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Posted 4/8/18 , edited 4/8/18

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You say you need to meet someone interesting, but you don’t seem too interesting yourself. It takes effort to meet someone and to stay with someone. You need to show interest even if there isn’t any. It’s how you do it at work and in school too, right? Put on a happy face. You’ll eventually find someone to share your interests with.
I suggest you stop trying to find friends online and in games. They won’t be your lifelong friends. Go outside. Find other hobbies. There are more in life than xbox and playstation.

Good luck


I don't think I said that though. I want to find people who share my interests within games and anime, because when part of your life revolves around something you want to share it with someone. I don't label people as interesting or not. I don't really care what other people do.

Also you are jumping the gun here. I never said my only interests are video games. I spend time doing other things outside the house as well (I know right). I'm a gym rat, and I love driving and meching on cars. I also play american football.
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Why do you think I barely have any friends.

The only person that really gets me is myself. I just live that person people want to hear when I'm around them, but only people older than 40 I can really talk to.

I guess it's just listening to experience, and saying something worth while.

I can't sit down anymore and just talk about life with anyone. Am I interesting? No, and that's just fine with me, I don't need to stand on my head for anyone

I can't talk about drawing with anyone, music, art, because in the end nobody really cares, they just want to laugh, and I don't think I can do that everyday, my life is just too simple. I want to sit on a boat out on the water, or go hiking and see nature.

Oh well, like I said, I get me and that's enough for now


Yeah I get you. I also feel like people around me only want to laugh. Irrelevant small talk, laughing and drinking. That's basically life for people our age, it seems. The part about being on the water, or just seeing nature in general is also true for me. Can't explain it. It's like, we spend a lot of time around other people whom we don't know, understand, or care about when we are out in public. Then sometimes, most of the time, I want to be somewhere else. Somewhere quiet, with no people just so I can be myself and get lost in my own thoughts.

I guess there actually are a lot of people like that, who struggle to find others like them. So they just choose to be lonely untill they can find them. Sad, I know. Probably sounds like rubbish as well to some people, but we don't care what they think, because that is reality.
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Posted 4/8/18 , edited 4/8/18

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I feel the same way. As if im sort of unique creature that is different from the others around me. My interests are strange and unusual and it's quite hard to find someone of unique passions, even on such a diversified plane such as the internet.


Try this instead: I see and meet alot of people who know and care about each other, but I don't have that myself. So it gets lonely. I tried going to a cosplay convention twice, hoping to get to know someone. Sadly it seems I don't know how to stop being a loner, so that didn't happen. My point is merely that I wish I could actually have someone in my life whom I can do things with. I'm not unique, I'm lonely.

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Posted 4/8/18 , edited 4/8/18

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hey! you're not alone, and from someone with experience in this, don't bottle it up and keep it in your cupboard for years.( i tried and it's not working believe me.) I know it can be hard to do, but, to get help one must first seek it. have you tried joining discussion group? or group therapy? those could be good for you right now.

Best of luck to you my friend


Hehe, I appreciate the advice. I don't need that though. Even though I feel lonely, I accept reality for what it is. It's like, you can endure a nuisance for as long as you choose to, but it would be nice if it went away.

The feeling of being lonely isn't constant though, it comes and goes.
You know those moments when you immerse yourself in something, or stuff happens that make you smile. That's when this little voice comes and whispers in your ear "Looks like you are enjoying yourself. Such a shame no ones here to experience it with you".

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Humms wrote:

Why do you think I barely have any friends.

The only person that really gets me is myself. I just live that person people want to hear when I'm around them, but only people older than 40 I can really talk to.

I guess it's just listening to experience, and saying something worth while.

I can't sit down anymore and just talk about life with anyone. Am I interesting? No, and that's just fine with me, I don't need to stand on my head for anyone

I can't talk about drawing with anyone, music, art, because in the end nobody really cares, they just want to laugh, and I don't think I can do that everyday, my life is just too simple. I want to sit on a boat out on the water, or go hiking and see nature.

Oh well, like I said, I get me and that's enough for now


Yeah I get you. I also feel like people around me only want to laugh. Irrelevant small talk, laughing and drinking. That's basically life for people our age, it seems. The part about being on the water, or just seeing nature in general is also true for me. Can't explain it. It's like, we spend a lot of time around other people whom we don't know, understand, or care about when we are out in public. Then sometimes, most of the time, I want to be somewhere else. Somewhere quiet, with no people just so I can be myself and get lost in my own thoughts.

I guess there actually are a lot of people like that, who struggle to find others like them. So they just choose to be lonely untill they can find them. Sad, I know. Probably sounds like rubbish as well to some people, but we don't care what they think, because that is reality.


The reality is that there are people out there willing to talk to people like us.

I can make an effort, but I don't, because I know I will grow distant to others. I do it all the time.

I am reliable, dependant, but when it's hanging out or just having some fun, I just ignore people.

