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Will You Abort Your Baby ?
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i'm too young to think about this!
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never
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Darknile wrote:


snottyenglishgirl wrote:

Darknile - what would you do if your girlfriend got pregnant while using contraceptives? im assuming that because you are/were using them, that you dont/didnt want to have a child yet.



Cases like that are very rare, If I remember correctly contraceptive pills are 85% success rate, and condoms are 99% success rate. Only one woman I know of had a child while she was using a contraceptive pill and her doctor said it was because she didn't have enough of a thickness to the cell walls of her eggs for it to be effective enough for her. Only other way was the ol jacket for men and how many true stories have you heard about them things going *pop*???.

As I said the reason contraceptives exist is to drastically reduce the chances of having an unplanned pregnancy as well as the others types to avoid STDs. If a person doesnt at least take those few measures, then how can they not be surprised if suddenly "oops" their pregnant? Thats why its a responsiblity for those that do not wish to have a child at the time should take the measures before jumping in the sack.

Since me and my gf both wanted a child, but just didnt' feel prepared we still wouldn't have aborted.


oh im aware of the stats, biology degree and all, i was just curious about what you would do in that particular circumstance.
the only thing i would disagree with is that the chances of becoming pregnant for example when using condoms is rare. 1 in 100 is still one pregnancy out of 100 sexual encounters, not 1 out of 100 couples. i'd say your friends and yourself have been relatively lucky. my friends and i are all ultra responsible, but four of them have had unplanned pregnancies; 2 using the contraceptive pill properly, and 2 when using condoms.
you can increase your chance of NOT getting pregnant by doubling up of course - the condom AND the pill. i cant though because im allergic to all the contraceptive pills ive tried; which means using the morning after pill would be risky for me should a condom break because i could throw it up pretty much straight away, rendering it uneffective.

i use the rhythm method plus condoms, which is lucky, because even using the ultra safe ones, ive had three break on me during my lifetime.

i only point all this out because not everyone gets pregnant stupidly, or without using precautions.
ive aways said, the only precaution is abstention
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I see nothing wrong with killing a fetus, especially if it will be sick and/or threaten the mother's own life. A fetus is not independent, cannot live on its own outside of the mother's body; therefore, it is completely the mother's decision to keep it or not. The fetus isn't going to feel any pain (at a certain point it might, but moving on), it doesn't have relationships yet, it hasn't begun a life, it doesn't even have real consciousness until later stages, etc. If you ask me, ending its life would not even be nearly as bad as ending the life of a grown animal, since at least the animal is autonomous.

Valuing human life above that of anything else is fine, but that moral stance most likely developed for the sake of civilization and was definitely instituted long before abortions were an option. Since abortions in practice do not threaten civilization, do not cause physical pain to the aborted, do not even take away a life (as opposed to mere existence), and do have benefits, I don't see the issue. Throwing around the words "murder" and "criminal" has strictly rhetorical value in the face of legitimate arguments for abortion, so I instead expect to see a legitimate argument against abortion instead.

Enough loaded words, more rationality and practicality.
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23 / F / canada, manitoba,...
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i would never abort a baby enless there was a high chance of dieing and it is a hard desition there cas who wants to have to diside to kill a life or let it live.
my mom almost had to abort my birth because there were alot of problems but she kept me and my brother got sad cas he wanted a puppy not a sister :p
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If the baby have concious, it is wrong to abort it because its same as killing any living been, and living been deserve to have their own right a freedom on choicing live and death. Not to mention its your own baby, show some responsibility
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no i won't abort my child when i have it. i'll keep it. and i think it's murder in the first place. it's cruel.
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35 / F / Mabuhay! Philippi...
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absolutely not!... its life......
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29 / M / A series of tubes
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If I was a woman, I'd intentionally get pregnant as much as possible and get an abortion in the fourth month every time. i would then collect all the potato fetuses and preserve them in jars and display them on a series of shelves in a closet.

Then I would have child to keep and when he misbehaves I would make him look in the fetus room to let him no how easily I could have aborted his ass.

(i.e. I hate abortion)
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24 / F / USA
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ew the person is poking the fetus in the pic


I would only have abortion if I was raped or something
Posted 2/29/08

Darknile wrote:


daintyartistry wrote:

I don't think abortion is murder. And I don't consider it selfish either. I just wish people would stop saying that a baby is a consequence for a bad decision. I'm tired of hearing religious reasons to not have an abortion and how the mothers are stupid for getting pregnant in the first place. There are different factors in the parents' life that other people should consider before saying that they're killing their baby. People should be able to have their baby when they are ready for one.

I don't know if I would be able to have an abortion because I know my mother would hate me, but if I found out I was pregnant and too young to be a mother, knowing that I wouldn't be able to care for it, I would abort it.


from the perspective you've offered, it shows that you lack the undstanding of what it means to be RESPONSIBLE with your actions. Me and my gf would go at it like bunnies, but we took precautions beceause we didn't intend to bring a child into the world until we felt we could handle the situation.

Yeah sex is fun, but there is a reason contraceptives exist. In that way it means you understand the consequences of unprotected sex and you take the appropriate measures to make sure you don't have any unplanned pregnancies. Which is more expensive? Having to go in for an abortion operation, or using contraceptives?

The only ones that have any say about abortion is a woman that has been raped. She never has a chance to say whether she wanted it to happen or not.[/quote]



That actually just really disturbed me. Saying only a women who got raped should be allowed to get an abortion is horrible. There's more to consider than what happens during sex.

I was trying to give an understanding from when a girl is already pregnant, but I guess I worded it wrong when, I think, what you said was directed at me and not at any other women who is faced with the decision of becoming a mother. I'm not saying that getting an abortion is the easy way out. I hadn't meant that at all. Of course everybody should be responsible when having sex and should take contraceptives if they don't intend to have a baby, but I just think that it wouldn't be right for the baby to be born into the world if the mother or father wouldn't be able to provide or care for it. The parents should have that right to decide.

It's like you said, because you and your girlfriend took the precautions, couldn't the same intentions be applied to another couple that got an unplanned pregnancy? They could wait until they are both ready so that they can 'handle the situation'.

In the end, I think it's up to the parents to decide if they think getting an abortion is the right thing to do. It could be the responsible decision they do make for being irresponsible when they had sex.
Posted 2/29/08
I wouldn't, no matter the case. I'd just feel too bad. Once my friend and I were so bored, so we took a goldfish he won at a carnival and killed it slowly (I'm insane, all I can say. And I'll do anything when bored.) I still feel bad for doing just that; I doubt I'd ever be able to abort my own child if I ever had one, no matter what the case. Even though some people have good enough reasons to, you can't get over the fact that it's gruesome and cruel to do such a thing. You'd have to be heartless to feel absolutely no regret after doing so. I think some just feel more than others.

EDIT: T-T why did i ever do that to that poor fish..we put salt n anything else we could find on him and it was bleeding and flipping..yeah some people kill fish, and there are those who eat goldfish, but i shouldn't have killed it the way i did..it looked like it was in so much pain cuz we were killing it slowly..God please forgive me T-T
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Nope I would not abort it, and if I was in a situation where
the baby is healthy, but one of us has to go because
something has gone wrong in the delivery process, I would still choose the baby to live.
I would not be able to handle the guilt of killing my own child or choosing my life
over it.
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26 / F / Australia
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Never! Even if its a rape child or totally handicapped!...if u dont want it then simply leave it up for adoption...but aborting is like killing ur child..as said before by sum1 else

but then again..this is my op.
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how can other people affOrd to abOrt their own chiLd?!that's so cruel!
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