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Beauty & Sex Appeal
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Posted 12/31/07
this is a really good topic actually.

I have a friend, and even though she is pretty, she suffered from a lack of confidence. It's so amazing that even a pretty face like hers could look unattractive just from her closed body language, from her frigidness and everything.

Point is that, women's beauty doesn't always come from physical appearance. If you are ugly there's always make up and plastic surgery. Physical ugliness is a matter of choice. There's always something you can do to make yourself look attractive on the outside. But the thing is, if they don't believe they are beautiful, then they will never be. It's how they carry themselves. It's from the sway in their walk. It's that sassiness that is unmistakably feminine. It's from within. It's about their attitude to themselves.
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Posted 12/31/07
The female must have some semblance of beauty.

However it is a lot more important to be able to stick with that person rather than that person looking hot. I am sure that most men would prefer to establish a relationship with someone that they can communicate with. While a lot of men do like sex appeal, sex appeal is only good for one night stands.
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I envy you people who have a choice. Sure, if I HAD the choice between beautiful and sexy I would pick Beautiful, but I don't.

Shit. I don't get much beautiful or sexy women, but I work hard for what I get damnitt!! lol
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24 / M / Sleepy Land
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Posted 1/1/08
They're about the same thing in a man's eye... though I prefer beauty...
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26 / M / Midwest of The U.S
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Posted 1/5/08
Too bad for me beauty and sexy are different but when I see almost any girl I can't separate the two. I see a girl sitting down and say "shes beautiful" Then she gets up and walks away and I say "mean shes so sexy" Thats just my nature though.
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Posted 1/5/08

supermalv wrote:

this is a really good topic actually.

I have a friend, and even though she is pretty, she suffered from a lack of confidence. It's so amazing that even a pretty face like hers could look unattractive just from her closed body language, from her frigidness and everything.

Point is that, women's beauty doesn't always come from physical appearance. If you are ugly there's always make up and plastic surgery. Physical ugliness is a matter of choice. There's always something you can do to make yourself look attractive on the outside. But the thing is, if they don't believe they are beautiful, then they will never be. It's how they carry themselves. It's from the sway in their walk. It's that sassiness that is unmistakably feminine. It's from within. It's about their attitude to themselves.


xx so true! i also have a friend like yours.. though she's pretty she has lack of self confidence and i wonder why.. i mean, with that pretty face? there's nothing to be ashamed of..xx
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Posted 1/5/08

supermalv wrote:

this is a really good topic actually.

I have a friend, and even though she is pretty, she suffered from a lack of confidence. It's so amazing that even a pretty face like hers could look unattractive just from her closed body language, from her frigidness and everything.

Point is that, women's beauty doesn't always come from physical appearance. If you are ugly there's always make up and plastic surgery. Physical ugliness is a matter of choice. There's always something you can do to make yourself look attractive on the outside. But the thing is, if they don't believe they are beautiful, then they will never be. It's how they carry themselves. It's from the sway in their walk. It's that sassiness that is unmistakably feminine. It's from within. It's about their attitude to themselves.


Also homeboys totally on the money with his point. I still think almost all girls are sexy and beautiful though.
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Posted 1/5/08

neverknight wrote:

why this question so hard to answer


Because you are sexually Challenged

LOL j/k

Beauty> The innocent that capture peoples hearts will always prevail as to the sexiness that promote promiscuity. Would you want to be in love with your heart? Or with your dick. Although there are some beautifully sexy women.

Divorce rate is a bit too high don’t’ you think?
Dude fall in love with sexy chick
Dude get marry
Dude lose interest



Is personalities a part of beauty?

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Posted 1/9/08
I choose sex appeal because women with sex appeal will look prettier
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Posted 1/29/08
I don't think I perceive "sexy." I have conceptions of beauty, but I don't find myself aroused by human bodies/faces.
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Posted 1/29/08
i prefer beautiful over sexy but a bit of sexy isnt so bad
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Posted 1/29/08
can they not have both at the same time??? i mean, a person with sex appeal can always study and improve his/ her skills...

it dosent mean that if you are intelligent you will lose your sex appeal.. unless you dont care about it... balance is always better than leaning on to one side or the other... that way.. if someone has you, that person will be proud of you... not just that special person but your family too...

and besides,

all brain + no sex appeal = BORING

all sex appeal + no intelligence = STUPID + FAILURE IN LIFE = NO FUTURE --->rationale: sex appeal cant earn both respect and money and you wont get high goals ex. being a doctor, lawyer..etc.
Posted 1/29/08

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

That quote, sums beauty up basically.
A psychiatrist will often tell people hurt, or suffering from depression caused by matters of the heart, that 'they will find the other half of their apple'.
Meaning, a person often searches for their equal. In looks and intellect. People find people who have similar physical traits beautiful, as it reminds them of their family and will feel a connection with them. That is why a person you find beautiful, the next person may disagree with you.

