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Is romance dead?
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Basically, from the way I look at it, love isn't really love anymore (since its more commonly mistaken as lust). Its almost like the word itself is used so freely now that its worth close to nothing. There's no emotional build up to it, no passion anywhere. For instance, before people use to romance each other, the guy wooing the lady into submission with his dazzling charm and charisma. All around I see people confessing, "dating", saying that they love each other, while never really connecting. It just seems like no one's willing to put the effort anymore...
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Love doesnt die as long as people beleive in it.
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ur 16 buddy wait acouple years. All teenagers want at your age is the "lust" and not the romance-be-with-you-forever type of love.
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cholowoo wrote:

Basically, from the way I look at it, love isn't really love anymore (since its more commonly mistaken as lust). Its almost like the word itself is used so freely now that its worth close to nothing. There's no emotional build up to it, no passion anywhere. For instance, before people use to romance each other, the guy wooing the lady into submission with his dazzling charm and charisma. All around I see people confessing, "dating", saying that they love each other, while never really connecting. It just seems like no one's willing to put the effort anymore...


Maybe part of that is true, but now im not sure.
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Sorry life isn't some anime where little high school kids fall in love and live happily ever after. Love does exist but not a lot during the adolescence age.
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lol, actually, life isn't what people think it is....^^ that's the main point of the story. Love exists, but it's not what you think and what the media show you. ^^
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solidus wrote:

ur 16 buddy wait acouple years. All teenagers want at your age is the "lust" and not the romance-be-with-you-forever type of love.


You’re like…two years older than him. Your hormones are exactly the same. I love when people think that they’re all mature just because they turn 18 or 21. You may be a legal adult, but people don’t mature enough to be called adults until at least 35. I’m sure there are a few exceptions, but they’re incredibly rare.

As far as this:

cholowoo wrote:

Basically, from the way I look at it, love isn't really love anymore (since its more commonly mistaken as lust). Its almost like the word itself is used so freely now that its worth close to nothing. There's no emotional build up to it, no passion anywhere. For instance, before people use to romance each other, the guy wooing the lady into submission with his dazzling charm and charisma. All around I see people confessing, "dating", saying that they love each other, while never really connecting. It just seems like no one's willing to put the effort anymore...


People confuse what love truly is. I’m sixteen and I’ve never really fallen in love. (Well, I love my mom, but that’s different!) This being said I still believe that love is something of longevity. These people who say they love each other and then leave as soon as the initial sensuality and passion dies out are -not- in love.

People mistake love for not only lust but also obsession. (Stalkers -_-) affection, admiration, and some other things. However, here are some ways I think you can identify love:

1. Selflessness. Those people you hear talking about how they’re going to get somebody no matter what said person feels about it, are not in love. Their obsessed. If you love somebody you want the best for them, even if that is not you.
2. Trust. I think if you love somebody, rather its diligent or not, you’ll find yourself blinded against any concept that there can be anything wrong about them. This is why you see those mothers who act like their children can’t do anything wrong. Emotions blind that part of you, so in a relationship the idea that the one you love simply wont come to mind. (Maybe while your sitting alone, but you’ll blow it off.)
3. Generous. When you love somebody you enjoy to do things for them.
4. Commiserating. He’ll listen to her drama and be interested no matter how dull it is. :P
5. Forgiveness. Even if the person you love screws up you’ll forgive them.
6. Acting like a total moron. Emotions clout judgment. If you love somebody you might as well give up on being sly.
7. Shyness. It’s hard to talk to somebody you love at first.
8. Openness. Once you get to know them, however, you feel you can open up to them.

I suppose there are more but that is my picture of love. Who knows. I’ve never been in love. I choose to believe it because the bible, partially, and partially because it’s prettier to believe it. In the end, however, I’ve never been in love.

Still, romance is probably dying. People only care about themselves these days. I don’t think it’s completely dead yet, but pretty dang close. Too bad. Here’s the parody of this truth…people and peers are making life lonely with their selfishness.
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SeraphAlford wrote:


solidus wrote:

ur 16 buddy wait acouple years. All teenagers want at your age is the "lust" and not the romance-be-with-you-forever type of love.


You’re like…two years older than him. Your hormones are exactly the same. I love when people think that they’re all mature just because they turn 18 or 21. You may be a legal adult, but people don’t mature enough to be called adults until at least 35. I’m sure there are a few exceptions, but they’re incredibly rare.

As far as this:

cholowoo wrote:

Basically, from the way I look at it, love isn't really love anymore (since its more commonly mistaken as lust). Its almost like the word itself is used so freely now that its worth close to nothing. There's no emotional build up to it, no passion anywhere. For instance, before people use to romance each other, the guy wooing the lady into submission with his dazzling charm and charisma. All around I see people confessing, "dating", saying that they love each other, while never really connecting. It just seems like no one's willing to put the effort anymore...


People confuse what love truly is. I’m sixteen and I’ve never really fallen in love. (Well, I love my mom, but that’s different!) This being said I still believe that love is something of longevity. These people who say they love each other and then leave as soon as the initial sensuality and passion dies out are -not- in love.

People mistake love for not only lust but also obsession. (Stalkers -_-) affection, admiration, and some other things. However, here are some ways I think you can identify love:

1. Selflessness. Those people you hear talking about how they’re going to get somebody no matter what said person feels about it, are not in love. Their obsessed. If you love somebody you want the best for them, even if that is not you.
2. Trust. I think if you love somebody, rather its diligent or not, you’ll find yourself blinded against any concept that there can be anything wrong about them. This is why you see those mothers who act like their children can’t do anything wrong. Emotions blind that part of you, so in a relationship the idea that the one you love simply wont come to mind. (Maybe while your sitting alone, but you’ll blow it off.)
3. Generous. When you love somebody you enjoy to do things for them.
4. Commiserating. He’ll listen to her drama and be interested no matter how dull it is. :P
5. Forgiveness. Even if the person you love screws up you’ll forgive them.
6. Acting like a total moron. Emotions clout judgment. If you love somebody you might as well give up on being sly.
7. Shyness. It’s hard to talk to somebody you love at first.
8. Openness. Once you get to know them, however, you feel you can open up to them.

