They were forceful on me when it came to my schooling which I always rebelled against. (I'm not a genius in a lot of subjects and I didn't apply myself in class. And now I'm paying for it.) But just in general, we could discuss things with each other,

My mom was more difficult to deal with because she grew up old school girly in the 60s. Look pretty, marry man who will take care of you and buy you things, and make lots of babies! She wanted a girl so she could have a girly daughter just like her. Be the most popular cheerleader prom queen in town. And I'm what she got! We were always at odds.

Dad was more easygoing. You can be your nerdy self and I still am proud of you. Just do better in school!

Not really black and white when it comes to the original question. I personally would prefer open-minded parents.
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weeds on major holidays?
porn movie instead of christmas carol?
family with all members with a criminal history?
life should be free so take whatever you want
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That would be kind of cool actually. I can smoke my weed in the house, drink in the house, and wear whatever I want, etc.
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Having an open-minded family would be great as long as they also have the maturity to openly understand new concepts, be approachable without the fear of getting into an argument, and not to use any new information against the person later.
Coming from a highly religious and strict family, it's difficult to broach any subject without getting into an argument.
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