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Sorry, AruarianDance. But, playlist.com is currently the only means of embedding music.
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Posted 4/11/13 , edited 4/11/13
So I've been told that this is an appropriate place to post this for right now, which is research for a book I'm writing

This is a survey about the perceptions and habits of anime fans, please send/forward this to any anime fan you know, I'd like to get enough research together for a book I'm writing, thanks. :)http://freeonlinesurveys.com/s.asp?sid=q8gmncmo4jo1rln238947

Honestly, A separate forum for polling and surveys would probably do well for those open to filling such a thing out. If I can get a broad spectrum of people to fill this out , say, 500-1000 surveys - it will give at least give me some credence when I write the fan chapters.

While I have about 90 surveys at the moment, it's quite a far reach from what I think would give me what I need.
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Posted 4/14/13 , edited 4/14/13
Where can I find a jacket like Andy Hinomiya? And what is it actually called, this sort of jacket?


Posted 4/17/13 , edited 4/17/13
I'm sick of it all - my boyfriend is in California judging a Speech tournament for a week and a half since last Saturday. He made a promise LONG beforehand that he will never go three days without calling, but last night, he did, and I AM pissed despite all of the people telling me, "Oh, maybe he forgot. Don't let it get to you or bitch at him because it will make him feel like a failure." Guess what? He DID fail. And if you love somebody so damn much, HOW COULD YOU FORGET TO CALL THEM - AFTER THREE FUCKING DAYS? It's not even mostly about not having been able to talk. I work by deadlines so I KNOW it will happen. When someone doesn't do something when they say they will, that opens the chances of them not doing it at all; he wonders why I get so pissed off when he shows AN HOUR OR MORE late to hang out damn near EVERY TIME. I know he is a lot more spontaneous than I so I TRIED to work out a compromise. I won't know WHEN he calls within those three days. My greatest fear that he just wouldn't came true, so..I dumped him and I don't even think he knows I have. I love him but I can't and won't possibly wait a week just to speak. In my mind, if he loves and appreciates me like he says he does, I shouldn't need to. It's just that I still love and want to talk to him, ONLY I KNOW I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER IT. I can't begin to describe how horrible I feel. Can someone help?

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anti-lambsacrifice, you decided to leave him because "He made a promise long beforehand that he will never go three days without calling" and such. You admitted knowing, and thinking "when he shows an hour or more late to hang out" and you admit to "work out a compromise" but, you did admit that you "love him but can't and won't possibly wait a week just to speak" Now, from this post..You are making it sound like you are just waiting for him at home, not even bothering to hang out with him, and it sounds like he is trying to get away from you. So, from my perspective: you tried to make it work out...But, it just couldn't hold water. Even if you try to get back together with him, do you really want to deal with the same stick as last time? But, either or...yeah.
Posted 4/17/13

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anti-lambsacrifice, you decided to leave him because "He made a promise long beforehand that he will never go three days without calling" and such. You admitted knowing, and thinking "when he shows an hour or more late to hang out" and you admit to "work out a compromise" but, you did admit that you "love him but can't and won't possibly wait a week just to speak" Now, from this post..You are making it sound like you are just waiting for him at home, not even bothering to hang out with him, and it sounds like he is trying to get away from you. So, from my perspective: you tried to make it work out...But, it just couldn't hold water. Even if you try to get back together with him, do you really want to deal with the same stick as last time? But, either or...yeah.


If this was about ME and what I do wrong, I would have talked about it. Stop trying to figure out more than I've let you know.
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Posted 4/18/13 , edited 4/18/13

anti-lambsacrifice wrote:

I'm sick of it all - my boyfriend is in California judging a Speech tournament for a week and a half since last Saturday. He made a promise LONG beforehand that he will never go three days without calling, but last night, he did, and I AM pissed despite all of the people telling me, "Oh, maybe he forgot. Don't let it get to you or bitch at him because it will make him feel like a failure." Guess what? He DID fail. And if you love somebody so damn much, HOW COULD YOU FORGET TO CALL THEM - AFTER THREE FUCKING DAYS?


Fellow Scorpio here. I'll give you my 2-cents for what it's worth. Background: I have been in relationships since I was 15. Typically 2-5 years per relationship. Currently dating and satisfied. I might come across as harsh, but I don't mince words.

From what you posted, if you broke up with him, it was the right thing to do. Your anger is justified. Do not get back together with him unless it was a misunderstand (which I doubt).

He did not forget to call. He intentionally didn't call. That was a passive-aggressive move on his part. If you're "in love" you do not forget things like calling because you don't need to promise not to call. If you have to make promises not to forget to call, then you're not in love. He feels trapped, and he showed it.

Toxic.


It's not even mostly about not having been able to talk. I work by deadlines so I KNOW it will happen. When someone doesn't do something when they say they will, that opens the chances of them not doing it at all; he wonders why I get so pissed off when he shows AN HOUR OR MORE late to hang out damn near EVERY TIME.


