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Posted 6/3/12

murry-chan wrote:

I CANT BELEIVE THEY TOOK CHAT OFF HERE... IT WAS MUCH EASIER TO MAKE FRIENDS WHEN THEY HAD CHAT.. >->


Murry, murry, murry, murry.
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yes yes yes yes???? D01BCDN3
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Posted 6/3/12
Save up your money if your still young. . your uni/college fee's will get you into debt.
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Seems like people here are not actually giving any real advice, but since nobody will ever hear about it again:

Ich have a problem with two girls, let's just say A and B. A is really silent and I do not know much about her. I like her, but as I said, there are not much things that I can like about her since I just do not know anything. She is in my class and I will most likely meet her again at June 11th. I met the other girl at a Comic convention and we almost never really meet, but we had lots of conversations via mail. She is interested in manga and also draws really good and I think that she is the one I really like. Until now there does not seem to be any kind of problem, but now let's get to the real thing: A confessed her love to me about a week ago. I said that I did not want to talk about it on the internet and asked her to wait until school starts again. This is where the trouble starts. I am really bad at being a jerk and to solve this it seems like I have to be a jerk. Also, I haven't been feeling very well lately and when I had problems with my last relationship, I also had massive problems with my stomach and headaches. As I said, the one girl is really silent and shy. I've been like that, too until some years ago, so I know how hard this must have been for her and how it might drag her down if I refuse.

So is there any way of solving this wthout being mean or destroying her self esteem?
Posted 6/4/12
You should double date.
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Ugh, feeling very nervous about myself, I can't seem to fit in, in many categories.

I am not into the same games, TV shows or anime as others for rather dark reasons only few would comprehend and have asthma, thus sports are impossible, recognizing one self as a ragdoll/lving puppet and my art is too sad for anyone to look at.

Damn me. I refuse the anime of Evangelion (the very end of the End of Evangelion movie in particular), Naruto, Bleach, because I have emotional capacity that most people never thought existed, why must I be left behind while everyone else is tough as nails?

The same goes for the games God of War, Mortal Kombat, Call of Duty and others

Why... was I the one that was sensitive and others were perfect?
Why are all these "essentials" if they belittle my subconscious?
Posted 6/4/12
People are facades.
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Posted 6/5/12
Come on, how about some real advice? There are so many places to annoy people on the internet, so why do you have to use this topic?
Posted 6/5/12
How about you ignore the annoyance?
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Posted 6/5/12
I just get the feeling tht people will ignore questions that have been answered, no matter how stupid the advice was.
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Posted 6/5/12

Dabrush wrote:

Seems like people here are not actually giving any real advice, but since nobody will ever hear about it again:

Ich have a problem with two girls, let's just say A and B. A is really silent and I do not know much about her. I like her, but as I said, there are not much things that I can like about her since I just do not know anything. She is in my class and I will most likely meet her again at June 11th. I met the other girl at a Comic convention and we almost never really meet, but we had lots of conversations via mail. She is interested in manga and also draws really good and I think that she is the one I really like. Until now there does not seem to be any kind of problem, but now let's get to the real thing: A confessed her love to me about a week ago. I said that I did not want to talk about it on the internet and asked her to wait until school starts again. This is where the trouble starts. I am really bad at being a jerk and to solve this it seems like I have to be a jerk. Also, I haven't been feeling very well lately and when I had problems with my last relationship, I also had massive problems with my stomach and headaches. As I said, the one girl is really silent and shy. I've been like that, too until some years ago, so I know how hard this must have been for her and how it might drag her down if I refuse.

So is there any way of solving this wthout being mean or destroying her self esteem?


