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Posted 6/8/12
I've never really liked vegetables, and red meat, but after being exposed to them for so long I simply started liking it eventually.
Get the point?

Most people seem happy on the surface. As a teacher, he should be aware of his actions' consequences. He's either a very emotionally dumb person or he's just leading you on (which is my bet, but I tend to pick the worst outcomes when it comes to people).

I want to facepalm whenever girls call a boy/man affectionate just because they act nice to girl(s) (anyone besides their partner, for that matter). Is he affectionate like that to the boys? Seen him massage a boy's back? No? Then he's clearly not an affectionate person.
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Posted 6/8/12

underlock wrote:

I've never really liked vegetables, and red meat, but after being exposed to them for so long I simply started liking it eventually.
Get the point?

Most people seem happy on the surface. As a teacher, he should be aware of his actions' consequences. He's either a very emotionally dumb person or he's just leading you on (which is my bet, but I tend to pick the worst outcomes when it comes to people).

I want to facepalm whenever girls call a boy/man affectionate just because they act nice to girl(s) (anyone besides their partner, for that matter). Is he affectionate like that to the boys? Seen him massage a boy's back? No? Then he's clearly not an affectionate person.


while i appreciate the advice, why are you being so unnecessarily condescending? i don't want to out him as something he's not, so that's why i'm taking everything into account here.

you're right that he isn't physical with boys, but he's still affectionate. for example, one time one of the guys in my film class said he was having a bad day and he took him to the teacher's lounge and made him a cup of tea. most teenaged boys, in my school at least, would freak out if a guy tried to touch him in an even vaguely intimate way, and i'm assuming my teacher is aware of that, so that's probably why he's only like that with the girls.

my issue is that he's especially warm with me, and i was thinking that maybe it was because he was an affectionate guy and he just happened to be moreso towards me because we have a lot in common, instead of him wanting sex or something like my friends seem to think.
Posted 6/9/12
I'm being condescending? Why, thank you! Here I thought my arrogance had disappeared.

I'm not trying to help you. The people who stayed silent after reading your post are the ones helping you. Ignorance is bliss.

I forgot to mention it, but I was too lazy to come back and edit the post. You should never take anyone's opinion as your own, but just one of the many tools used to form your own. Much like a research material.
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Posted 6/9/12

underlock wrote:

I'm being condescending? Why, thank you! Here I thought my arrogance had disappeared.

I'm not trying to help you. The people who stayed silent after reading your post are the ones helping you. Ignorance is bliss.

I forgot to mention it, but I was too lazy to come back and edit the post. You should never take anyone's opinion as your own, but just one of the many tools used to form your own. Much like a research material.


i agree with you there, that was the plan. i'm not going to take one person's insight and blindly run with it. i just wanted an outside opinion. i really am glad you went out of your way and gave me yours, i just could do without the random insults to my intelligence, camarada
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Posted 6/10/12 , edited 6/10/12
How do people get over things that happened a long time ago?
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Posted 6/11/12
FlyinDumpling I think everyone handles things differently. Some people drink alcohol, others do drugs or see therapists. Personally I just bottle things up and forget about it eventually. But I think bottling things up can give you anger issues.

I think you're best bet would be to confide in someone you love and trust.

NyuBoom I have the same problem. It's all willpower, try telling yourself that whatever it is your saving up for is more important that fast food.
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Posted 6/11/12
Sorry my other things were "over the top", so I am very confused here; when I see some girls in real life or anime (even with cleavage and select breasts, if not exaggerated with anime) I feel totally calm and happy, almost like a baby being held. I do not think it is sexual. I started noticing this when watching an episode of Ranma 1/2 that was supposed to be a "girly Ranma wardrobe malfunction," most would laugh, I felt calm and less tense. Is this a "bad" thing or just an uncommon way of looking at these things?
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Posted 6/11/12

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Sorry my other things were "over the top", so I am very confused here; when I see some girls in real life or anime (even with cleavage and select breasts, if not exaggerated with anime) I feel totally calm and happy, almost like a baby being held. I do not think it is sexual. I started noticing this when watching an episode of Ranma 1/2 that was supposed to be a "girly Ranma wardrobe malfunction," most would laugh, I felt calm and less tense. Is this a "bad" thing or just an uncommon way of looking at these things?


Maybe this "calm and happy" feeling is something other people call arousal.

Anyway, even if it is the case that it's "an uncommon way of looking at these things" I can't see how it could be a bad thing? Whatever makes you roll maaan.
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Posted 6/11/12 , edited 6/11/12

haikinka wrote:


SonicGenesisKing wrote:

Sorry my other things were "over the top", so I am very confused here; when I see some girls in real life or anime (even with cleavage and select breasts, if not exaggerated with anime) I feel totally calm and happy, almost like a baby being held. I do not think it is sexual. I started noticing this when watching an episode of Ranma 1/2 that was supposed to be a "girly Ranma wardrobe malfunction," most would laugh, I felt calm and less tense. Is this a "bad" thing or just an uncommon way of looking at these things?


Maybe this "calm and happy" feeling is something other people call arousal.

Anyway, even if it is the case that it's "an uncommon way of looking at these things" I can't see how it could be a bad thing? Whatever makes you roll maaan.


Thank you for confirming that this does not make me a "sex-a-holic" (do to being one of the few guys with pornophobia due to a poorly timed accident, I feel reassured of myself) My real mom emotionally abused me a lot, is this why these make me so calm and secure?
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Posted 6/11/12

haikinka wrote:


SonicGenesisKing wrote:


haikinka wrote:


SonicGenesisKing wrote:

Sorry my other things were "over the top", so I am very confused here; when I see some girls in real life or anime (even with cleavage and select breasts, if not exaggerated with anime) I feel totally calm and happy, almost like a baby being held. I do not think it is sexual. I started noticing this when watching an episode of Ranma 1/2 that was supposed to be a "girly Ranma wardrobe malfunction," most would laugh, I felt calm and less tense. Is this a "bad" thing or just an uncommon way of looking at these things?


Maybe this "calm and happy" feeling is something other people call arousal.

Anyway, even if it is the case that it's "an uncommon way of looking at these things" I can't see how it could be a bad thing? Whatever makes you roll maaan.


Thank you for confirming that this does not make me a "sex-a-holic" (due to being one of the few guys with pornophobia, I feel reassured of myself) In these cases I often imagine myself being held like a baby (my real mom emotionally abused me a lot, is this why these make me so calm and secure?)


Wouldn't being a "sex-a-holic" mean you are "cured" of your "condition", for lack of a better word? Seem like you want to stay a pornophobe... haha, that sounds funny. Pornophobe.

Well, I don't think these fantasies are exactly normal, but in the end, as long as it doesn't get in the way of your or other's happiness, does it matter? As for you being emotionally abused and stuff, I wouldn't know rofl. sounds like you want to see a psychologist.


Thank you, finally, someone understands that trauma has come with a benefit. (Those of you who said I was "arrogant" in my thread the other day, now you know I have personal issues as well so please don't belittle me for that or mock this confusion, I was always uncommonly sensitive but not aggressive)
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Posted 6/14/12 , edited 6/14/12
I'm frantically confused, I have an inferiority complex as big as your arm and refuse to be "ahead" of others for big things because I don't want to look arrogant EVER yet I care about other people, is this even possible or some personality glitch?
For those who saw my "stereotype killed by a video game" thread a few days ago, don't beat me up for this.
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Posted 6/14/12

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For those who saw my "stereotype killed by a video game" thread a few days ago, don't beat me up for this.


*Throws uppercut to the face*
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