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Posted 2/16/12

Fusev wrote:

I say dig deeper into yourself and why you feel so loney and have this need to be attached to someone. Its really sad if you fall for someone who doesn't feel the same way...Me? Yeah...for me there is always some other guy attached to the girl I fall for...its a bit soul crushing but for me as long as I know they know how I feel I can move forward knowing that they just didn't feel the same way. For me its always been just enjoy the time you spend with someone while you can.
Looking into why I get attached to people...
Mainly because I've spent a lot of time on my own...pushing for results...taking criticism, no real friends or family... every girl using you to get with your brother, family regecting you and having no one to talk to about how you really are...so you put on this visage...and when someone sees through it and gives you the time of day...its hard not to. No matter how selfish or lazy or stupid the person is...being wanted around is nice...im a real sucker for sweet words...some encouragement...because I never get it...
Look at the people arounf you and why you do things...your probably a pretty cool person and everyone is trying to bring you down. Being able to admit your attached to someone for that long shows a lot of character. Most people cant come to terms with their flaws...but to me...
Its not a flaw...its how much you hope.
Remember indifference is the opposite of love...
Hatred and love are really borderline becayse they are intense focus...
Think of what you really want. Im sure you can fugure it out.
Me? I just want someone who accepts me for who I am...something ive never had...

ut my job hours and goals pretty much kill any hope of a social life.


i know what i want, but that won't really happen right now, considering the way i am as a person. idk nothings been much help and its seriously frustrating, im tired. ill just have to let time help me forget i guess and let it go naturally somehow. & im sure ur a cool person too, thanks for the help
Posted 2/16/12
So...what if you can't ever forget? Why not use it to move forward looking at how that experiance defines you as a person. Cool...yeah im a cool person but it doesnt keep you company at night...dont be cool like me. Its not worth it.
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Posted 2/18/12
just focus on anime..
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Posted 2/25/12
Mabuhay!

I just want to make clear that this post is not an advertisement post or a misleading one. Please consider this post as sincere to its purpose.

Here I go...

Since almost everyone here has been in the forums for years, I wanted to assume that these people are expert in the forum culture. I also have been into several forum sites five years ago. Unluckily, I had to stop my online addiction to give way for my education. I had to save some time for studying and resting to get good grades. And now that I'm back, I'm at lost on what to do. Thousands of new sites have sprung up and the usual sites that I have been hooked on too have either vanished without a trace or have changed a lot. An example of this is Crunchyroll. When was this turned into a commercialized one? At any rate, it changed...I have yet to check if it still delivers the same flavor as when it was familiar and easy back then. Anyway, I wanted to be back in business too, I mean foruming. So I'm asking if you people know which forum I'd serve well. Something like this forum but a less-populated area which discusses the same thing. Stability is also a plus.

Thank you so much for reading my post.

Salamat po.
Posted 2/27/12
Hey Octocesar, how is the P.I.? I'm new to the forums, and wish I could of seen it 5 years ago. But if you're looking for a less populated anime forum, I would suggest to stay loyal and stay here :-) but manage your time with posting?
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Hey Octocesar, how is the P.I.? I'm new to the forums, and wish I could of seen it 5 years ago. But if you're looking for a less populated anime forum, I would suggest to stay loyal and stay here :-) but manage your time with posting?


It's still the same. The hottest issue though is the impeachment hearing against the former president.

Thank you for that suggestion. I'll try to drop by here more often.
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Hey there advice forum peoples. I need some advice (more of a second opinion really).

So I have been (for the last 3 years anyhow) resisting learning how to program, it's just face-value boring to me. Well, three years and not a better job later, I have begun to reconsider it (not fully committed yet). My dad tells me I would be good at it (and based off of my previous limited experience, I think I agree with him) but I just don't....ugh...so boring at times.....meh. Should I just get over my lazyness and start learning a prog language?
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Nobar wrote:

Hey there advice forum peoples. I need some advice (more of a second opinion really).

So I have been (for the last 3 years anyhow) resisting learning how to program, it's just face-value boring to me. Well, three years and not a better job later, I have begun to reconsider it (not fully committed yet). My dad tells me I would be good at it (and based off of my previous limited experience, I think I agree with him) but I just don't....ugh...so boring at times.....meh. Should I just get over my lazyness and start learning a prog language?