Well. heres the question Where did B go? you've only talked about A i cant really give you an advice if there's only one girl being talked about but you adressed that theres two. and at the begining. you did say you you like A so i dont see whats the problem.. if you dont know her just be like. honestly A idk how id be able to Like you if i dont know much about you... or something like that or like somehow get her to just kidna open to you? or ask her whyy does she like you. things that kind of get a girl to open up to you is like just awkward alone time together or when she does things she likes. and by solving.. like rejecting her in a way where your not being mean and still let her have her self esteem.. then you can say something im sorry A i dont know much about you. although i do like you i just dont know much about you. maybe once i get to know you better. <-thats the like maybe sometimes in the future rejection
now if you dont want to give her help. just saying. something like honestly. i cant return the feelings because i dont know you that well and i want someone whose able to just open up to me and be someone who can be comfortable around me and let me be comfortable around. i just honestly dont think id be able to fart around you and not feel embarassed about it x(
but if your solving the problem of like "not knowing who she is" but want to get with her
you can well suggest that you guys should go into the talking stage. that although you arent officially together. but you guys are just in a status of. oh yeah im interested in her and shes interested in me but we dont quite know each other yet. so were going to get to know each other lol
But if you dont like the talking stage but still want to get to know her you can get with her as official bf and Gf and see how things work. usually the kissing and the holding of hands bring out how someone is. lol. idk or like just get to know her as the relationnship of bf and gf progresses.
Usually.. when a guy says they dont want to talk about it. its usually a sign of rejection already.
QUESTIONS FOR YOU: what happend to B?
how do you like a girl you barely know?
since you two have the same interest how is it that you barely know who she is?
dont you guys text, then how come you dont know her that well?
do you and your A girl still send mails to each other?

PS. I HOPE THIS HELPS ! im sorry if any of my suggest does not make sense if you want more information dont be afraid to quote it pm me or just add me as a buddy to talk about it. but honestly. i likee these kinda talks Oh and. some people do give advices on here that arent halfed ass. im one of them. well sometimes -.-
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Posted 6/5/12

Dabrush wrote:

Come on, how about some real advice? There are so many places to annoy people on the internet, so why do you have to use this topic?


let people be people.
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Posted 6/5/12

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Gosh, haven't people heard of tampons for the nostrils?


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Posted 6/5/12

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Dabrush wrote:

Seems like people here are not actually giving any real advice, but since nobody will ever hear about it again:

Ich have a problem with two girls, let's just say A and B. A is really silent and I do not know much about her. I like her, but as I said, there are not much things that I can like about her since I just do not know anything. She is in my class and I will most likely meet her again at June 11th. I met the other girl at a Comic convention and we almost never really meet, but we had lots of conversations via mail. She is interested in manga and also draws really good and I think that she is the one I really like. Until now there does not seem to be any kind of problem, but now let's get to the real thing: A confessed her love to me about a week ago. I said that I did not want to talk about it on the internet and asked her to wait until school starts again. This is where the trouble starts. I am really bad at being a jerk and to solve this it seems like I have to be a jerk. Also, I haven't been feeling very well lately and when I had problems with my last relationship, I also had massive problems with my stomach and headaches. As I said, the one girl is really silent and shy. I've been like that, too until some years ago, so I know how hard this must have been for her and how it might drag her down if I refuse.

So is there any way of solving this wthout being mean or destroying her self esteem?


Well. heres the question Where did B go? you've only talked about A i cant really give you an advice if there's only one girl being talked about but you adressed that theres two. and at the begining. you did say you you like A so i dont see whats the problem.. if you dont know her just be like. honestly A idk how id be able to Like you if i dont know much about you... or something like that or like somehow get her to just kidna open to you? or ask her whyy does she like you. things that kind of get a girl to open up to you is like just awkward alone time together or when she does things she likes. and by solving.. like rejecting her in a way where your not being mean and still let her have her self esteem.. then you can say something im sorry A i dont know much about you. although i do like you i just dont know much about you. maybe once i get to know you better. <-thats the like maybe sometimes in the future rejection
now if you dont want to give her help. just saying. something like honestly. i cant return the feelings because i dont know you that well and i want someone whose able to just open up to me and be someone who can be comfortable around me and let me be comfortable around. i just honestly dont think id be able to fart around you and not feel embarassed about it x(
but if your solving the problem of like "not knowing who she is" but want to get with her
you can well suggest that you guys should go into the talking stage. that although you arent officially together. but you guys are just in a status of. oh yeah im interested in her and shes interested in me but we dont quite know each other yet. so were going to get to know each other lol
But if you dont like the talking stage but still want to get to know her you can get with her as official bf and Gf and see how things work. usually the kissing and the holding of hands bring out how someone is. lol. idk or like just get to know her as the relationnship of bf and gf progresses.
Usually.. when a guy says they dont want to talk about it. its usually a sign of rejection already.
QUESTIONS FOR YOU: what happend to B?
how do you like a girl you barely know?
since you two have the same interest how is it that you barely know who she is?
dont you guys text, then how come you dont know her that well?
do you and your A girl still send mails to each other?