If he doesn't respect your time, he doesn't respect you. It's a sign. He's taking you for granted. Look, I've done all this. I've been "that guy" before and I've had it done to me. The only reason he'll ever respect your time is out of guilt or fear. And that's not love. Most people have a mistaken idea of love. Love is fluid, but there is no current to fight against.

Love isn't perfect and it isn't Hollywood, and quite frankly, relationships are normally difficult. Any relationship that isn't difficult is doomed, but any relationship that feels like you're constantly swimming up stream is just as doomed. It lacks trust.

Which, from what you posted, is one of the problems here. Ultimatums. Never go three days without calling? Sorry, I'd be gone if I was told that. That's not love. Not in my book.

Has he ever cheated on you? From what you posted, it seems like some amount of nervousness is lurking.

Trust and respect. When you're in love, those two things happen naturally and function unnoticed.... like breathing.


It's just that I still love and want to talk to him, ONLY I KNOW I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER IT. I can't begin to describe how horrible I feel. Can someone help?


I know that horrible feeling exactly. I can empathize. I can guess that there are a LOT of awesome aspects to your relationship with him, but if you can't trust him or if your trust in him begins to erode, that horrible feeling is just going to get worse. Much, much worse.

Look, you're going to have to decide the fate of this relationship for the both of you. He's made his feelings clear. Showing up late to see you (every time!), not calling... come on.... these are signs that people send out. I know you're hurt and I know confrontation sucks, but my honest opinion is that you need to consider letting him go (for real... no "bed buddies") and move on.

I know you said you broke up with him, but I mean it.... Walk away and find someone who will give you the respect you deserve. If you ignore these signs he's sending out and stay with him, you will never be in love. You'll be dependent.

Good luck.
Posted 4/20/13
Can someone pleeeeeeaaassseee help me with naming these fonts? I'll love you forever!!!


Font 1

Font 2


I used to have them, but I recently lost all of my fonts so I am currently re-stocking, but I can't remember the names of these two -___-

Thanks in advance!! ^_^<3
Posted 4/21/13 , edited 4/21/13

anti-lambsacrifice wrote:



What do you mean you dumped him but he doesn't know you have? I can honestly feel how horrible you feel.

You have some guy you fell head over heels with and he can't even pretend to care properly, but look at it this way, good thing you ended it. You'll be happier one day, hell you may even scold yourself for going out with such a bastard.





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If reassurance is what you need, then Skype has all the answers. You can call him first on there, listen to his voice. Then webcam. If you are truly in love with him you'd take the initiative, go out and buy a webcam if you don't have one. Worrying never gets anyone anywhere. If he's a "catfish" which means he is lying about things and denies going on cam to show proof or going out to get one then tell him you will not take the relationship any further until you can atleast see him. May sound shallow saying you're in love with someone you're not sure you can trust, but this is the internet, and its a cruel cruel world out there.
Posted 4/21/13 , edited 4/21/13

Thanks to [almost] everyone who's replied. I really appreciate it I'm not happy about this but he was clearly not ready..even though he said he was. Not only that, but he yelled at me for not going ALONG with it while I was dating him instead of first realizing that he isn't ready..and I'm not about to fight someone who can't admit they're wrong.

Hairbelly - He's never cheated.

Nyuboom - Because his phone was out of minutes and I didn't feel like waiting to break up, I'd texted him (last time we'd talked in person, he said he was still able to recieve them, but I think those are limited as well.)
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anti-lambsacrifice wrote:

Thanks to [almost] everyone who's replied. I really appreciate it I'm not happy about this but he was clearly not ready..even though he said he was. Not only that, but he yelled at me for not going ALONG with it while I was dating him instead of first realizing that he isn't ready..and I'm not about to fight someone who can't admit they're wrong.


lol i allways admit im wrong on yeaa hahah
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Posted 4/25/13 , edited 4/25/13

anti-lambsacrifice wrote:


Thanks to [almost] everyone who's replied. I really appreciate it I'm not happy about this but he was clearly not ready..even though he said he was. Not only that, but he yelled at me for not going ALONG with it while I was dating him instead of first realizing that he isn't ready..and I'm not about to fight someone who can't admit they're wrong.

Hairbelly - He's never cheated.

Nyuboom - Because his phone was out of minutes and I didn't feel like waiting to break up, I'd texted him (last time we'd talked in person, he said he was still able to recieve them, but I think those are limited as well.)


If I had seen this sooner I would have posted as well, I know exactly how this feels... which could have been seen in another thread where I talked about it.

It's a horrible feeling, and being told you're forgotten about will really hurt.

I had been ill for a while when it occurred to me, I had told former my partner I had collapsed at work because I had been very ill she told me "That's unfortunate", she had wanted space away from me during this period so I gave that to her, I confronted her about not even coming to me and saying hello or asking how I was doing weeks later, her response was "I forgot about you."
Posted 4/26/13
I feel like I should say, it WAS a misunderstanding and we did get back together. I'm sorry; forgot I'd even posted here.
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Posted 4/26/13 , edited 4/26/13

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