'Sup no bar! I learnt a bit of programming for two years (C# to be specific), and I found it very dull at the start... It was almost like trying to learn a new language... But as with anything, you need to learn the basics before it gets interesting. Once you get over that stage, and end up a little proficient at programming, it can be a lot of fun! Anyway, there's no disadvantage at all to learning skills. So I say do it.
Posted 3/6/12 , edited 3/6/12
I really liked this guy for about 2 years, and I believe it was the same the other way around. We were fine until we tried pushing for more than friends. However, I couldn't see the sense in trying to act like we didn't have feelings for each other. I'm not big on hiding my feelings. Plus, I hated the fear of never actually being in a committed relationship.

I don't understand what his issue was. At first, it seemed like he was trying, but not in a way I understood - and that's what kept me from going anywhere. But the minute I realized he wasn't (on Valentine's Day, he showed up over an hour late to my house to hang out without even calling me, and his only excuse was, "I got caught up in watching the game." I didn't let him in and haven't spoken to him since then,) I left him alone completely. I was and am still upset with him but things don't add up. And the truth is that I still have feelings for him.

I feel like I need to understand this to feel better. I really don't think he was leading me on. He never pushed for sex, and we never went all the way. And he told me, and I knew as well, that we worked very well for each other. We knew it would probably be a long time before we met anybody else better for us, if ever. But I feel like I was still the only one trying to make this work.

So, if we knew this, why did he let me go so easily? And if he has a good reason, why did I try so hard to keep him? Btw - I never questioned him much about his home life, and I was afraid to talk about it because I was worried people would start tripping on Freud stuff (was that ever even proven?) I do know that he's very close with his family, that his dad drinks a lot and doesn't live with the rest, and that he has many siblings. I'm not as close with my family. My dad is probably the one I'm closest with, although he isn't with my mom, either. I only have one brother?
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Posted 3/6/12

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I don't understand what his issue was. At first, it seemed like he was trying, but not in a way I understood - and that's what kept me from going anywhere. But the minute I realized he wasn't (on Valentine's Day, he showed up over an hour late to my house to hang out without even calling me, and his only excuse was, "I got caught up in watching the game." I didn't let him in and haven't spoken to him since then,) I left him alone completely. I was and am still upset with him but things don't add up. And the truth is that I still have feelings for him.


Seriously? I think that pretty much explains it all. "The game" is more important than you are to him. You should've broken up with him there and there, in my opinion. People can say all sorts of things, but actions speak louder than words.

I think that I've said it before, but he sounds like he was just taking advantage of your nature... He's could have be lazy to put any effort in. Hell, he might even just be with you to say he has a girl friend. Either way, he doesn't sound like he cared very much.

Why you found it so hard to keep him however... I don't know how long you've been together, or whether he has always been like he is. But if he used to be nice, and you've been together a long time, it makes sense. You try to make the relationship what it used to be, but because the guy can't be bothered, it didn't work.

As for the Freud stuff, I have no idea what that is o.0

So, what I'm trying to say is that, he was a prick, you probably deserve better, so move on. Be single for a bit. Party, drink, do stuff, whatever, just try to forget him. Really, he's probably doing you no good.

Hah, you probably expected something better, so I'm sorry ...
Posted 3/6/12 , edited 3/6/12

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melancholy-hill wrote:
I don't understand what his issue was. At first, it seemed like he was trying, but not in a way I understood - and that's what kept me from going anywhere. But the minute I realized he wasn't (on Valentine's Day, he showed up over an hour late to my house to hang out without even calling me, and his only excuse was, "I got caught up in watching the game." I didn't let him in and haven't spoken to him since then,) I left him alone completely. I was and am still upset with him but things don't add up. And the truth is that I still have feelings for him.


Seriously? I think that pretty much explains it all. "The game" is more important than you are to him. You should've broken up with him there and there, in my opinion. People can say all sorts of things, but actions speak louder than words.

I think that I've said it before, but he sounds like he was just taking advantage of your nature... He's could have be lazy to put any effort in. Hell, he might even just be with you to say he has a girl friend. Either way, he doesn't sound like he cared very much.