I suppose there are more but that is my picture of love. Who knows. I’ve never been in love. I choose to believe it because the bible, partially, and partially because it’s prettier to believe it. In the end, however, I’ve never been in love.

Still, romance is probably dying. People only care about themselves these days. I don’t think it’s completely dead yet, but pretty dang close. Too bad. Here’s the parody of this truth…people and peers are making life lonely with their selfishness.


Wow thats well put. So basically to rap that up love can blind the truth, right?
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SeraphAlford;
well said. there's really nothing i can say after you've said all that. i agree with you on all points. it's just that now people don't seem to have the time for "romance". i mean love does exist, it's just harder now a days to show it. parents love each other, but the kids rarely these days see their parents being affectionate with each other, they rarely see their parents go out alone, or spend quality time together, it's not that the parent's don't love each other, it's just lack of time.
that's another part of love, even if you're not with them all the time, even if you're in another country, no matter where, how far, you'll still love them.
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i read half the posts up there because,well,i'm lazy. -_-
anyways,i woudln't know...but,i might never.so ya.
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Love wasn't really love a thousand years ago either.

The social world will tell you what it thinks love is, and you're supposed to follow it?

Love is what you make of it.
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BlazingKnight wrote:


SeraphAlford wrote:


solidus wrote:

ur 16 buddy wait acouple years. All teenagers want at your age is the "lust" and not the romance-be-with-you-forever type of love.


You’re like…two years older than him. Your hormones are exactly the same. I love when people think that they’re all mature just because they turn 18 or 21. You may be a legal adult, but people don’t mature enough to be called adults until at least 35. I’m sure there are a few exceptions, but they’re incredibly rare.

As far as this:

cholowoo wrote:

Basically, from the way I look at it, love isn't really love anymore (since its more commonly mistaken as lust). Its almost like the word itself is used so freely now that its worth close to nothing. There's no emotional build up to it, no passion anywhere. For instance, before people use to romance each other, the guy wooing the lady into submission with his dazzling charm and charisma. All around I see people confessing, "dating", saying that they love each other, while never really connecting. It just seems like no one's willing to put the effort anymore...


People confuse what love truly is. I’m sixteen and I’ve never really fallen in love. (Well, I love my mom, but that’s different!) This being said I still believe that love is something of longevity. These people who say they love each other and then leave as soon as the initial sensuality and passion dies out are -not- in love.

People mistake love for not only lust but also obsession. (Stalkers -_-) affection, admiration, and some other things. However, here are some ways I think you can identify love:

1. Selflessness. Those people you hear talking about how they’re going to get somebody no matter what said person feels about it, are not in love. Their obsessed. If you love somebody you want the best for them, even if that is not you.
2. Trust. I think if you love somebody, rather its diligent or not, you’ll find yourself blinded against any concept that there can be anything wrong about them. This is why you see those mothers who act like their children can’t do anything wrong. Emotions blind that part of you, so in a relationship the idea that the one you love simply wont come to mind. (Maybe while your sitting alone, but you’ll blow it off.)
3. Generous. When you love somebody you enjoy to do things for them.
4. Commiserating. He’ll listen to her drama and be interested no matter how dull it is. :P
5. Forgiveness. Even if the person you love screws up you’ll forgive them.
6. Acting like a total moron. Emotions clout judgment. If you love somebody you might as well give up on being sly.
7. Shyness. It’s hard to talk to somebody you love at first.
8. Openness. Once you get to know them, however, you feel you can open up to them.

I suppose there are more but that is my picture of love. Who knows. I’ve never been in love. I choose to believe it because the bible, partially, and partially because it’s prettier to believe it. In the end, however, I’ve never been in love.

Still, romance is probably dying. People only care about themselves these days. I don’t think it’s completely dead yet, but pretty dang close. Too bad. Here’s the parody of this truth…people and peers are making life lonely with their selfishness.


Wow thats well put. So basically to rap that up love can blind the truth, right?


Well, that’s a tiny part of it, but I think you missed the central theme.


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SeraphAlford;
well said. there's really nothing i can say after you've said all that. i agree with you on all points. it's just that now people don't seem to have the time for "romance". i mean love does exist, it's just harder now a days to show it. parents love each other, but the kids rarely these days see their parents being affectionate with each other, they rarely see their parents go out alone, or spend quality time together, it's not that the parent's don't love each other, it's just lack of time.
that's another part of love, even if you're not with them all the time, even if you're in another country, no matter where, how far, you'll still love them.


Yes, that’s a very good point. This worlds become so complicated. I also think the fact that more mothers are working has something to do with it too. I think women should work, but I still feel that all and all a mother being at home is the better system. However, that’s rarely possible these days. Most people can’t support a family on a single income.


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love is nothing but lust nowadays. true love/romance is hard to find. ( well i guess there's alot in anime and dramas)
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i think people ignore the whole romance point and skip right to sex. its kinda sad. no romance?! ahhhhh
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romance is a part of a relationship. if 2 persons have need for sex,then its lust but i hate when the girl really likes a boy and she's deeply in love with him. and he's only after the sex, i really hate that. and i think the words 'i love you' is overused in this world.
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