PS. I HOPE THIS HELPS ! im sorry if any of my suggest does not make sense if you want more information dont be afraid to quote it pm me or just add me as a buddy to talk about it. but honestly. i likee these kinda talks Oh and. some people do give advices on here that arent halfed ass. im one of them. well sometimes -.-


Seems like I messed everything up a bit. So I knew B for about a year. We were the ones sending the mails and we are still doing it. She si one and a half years younger than me and it seems like I really like her. I never had any contact with a except at school and since she doesn't talk much, we have talked maybe 30 words until now. And I got to know her in 5th grade which means I know her for 7 years. It's not like I dislike her. Some friends of mine called her ugly and psycho because she doesn't talk and I got really angry about that, but whatever it is, I am fairly certain that there is no love. I also have watched her for some time and I am pretty sure that she actually likes one more popular guy and only chose me because asking the other one out would have been even harder for her.

The other problem is that I think that I wouldn't be able to keep up a friendship with B if A was my gf and on the other hand that I have to go to school together with A and thus wouldn't ever be able to avoid meeting her again or talking to her again.
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Dabrush wrote:


Seems like I messed everything up a bit. So I knew B for about a year. We were the ones sending the mails and we are still doing it. She si one and a half years younger than me and it seems like I really like her. I never had any contact with a except at school and since she doesn't talk much, we have talked maybe 30 words until now. And I got to know her in 5th grade which means I know her for 7 years. It's not like I dislike her. Some friends of mine called her ugly and psycho because she doesn't talk and I got really angry about that, but whatever it is, I am fairly certain that there is no love. I also have watched her for some time and I am pretty sure that she actually likes one more popular guy and only chose me because asking the other one out would have been even harder for her.

The other problem is that I think that I wouldn't be able to keep up a friendship with B if A was my gf and on the other hand that I have to go to school together with A and thus wouldn't ever be able to avoid meeting her again or talking to her again.


so. you dont like her (A). your just not sure how to reject her, and still be friends so that when you see her at school it wont be weird? so you just want to have B and A as your friends still w.e having to give up one?, i feel like you LIk B for some reason! well if you still want to be friends with A even after rejecting her just honestly tell her how you actually feel. because im sure she would understand. because you have always backed her up when your friends call her ugly and such. and.. i dont think she likes a more popular guy.. because the thing about girls no matter how shy they are and such well the thing about me (a girl) im very straightforward once you get to know me. and at first if i like you. id probably be shy AF =.=.(end of me) i think she does like you because i dont think she would ask a girl she didnt like. even if she did like another who is more popular than you. i just feel like maybe because you were so kind to her she liked you.
and i dont think if you did get with A you'd drift away from B because like if you really wanted B to still be your friend then like. you'd be able to juggle those two.. like its not liek your always going to be with A. and its not like A is the jealous type who thinks every girl out there is going to try to get at you. Ipersonally am like that sadly ;/ but my bf lieks it so w.e lol(end of me) im not sure what your problem is but if you stil lwant to be B's friend and A's friend you can either
tell A how you really feel about her. which is your form of rejection or acceptance lets just say in this case its rejections. that you'd still want to be friends but if it was acceptance then you'd can ask her if shes the jealous type and if its okay for you to be able to hang out with B.
honestly situations of wanting to keep both girls is complicating because you have to satisfy both party =.=
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