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Loners
Posted 6/1/08 , edited 6/1/08
How long have you been a loner?
since i was 8
Did you give up on people?
yeah
if so, why?
they just plain sucks .
What do you generally dislike about them
their attitudes towards life and stuff
How well does it suit you?
it suits me just find .
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Posted 6/1/08
Hmm....Some people might say i am anti-social
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im a loner but how come i cant live without talking
Posted 6/3/08
How long have you been a loner?
Well I Have Friends, So I Wouldn't Say Im A Loner.
But I Prefer To Be Alone Than Hang Around With Them.
Mostly Because, Im Nothing Like Them.

Did you give up on people?...If so, why?
Depends,What Kind Of People They Are.
Mostly Because, Of There Personality.

What do you generally dislike about them?
If I Hate Someone,
Its Generally Everything About Them.

How well does it suit you?
Fine Most Of The Time...
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I was a loner for the most part since preschool -sad. I always got teased, and because I was extra sensitive, I always cried when I was made fun of. Eventually, I moved, but the situation got worse. I was worse than a loner, I was the scapegoat of my class, grade, and neighborhood. People picked on me to the point where I either cried or lashed out. I vividly remember when some kids on the bus home (which was about 20 minutes) teased me, and I cried, but they all laughed at my pain; not one of them said a nice thing to me. Beyond my family I talked to a few acquaintances, but they never came to my house to play, and didn't really start to like me. I didn't to any activities -except Girl Scouts- but stay at home. So, my first non-fake friend that I could really talk to came around in 5th grade. Since, I've become a little more extroverted, and I have really one other truly good friend. But what else do I need?
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Posted 6/5/08 , edited 6/5/08
I been a loner most of my life for many reasons. Most of the hobbies I'm interested in involve one party plus I never quite identify with most people, particularly people of my peer group or people younger then me. I tend to get along with people who are significantly older then me as they are more often wiser. more mature, bearable, interesting, philosophical, then most people I know. I'm also pretty straight-edge and generally try to stay out of trouble so most immature people find me square.One of he main reasons though is that I'm just too.......different.And that is both me as a person and how I expect from relationships with other people. I'll elaborate more in subsequent paragraphs.First I'll tell you my ideal look gaining a friendship that I generally follow:

I'm only comfortable around certain types of people and I only consider a few people my friends. I was never the party type or a popular type. I just handle my business and do what I got to do. I don't care about fitting in a box or anything. I just live my life.

I'm pretty complicated. I'm not comfortable around most people yet I do care alot about people I let in my life. I'm not an asshole to people for no reason yet if you piss me off enough I'll not hesitate to be one. I'm generally a nice person at heart yet I stand up for myself and people who I grow to care about(Sometimes I can get too overprotective to a fault).

I don't party simply because it does not interest me. I have too much self-respect to smoke, do drugs, drink, or engage in promiscous sex with people I barely know..It's not for elitist reasons. It just does not interests me. Once I care about someone, I'll do my best to show that I love them platonically. speaking and help them.

Also, I don't have really good social skills and I'm a very quiet and shy person in rl. However, once I get comfortable around certain types of people, I open up. Internet does help alot. haha.

I always want to see the best in people who became my friends or shown an interest in becoming a friend of mine. I look past their flaws that don't fit my ideals and see the good in them.

To people I don't know, I'll treat them nicely intitially as I don't believe in being an asshole for no good reason. However if they want to treat me like an ass, I'll be an ass back. That's how I do things.

I just do whatever. I feel what I feel. I do what I do. I'm never just one way. It all depends on what ever mood I'm in I trust some people. I don't trust others. I just "Go with the flow." I'm pretty pragmatic.

Of course that it my ideal apporach to friendship I follow most of the time. However, I also have a cynical view of people who get involved in a friendship. I'll elaborate on that as well:

Due to recent events in my life and a loss of a few CR and RL friends, I became more cynical over friendship. I came to one conclusion that I'm certain: I'm the most "out of placed" person I know. I have never fit in into any social group(I.e Preppie, Gothic, Party Animals, Punks, Ghetto,Conservatives,Jocks,Liberals,Communists, Nerds, etc) and probally nor will I ever. It's allright because I have achieve alot in my lifetime and I did it without having a gang of friends to stimulate my selfish ego.

That being said, it is hard for me to gain friendship and/or maintain a friendship with someone.Mainly because I never identified COMPLETELY with that person, I don't belong to the rest of their clique, I'm too square or caring of their well being. or I've done someting unwittingly to piss them off at some point. I have lost a lot of "friends" in my life due to the fact they can't handle me, misunderstood me, or I'm just to "original" for them. So keep this in mind if you are ever interested in befriending me. It may sounds emo to you or whatever, I don't give a shit what you think about me because you don't know me. And chances are, you are probally some one I wouldn't care to know anyways.

I know I'm pretty complex about topics like this but oh well. I'm used to being misunderstood so it's cool!





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azrael910 wrote:

Hm, interesting thread. You sound like a very interesting person Abel.