Sex appeal is entirely different then beauty, even though they may go hand in hand. You may find LOADS of things sexy, but do they pull on your heart strings like an object or person that you find beautiful does?
Sex appeal is something that sends messages to your brain telling you that what you are looking at has something to do with the action 'procreation' and makes you feel aroused by whatever you are seeing or feeling for the other person.
A character from the novel 'The Great Gatsby' comes to mind about sex appeal, and I'll tell you why.


She was in the middle thirties, and faintly stout, but she carried her flesh sensuously as some women can. Her face... contained no facet or gleam of beauty, but there was an immediately perceptible vitality about her as if the nerves of her body were continually smouldering.

As you can tell from the word 'stout' the character is quite plump, and that physical characteristic is not usually linked with the term 'sexy', but it continues very suddenly saying that she carried her weight 'sensuously'. By all means this character wasn't a very fortunate person in the looks department, but she did carry herself as if she was a common harlot, causing one of the other characters to make her his mistress.

Beauty is something a person wants to attach themselves to and always be in the presence of. This is where marriage comes into the equation. Sex appeal is IN there somewhere, and a playing role to finding a person beautiful, but it isn't the MAIN role.

So, in a round about conclusion:
Sex Appeal = Something that causes people to become aroused. May only last a few days.
Beauty = An attachment to a person, you admire them like you would do a painting.
Beauty + Sex Appeal = Love/Marriage/Kids/Life of Happiness/etc with the above two.

I find a person sexy, but wouldn't feel any connection with them, I know I wouldn't want to pursue the relationship into anything else, other then what it is with the person.
If I find a person beautiful, its usually to do with their personality, little quirks they have in their personality and their physical appearance. Such as a dark freckle below an eye. People would call it a flaw, but to me it would be endearing and beautiful.
It all comes down to what a particular person prefers, and what they feel familiar with. Beauty and Sex appeal are linked, but are usually found separate.

Hope that wasn't too waffley. xD If you don't know what the feck I am talking about, do ask, and I'll try to define what I am talking about.
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Posted 1/29/08
That depends. Since there are different ways you can look at sex appeal and beauty. Do we mean the socially popular idea on what's sexy or beautiful? Or do we mean what the individual sees as sexy and beautiful?

For example.
Society can view sexy as: Victoria Secret model wearing black lingerie (i think most guys will agree)
Individuals can view sexy as: A big body-building woman wearing a leather puppy costume.
Or do we mean sexy as in attitude or something in the girl's mind? ie. their intelligence, their love of ballads, etc.

Beauty is even more hard since it encompasses more than one thing as well. What kind of beauty? Physical beauty?
Society's view on what's physically beautiful as: Jessica Alba
Individual " ": A rough and tough farm girl with a boyish look. (I dunno. First thing that came in my head)

I agree that beauty is more important. But that's because beauty is what everyone desires or wishes they had. Sex appeal is merely one of many possible ways to amplify or get closer to looking more beautiful.
If you mean beauty as in beyond skin deep; of course, a person's beauty beneath their skin is important as well but physical appearance is still important. We appreciate beautiful artwork, scenery, houses, etc. Yet, stressing any importance on a person's physical appearance has become taboo because... people's feelings get hurt or it's shallow? If you only look at physical appearance, you might be shallow. But physical beauty as well as inner-beauty are important. How much of each a person cares about is up their own personal tastes. Depending on the balance or level of their physical and inner beauty; you can sort of gauge how beautiful they are to you.

Dressing or putting on makeup to look more sexy or to look more beautiful is a form of a mating ritual. Someone who is physically beautiful to most people no matter what they wear without makeup can pull it off; but they are very lucky and a small minority. Whether we wear something cute, sexy, professional, glamorous, or intelligent; it's in order to raise our physical appeal to others or those we want to attract. Even as a guy, when I go on a date; I want to dress clean, fashionable, and somewhat sexy. You can't run around in rags screaming out that you don't need to dress up to look beautiful. You might not necessarily have to dress up but it usually helps.
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Posted 1/29/08
i do believe being sexy and being beautiful are two different things. Sexy is something for instance that a women would be if she had on a tank top shownig cleavege, and a mini skirt with high heeled boots. Beautiful is something a women would be if she was walking down the asile on her wedding day, P&S and this is from a girls perspective so i think i would know better guys.
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