I just don't know what to talk about around people. Honestly, if I have some good material before hand, I could be charming , maybe even funny. Some people just want to joke around, I get it, it lightens the mood, it opens people up. Make a girl laugh, no greater feeling, I get it

But when the cards are down, and the faces have revealed themselves. I'd be out there, away from you, away from everything; with nothing but the sound of nature. Without worrying about what kind of person I need to be, I would be working on what kind of person I was born to be.

I get it. If we don't look, we will never find . If we never try, we will never live, we will never learn. If we accept who we are we will never accept who we might become. Power, meaning, dignity.

Life is yours brother, so take it
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I did a google and found you have the Torucon 2018 convention in Norway on August 11th-12th! There may be others. You should go. They will all be your people. I've been like you all my life, just burying myself in work to not think about it. Then, I decided I needed to have a life and went to an anime convention to remind myself what fun was like. They were all my people. I felt at home there. That was where they were hiding all that time. Again, you should go.
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The reality is that there are people out there willing to talk to people like us.

I can make an effort, but I don't, because I know I will grow distant to others. I do it all the time.

I am reliable, dependant, but when it's hanging out or just having some fun, I just ignore people.

I just don't know what to talk about around people. Honestly, if I have some good material before hand, I could be charming , maybe even funny. Some people just want to joke around, I get it, it lightens the mood, it opens people up. Make a girl laugh, no greater feeling, I get it

But when the cards are down, and the faces have revealed themselves. I'd be out there, away from you, away from everything; with nothing but the sound of nature. Without worrying about what kind of person I need to be, I would be working on what kind of person I was born to be.

I get it. If we don't look, we will never find . If we never try, we will never live, we will never learn. If we accept who we are we will never accept who we might become. Power, meaning, dignity.

Life is yours brother, so take it


I used to be like that. Had no clue how to socialise, but then I joined a uni and things got a little easier for me. I still feel awkward though, but it's way better than it used to be. Thank you for telling me, I appreciate it.
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Posted 4/13/18 , edited 4/13/18

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I did a google and found you have the Torucon 2018 convention in Norway on August 11th-12th! There may be others. You should go. They will all be your people. I've been like you all my life, just burying myself in work to not think about it. Then, I decided I needed to have a life and went to an anime convention to remind myself what fun was like. They were all my people. I felt at home there. That was where they were hiding all that time. Again, you should go.


I did go to a con twice hoping to meet people, however this was back when I was way more socially awkard than I am now. I basically walked around for two days not talking to anyone. At least I bought a "free hugs" button and I got to see some small talk through that. Maybe I'll try again.
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Same here, I can send you my discord if youre interested.
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Posted 4/24/18 , edited 4/24/18
I wasn't logged in, but went and logged in just to reply to this, although I'm not sure I actually have anything worthwhile to say. I really relate to all your posts in this thread. There are so many people in the world, you know there have to be others who have it the same as you, yet they seem so impossible to find. Around me, I just see so many people who have all their friends for drinking, partying, and popular video games, and that's about all they talk about. Since I'm not into any of those things, it feels like there's no one for me. And even if someone might be into something I kind of like... see below.


Antero94 wrote:
I always feel like I have to initiate if I want to have a conversation, or spend time with someone. If I end up initiating every time, then is that person really interested in me? I don't think so. So I don't bother with people who don't attempt to initiate anything back.


This is relatable. Back in high school, I got into a very popular webcomic and made some "friends" at school and outside of it, through that, but it seemed like more often than not it was me who had to take the initiative, and usually others weren't always responsive to it. Looking back, it makes me feel like there's just no hope for me.
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I wasn't logged in, but went and logged in just to reply to this, although I'm not sure I actually have anything worthwhile to say. I really relate to all your posts in this thread. There are so many people in the world, you know there have to be others who have it the same as you, yet they seem so impossible to find. Around me, I just see so many people who have all their friends for drinking, partying, and popular video games, and that's about all they talk about. Since I'm not into any of those things, it feels like there's no one for me. And even if someone might be into something I kind of like... see below.


I think it is more important to have someone to talk to, if you are used to being alone, like I am. I don't neccessarily long for people to spend time with, but rather someone I can talk passionately with about similar interests. You know that feeling when you see something funny in an anime and you want to share it with someone? When that happens I have this urge to tell someone about it, even show it on snap. At the end of the thought I always realize that I don't really know anyone who would care.

It's okay that you're not into those things, however, I assume you care a lot about anime. One of the people who replied to me gave me an invite to a discord server. It's only 3 people there atm, but I would like to invite other people who want someone to talk to. Send me a message if you want an invite

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Posted 4/24/18 , edited 4/25/18
I'll be your comrade! Everyone is lonely in their own way and together we can eliminate those pesky thoughts!
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Add half of active users on Cr, talk to them, delete the ones you dislike or feel that aren't interesting enough and ta-dah! You might have find a worthy friend or at least buddy.
Posted 5/5/18 , edited 5/6/18
My feelings cool off pretty quickly but it would be nice to share my thoughts with a robot
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Friends no.
I don't want friends, I want good friends.
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