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Your life or your friend?
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25 / M / JPN -> KR -> USA
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Posted 9/10/07
uhhh duh! my life.. because my friends will probably say same thing..
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27 / M / Australia
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Posted 9/11/07
if they are a true friend, the shouldn't expect you to change,

but on the other hand i have a couple friends i would change for if asked to (but they won't ask me to change, i think)

i agree with allot of other people here, depends whats its for
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36 / M / uae
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Posted 9/11/07
im just being myself, if you cant accept it then its your loss not mine.. i cud be your best friend but i cud be your worst enemy..
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23 / M / NSW, Australia
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Posted 9/11/07
i would point at my friends and shout at the top of my ungs
'I AM NOT FALLING UNDER UR RULE, PEER PRESSURE MAN!!!!'
and then start chanting 'peer pressure man'
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25 / M / Malaysia
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Posted 10/15/07
its so simple......definitely life............if no life, then no friend
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31 / M / City of Devils
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Posted 10/15/07
well i wont.nobody tells me wat i should do with my life
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31 / M / None of your busi...
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Posted 10/15/07
My life.Even my friends know you have to focus more on their lives then their friends so tehy can move on for their goals.
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76 / F
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Posted 10/15/07
They say that change is a good thing.

And changing yourself to better yourself is also a good thing.

But if a friend needs to threaten you in order to change, maybe the change for the better doesn't need to happen for you, but for them.

Friends come in many shapes and sizes, and not all of them support eachother like the classic movie friendship. Sadly not all of us can have a bond with someone when they know all our secrets and we're such great friends that they would accept us for who we are.
Truely though, the only way to change is to want to change yourself for yourself, so your friend really can't do anything about it. If your mom wanted you to start eating healthier or she would ground you, would you really do it to better yourself of do it for their sake?

If you want advice on what to do, go with what your head says. Not your heart, not your friends, not any of us. What your mind thinks, if you think what your friend is saying will help you change for the better in your head, then do it.
If you want to change for her sake (which is ur heart speaking) think it more clearly, if you decide not to want to change then screw her.

But put yourself first, thats the only way you'll get anywhere.
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29 / M / Abilene TX
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Posted 10/15/07
you should never do anything for your friends if they were the real friends the wouldn't care what you did they would try to look after you and help you but never tell you they wont befriends with you.
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22 / F / ...Boredom Centra...
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Posted 10/15/07
I wouldn't change for no one! Like everyone said, it depend on who it is really.

"Friends should except you for who you are and not try to change you." It's the way you are now that made them your friend in the first place. :D

If they are trying to make you a better person then they should support you the whole way. Those are the best of friends. ^_____^

~Sai
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31 / F / Brooklyn, NY
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I had this happen. In sixth grade my grandmother died and a few days after that my best friend stopped speaking to me because I was too depressing after she asked me to stop being so sad. We became friends again after that, but I dont speak to her anymore. I haven't for a few months. I would have put my life on the line for her, I loved her like a sister and a best friend. But I will not accept someone telling me or treating me that I am inferior or that I need to change. I may not be all that great, I'm sure, but did she think that she was all that great?

I work to change myself constantly, but not to suit other people. I'm way to shy. I tend to be a wallflower. And I work to change these things because I think I am not experiencing life to it's fullest. But who has the right to tell me that something is wrong with me if I don' acknowledge it first?

Try this, if you have to. Stop talking to her for, say 1 month. Have no contact. If your life is soo aweful with her not in it, then try to patch things up with her. If you find that things aren't really all that bad, then maybe she isnt' worth it. I did it. And Nothing in my life has changed without my bf in it. In fact, I think I might be a little happier. But she really wasn't a nice person...

I'm rambling...
Posted 10/15/07
friend. what use am i to life and what use do i have for life?
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Posted 10/15/07
Well.....I am selfish. So I will say my life. Then agian...I am unmarried and do not have children. Otherwise my answer would be diffrent. Unless it was like...My blood holding the cure for AIDS or something. Blah.
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31 / F / Brooklyn, NY
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Posted 10/15/07
... one more thing...

No one likes everything about any person. There is something or many somethings in any person that are going to piss you off. But we become friends with people in spite of these things and we accept them despite of these things. It's a two way street. If she doesn't like something about you.. tell her ou'll change when she changes...

But it also depends on what she wants you to change. If you spend all your time in a dark room watching depressing movies, than I think maybe your friend might have a point. But if you are a littly opinionated or mouthy than she can get over it...
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Posted 10/15/07
friends like each other for who they are
unless you changed in a bad way during your friendship and your friend doesn't like who you've become and is trying to change you rather than saying "i don't wanna be your friend anymore cuz you've changed"
if that's the case i would change
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