Why you found it so hard to keep him however... I don't know how long you've been together, or whether he has always been like he is. But if he used to be nice, and you've been together a long time, it makes sense. You try to make the relationship what it used to be, but because the guy can't be bothered, it didn't work.

As for the Freud stuff, I have no idea what that is o.0

So, what I'm trying to say is that, he was a prick, you probably deserve better, so move on. Be single for a bit. Party, drink, do stuff, whatever, just try to forget him. Really, he's probably doing you no good.

Hah, you probably expected something better, so I'm sorry ...


Lol. When I say "Freud stuff," I'm referring to the belief that your relationship with your family dictates how you're likely to act with a significant other. It's like how they say a woman who had a poor relationship, or never knew, her father will search for a father figure through several men.
But it doesn't matter, because many seem to doubt this belief, and I have no evidence that it's true.

And, no, I ended up talking to my own father. He pretty much said what you did. And believe me, I have every intention of going out and doing different activities to fill up my free time (and maybe meet other people.) Now I feel like whatever the issue is with him shouldn't concern me anymore, considering he made the choice for himself to leave me alone. The real issue here might be the fact that I HAVE too much free time to worry about things that don't need to be worried about. Thanks again. : P



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ok i want your opinion on something because i been stewing on these for ages
now first off i am a gamer i play video games allot well used to! for 3 years! i havent committed to playing a game and beating it! but if i do try to beat the game i get bored of it and skip all the scenes and make the game feel like a chore !
i keep buying new video games over and over must of had over 200 in dollers of video games witch i gave away and the same cycle goes over and over i cant play a game anymore is what i am saying

so what is your opinion am i sick of video games? and if so what the hell can i do now ! i like manga anime and making manga lol but i never do that becouse im trying to beat video games

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am not tired of games and there is somthing more going on..

can somone please help me these is getting annoying!
i know these might sound easy for some people to figure out but i played video games since i was a child and i don't know what els i could do then play games even my father suggest i am getting tired of games becouse i buy so much video games..
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zeroblackcat wrote:

ok i want your opinion on something because i been stewing on these for ages
now first off i am a gamer i play video games allot well used to! for 3 years! i havent committed to playing a game and beating it! but if i do try to beat the game i get bored of it and skip all the scenes and make the game feel like a chore !
i keep buying new video games over and over must of had over 200 in dollers of video games witch i gave away and the same cycle goes over and over i cant play a game anymore is what i am saying

so what is your opinion am i sick of video games? and if so what the hell can i do now ! i like manga anime and making manga lol but i never do that becouse im trying to beat video games

or

am not tired of games and there is somthing more going on..

can somone please help me these is getting annoying!
i know these might sound easy for some people to figure out but i played video games since i was a child and i don't know what els i could do then play games even my father suggest i am getting tired of games becouse i buy so much video games..


Why does it feel like a chore? Are you getting stuck on a hard part of the game and get bored of it? Or does it seem lame because you are just blowing right through it. I myself usually have two different gamer modes I go in. One is where I am breezing through games so I seek a really hard game or a hard way to play the game. Then when it feels like I am stuck in a game I switch to a casual game I can just breeze through. When I balance this I usually don't get bored. If it feels I am getting bored of games all together I go into anime mode and watch tons of anime. Then once I watch some I am usually ready to go back to games.

I would like to say that I play alot of free games too, Like Pangya, Osu and League of Legends. Usually when I buy a game I am really certain that I will like it. I usually watch people play it before I buy it, Twitch TV is good for that. Playing with people also almost always makes the game better as long as they are nice.

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thanks for the advice ^_^
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Here's my issue...

I go to a Catholic Private All-Girls school (I've gone to private school my whole life). I have no ways to meet guys other than dances where we invite guys from other private schools, and needless to say they aren't the best guys at dances. AND I haven't met any there. I am not the prettiest and am definitely not the smallest. I hate not being able to meet guys or have guy friends. I (sadly) don't think I even know how to talk to guys.

I am 16 never been kissed (other than preschool and 3rd but those weren't "REAL"). I'm just wondering how all of you meet guys outside of school. It would be great to be able to have guy friends rather than all my girl friends.

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