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Posted 11/23/11
I'm not sure if this would be considered being a loner. Maybe I'm just introverted, but for some reason, I find it hard to communicate and connect on a deeper level with people. Not just with people in my age group, but with people who are both older and younger as well. It's extremely frustrating and it's like the more you avoid people to prevent misunderstandings, the more conflict you create. When you speak less, it's easier for people to form their early opinions of you based on what little they know.

I kind of envy people who are able to get along with others so easily.

I don't think all loners necessarily dislike or want to give up on people. Some just probably like being alone.
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Posted 12/7/11
I have a few friends that i talk to, but only one relatively close friend, and that's only because no one else can put up with him, so he just comes to me.

In general people just annoy me. The way i see them they tend to look like they're all about personal gain, and not willing to devote they're lives to benefit other people.
Also people that are fake, i.e. wear to much make up, wear fake tan, don't appreciate other peoples feeling, they just seem like the worse types of people possible to me.
On top of that the few friends i have had often let me down in major ways, which doesn't exactly help.

But anyway i'm happy being a loner, so that's that i guess
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Loners (originally named Excelsior)[1] is a spin-off mini-series of comic books from Marvel Comics, first appearing in the pages of Runaways.[2] It consists of a Los Angeles-based support group for former teenage superheroes from New York, founded by Turbo of the New Warriors, and Phil Urich, the heroic former Green Goblin.[1] Their goals are initially stated to be to help fellow teenage superheroes to adjust to normal lives while coping with their powers, and to dissuade other superpowered teenagers from becoming heroes,[1] but these goals are discarded in their own miniseries in favor of the group apparently wanting to avoid using their powers for any reason,[3] even if that means abandoning helpless victims of crime to their fate.[4] As with other continuity errors and discrepancies thrown up during the course of the Loners miniseries, no explanation is given as to the drastic change in the group's purpose between series — though miniseries writer C. B. Cebulski (the third writer to tackle the team - after Brian K. Vaughan/Robert Kirkman - and the only one to use this direction for the team) has attempted to suggest some answers directly to fans who frequent the Newsarama forums[5] rather than within the pages of the book itself, though many suggestions (notably those centering on Darkhawk) were later debunked by events in canon titles such as Nova and War of Kings: Ascension. Although all the characters were created by different authors and artists, the team itself was created by Brian K. Vaughan and Adrian Alphona, with other characters (Spider-Woman, Hollow, Red Ronin) added to the cast during the events of the 2007 miniseries.

The group had originally appeared in the multiple award-winning series,[6] Runaways.[7] They had been introduced in "True Believers", the first story arc of the series' second volume. At the end of the story arc, it was revealed that the group had secretly been sponsored by Rick Jones, on behalf of Captain America, who hoped to ensure the Runaways do not get into trouble.[8] Following their battle with Ultron, Rick Jones offered to sponsor the team full-time.[8] Its creative team is C. B. Cebulski (writer) and Karl Moline (artist).
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Posted 12/8/11 , edited 12/8/11
being alone much sucks
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Posted 12/18/11 , edited 12/18/11
ya id say im a loner for sure Im interested in knowing how many loners, are loners by choice? im personally not a loner by choice i guess lol
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Posted 12/28/11

excalion wrote:

There are two kinds of solitude, loneliness and aloneness, and they mean two completely different things.

Loneliness tends to be a state where you desire the company of others but are currently in a situation where you are unable to obtain it. There could be a couple causes for this, such as social disorders that cause other to shy away from you or your finding others' company to be inadequate. A surprising phenomenon is that most people belonging to the first group somehow ends up defining themselves as the second group. Perhaps it's a defense to their own ego or whatnot, it's difficult to say. While in the second group, you begin defining the kind of individuals which you approve of to be in your company, and they tend to all possess some traits of desire for you. They must be smart, beautiful, and dreadfully attracted to you to oblige to your every whim. In other words, you want to be accepted, to be given value by someone whom you have deemed valuable. But let's face it, no smart, beautiful person is going to stand on their head for you, so you find yourself alone and you ego ever growing. You say no one is good enough for me, but in reality, you're the one not good enough for your own fantasies.

Aloneness is a different solitude, it has no attachments, no desires, no cravings. It is not to despise company, but to enjoy solitude. One is able to enjoy solitude for a variety of reasons, but mainly it's an appreciation for all things. People are not the only things who are interesting in this world, you can find wonders in everything around you. So in the case of company, you observe the other individual/s, and you find them attractive or repulsive, but you are not enjoying them, you are enjoying your own observations, so whether they are interesting or repulsive does not matter, you are simply enjoying yourself. Same can be said while alone, you do not enjoy a flower, the skies or the stars, rather you enjoy your own process of perception for them, you enjoy yourself. As such, the outside world has no influence on your happiness, you view all things and find happiness, not in the things but in yourself. And so you are always alone in your mind, possess a clarity of awareness, and you are always happy.


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Other than my husband and daughter, I am a loner, for the most part. I do not dislike people, and I am by no means shy. I find extended social intercourses and such draining; Solitude leaves me feeling refreshed. I don't call anyone, and I don't "hang out" with friends, usually, beyond what my husband volunteers me into.