Over the years I've come to the conclusion that I hate people. I find most social interaction inconvenient and troublesome. I'm capable of it, and do so when necessary, like professional/academic situations. But the less I deal with people the more comfortable I am. Every now and then I get a social itch and I go to bars and things of that nature, but it typically just reinforces why I've cut myself from everyone in the first place.

I've come to downright loathe and hate the opposite sex. After years of countless lies, betrayal, and rejection I really don't think I want anything to do with them anymore. It's to the point where I can't even really deal with women in a personal manner without getting angry. I mean I can still deal with waitresses and secretaries and that sort of thing, I'm still plenty courteous for casual social interaction. As soon as the relationship goes beyond that of professional or academic nature I just don't care for having much to do with them at all. If they persist, it'll downright piss me off more often than not. It's not a sexist chauvinistic thing, it's more of a personal vendetta thing.

I'm not sure if it was ever conscience decision really, I think it's just how I was wired along with some personal circumstances (home schooled through junior high, constant moving when I was younger, etc) that just amplified it all. Would I do anything different? Honestly, yes. I would have dealt with even less people than I have, I would have cut myself off farther than I already am. There is little I relish more than undisturbed solitude.

I wouldn't say I'm completely alone. I've always had a decent amount of social interaction through either school (study groups, projects, and the like) and jobs, as well as family. I keep in touch with a couple of old air force buddies, but that's really about it.

I'm under no illusion that I'm superior or smarter to anyone because this attitude I have, it's just a personal choice really. I just like being left alone. I remember at one of the high schools I went to I'd see how many school days I could go without having to speak to anyone. I could usually go days before a random teacher called on me. It's probably why I'm so long winded online - I don't think in short soundbytes, so I'm not used to communicating in such a brief manner. And on that note I should just cut off this longwinded emo rambling.


I'm there with you all the way, dude. I know exactly how you feel about everything. Like yourself, I only deal with people only on what is neccessary such as both my jobs. school, and life in general. But I rarely try to get close to anyone. I try going to parties out of feeling left out but usually afterwards it reminds why I hate those events in the first place. I have the same trouble with the opposite sex as well. Amen man, amen.

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im only a loner when i want to think or im sulking!!

or trying to daydream!!......mostly im not because im surrounded with social extroverts
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Posted 6/7/08
I use to be popular and social back in highschool..But now i am kinda of a Loner..i dont know why
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Posted 6/8/08
"Sometimes its better to be alone. Nobody can hurt you"

im not a loner because i have my friends but i do prefer to be alone sometimes..i dunno im kinda used to it..LOL
its just that i dont open up that easily to other people..i tend to keep it to myself..dont really know why
like i have this group of friends which i hang out wit almost everyday
then i have other friends whom i talk with on the phone but doesnt really hang out dat much
but now i wanna be alone..gah whatever xD dont care anymore
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Posted 6/8/08
I'm pretty sure there are many people here with a good amount of friends, and that's cool and all

But I want to learn more about the loners here, and since there are 2 anti gender threads, it only makes sense to have an anti people thread as well.

How long have you been a loner? As long as I could remember
Did you give up on people? Why rely on people? I dont have the statistics or the error margin to allow for reliance on others
if so, why? I gave up on people
What do you generally dislike about them Its too hard to interact with people and I feel as though I have a vunerabilty through them. I also may be a debt to them too.
How well does it suit you? Pretty well. Dont get me wrong. I have some "freinds" but I have seen they are more reliable or are more of an asset then a possible debt to me.
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I am alone, but I am not lonely. I think I will preface this message by stating that I am an only child. As I grew up I have gotten use to being on my own and playing with myself. In elementry and Grade 7 and 8 I would consider myself to be a loner, I didn't have any close friends. Things changed however in high school and that is because I became involved in my high school's theatre troupe. I was involved with it for all five years of high school and made most of my close friends there, additionally, each summer, the local school board mounted a major musical, we rehersed it from the end of June to the first week in August, so I was never really away from my friends during the summer. It is because of this experience that I became more extroverted.

Later, when I study theatre at University, I met a new set of friends and we were close for a time. But after we graduated we kinda of drifted apart. Since I have returned home I have made new friends, at the bookstore where I work and from some of the local community groups I am involved with. I am definitly more extrovert now than I was in the past, however, I am still shy a bit when I am around new people.

Recently, I noticed something interesting, as an adult I have formed friendships with people who aren't neccasarily in my age range. One of my friends is a woman who is in her sixities, she is actually the mother of a friend of mine from high school. I met her when I joined a recorder group when I returned home from university. Now, we occassionally I go to see a movie with her, basically we are movie buddies the last movie I saw with her was Ironman.

I am alone right now, but for the most part I don't see myself as lonely.

Remember, "No one is alone".

I will leave you with something I was reading today.

"Night after night, Fox walk alone,
Came home to a bed made of feathers and bone.
He hunted at night and slept through the day.
Fox walk alone, he liked it that way.

But one day..."


Words and picture by Barbara Reid.
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Posted 6/11/08
Im a 100% loner.
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who needs people anyway
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