I do care about people and their well-being; I am simply disinterested in their life details beyond the need-to-know stuff, and while I am fascinated with ideas and amassing knowledge, I possess very little curiosity about any trivial and mundane information about others. I get impatient when forced into idle small-talk.

I also prefer to avoid pushy, pestering and zealously nosy types.
Posted 1/5/12
I was a loner for about 2 years.. that was in middle school lol
I doubted everyone's trust, even though I was really in need of help.
But that was also the time that my brother and I got a little closer to each other because he was kind of the only one that could understand me at the time.
Other than him, I felt so alone- because I was bullied and had to eat at the school restroom >_>
So now that I'm not a loner and a bully victim anymore, I try to protect and be friends with everyone with those problems.
It's really saddening when you hear some loners' stories.. (I'm not talking about myself, I mean my friends that were loners)
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I believe I am a loner for most of my life. Before 1st grade, I had friends that I felt comfortable around. I talked to those who have hearing aids because I have them. There was a girl from 2nd grade who I talked to plenty of times. When I went to elementary where my twin sister and older brother at the time, I was still social at times. I felt awkward since I was the only person who had hearing aids and I still had to go to speech therapy. Middle school was truly eventful at times. I tried to be social but I wanted to stay silent at the same time. I believe I hadn't made true friends at the time. What made me truly miserable was discovering my sexuality. I became even more of an outsider. I know that I wasn't like most guys at school. I was in choir in kindergarten and band in 6th grade. I was and am a strange boy.

I gave up at times. I felt truly scared of talking because I was always worried if people couldn't understand me. I felt I was a mistake to my family at times. My siblings had and still have friends. I never had true friends in the past. I have few now but I question if I can even be friends with them. It's difficult for me to open at times. I fear being ignored.

I'm currently a freshmen and I'm trying to open up but people from elementary and middle school are preventing me indirectly. I feel I'm trapped in a birdcage without a lock. I can only see the outside world but I can't reach it. I feel it will take me some time to be finally happy.
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Posted 1/17/12

Animefreak9999 wrote:

I gave up at times. I felt truly scared of talking because I was always worried if people couldn't understand me. I felt I was a mistake to my family at times. My siblings had and still have friends. I never had true friends in the past. I have few now but I question if I can even be friends with them. It's difficult for me to open at times. I fear being ignored.

I'm currently a freshmen and I'm trying to open up but people from elementary and middle school are preventing me indirectly. I feel I'm trapped in a birdcage without a lock. I can only see the outside world but I can't reach it. I feel it will take me some time to be finally happy.



I'm exactly the same. At least we know we're not alone.
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Posted 1/28/12
Just reading your reply made my day. (Sorry for the late reply :\)
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Posted 1/31/12
Meh, I'm a loner too.
I've always been like this. I enjoy being alone more than anything and I don't care about the rest of the world. I have a lot of friends tho and like 5-6 people who consider me as their best friend, just cuz i'm a person that don't judge and I'm always there to hear what they have to say (even tho it's hard for me to care).
I'm in university now and it just got worst. I show up at school listening to music all the way to class and right after I come back home. I try to get involved with people but I just can't help it, I feel like being alone. I think it's because I don't trust anyone...I don't know and I don't really care. I don't wine or get excited about anything. I don't hate anyone but also I don't love anyone...Sometimes I try to hate people cuz I think I might love someone that way but it doesnt work. I'm not shy, maybe I gave up on people.
I think it suits me well. People know when they text me or call me that I might just tell them I don't wanna see them. I won't make up excuses. A lot of people are jealous of me somehow....weird cuz sometimes I envy being happy like them. But I guess sometimes they get sad and that's when they envy me.

Oh well, that's pretty much it for me...

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Posted 2/7/12
I've been a loner my entire life and I prefer it that way. I don't think I ever gave up on people because I never had any faith in them to begin with. My parents were both misanthropes and they taught me that life style: "Assume everyone else you encounter is a nincompoop and you'll be fine." They were not the sugar coating kind.
What I dislike about people is well almost everything to certain extents.
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Posted 2/24/12

How long have you been a loner?
Did you give up on people?
if so, why?
What do you generally dislike about them
How well does it suit you?


Well why i gave up on meeting new people even old friends, well im used to be used and is always naive... plus people are not honest when they say they want honesty.. they hide behind irony and sarcasm.. something i dislike alot.. also i do not understand the social rules that people goes by.. there for i gave up.. people getting angry becuse im to honest and brutal in their eyes.. those that respect me for who i'm is those i hang with sometimes when i feel for it... otherwise i sitt alone at my computer and watch series or movies.. sometimes even play games.. When i did withdraw the social life i have created a fbic agenst new people and new places.. that makes me not leave the house without back up from family.. do not like people that flirt.. or touch me without approval.. that can happen from time to time.. there for in some cases i realy hate people to be pathetic and false..

I feel fine to be alone.. tho my family do not like it there for try to make me go out.. hardly something they let me do without complaining about it.
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If I could, I would choose to live in eternal solitude. It's the only friend that you can trust.
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