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why is looks so important always when making relationship?
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i know that i should habve positive attidute and have coinfidence..........but i still am so aware about everything i lack.......and that way i could refine myself in those things but is it worth it?.......you start being something you are not and when you are something you are not what are you?^^


ur not neccessarily changn into sumone ur not. u still have the same values and opinions, ur just able to speak up abt them rather than shy away. honestly if u were at a party and u went over to talk to the shyest girl wat kind of conversation wud u have? A VERY SHORT ONE with one word answers and alot of shy giggling. OR u cud get the really nice girl whos talkative and pretty at the same time, doesnt have to be pretty but the more u like sumone the more fanciable they become. sumone u can have a ocnversation with and laugh with and do silly things with, now come on wat sounds more fun?
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Posted 3/17/08 , edited 3/17/08

Stickmania wrote:

Well there are two contradictory sayings around. 'Never Judge a book by its cover' and 'first impressions are everything'. Basically the second one is right because nobody ever listens to the first one, you WILL be judged by your 'cover' so to speak. Also there is an element of actually being attracted to someone in a sexual way. Essentially looks are far more important than personality if you want to get a girlfriend, personality only really matters if you want to make it last.


i dont agree the part whereby looks are far more important than character if you are getting a gf.. I mean looks are important. But would you date a person who is attractive yet has a bad attitude? i think you wouldnt even wanna talk to him/her.
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all u need is confidence! the not so gd lookn girl always shines wen shes confident and smiley. if ur gd lookin sure that gives u an advantage cos ppl wanna talk to u, but as said b4 looks wont save u if ur personality is crap. no one wants to talk to the shy person who u can hardly talk to right??? ppl wanna talk to those who can have a conversation wether they r gd lookn r not. its just most ppl talk to gd lookn ppl and thats y gd lookn ppl have more confidence.


and there comes one probnlem too........i just do what i have to do with my best abilities and really dont say anything because i dont really have anything to say really^^


and u think thats interesting, having nothing to say? even if its not long term gf marriage material u still wanna be able to communicate with ur gf and have fun.

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Why dont u act like someone else instead of being urself since we all know urself is crap
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ur not neccessarily changn into sumone ur not. u still have the same values and opinions, ur just able to speak up abt them rather than shy away. honestly if u were at a party and u went over to talk to the shyest girl wat kind of conversation wud u have? A VERY SHORT ONE with one word answers and alot of shy giggling. OR u cud get the really nice girl whos talkative and pretty at the same time, doesnt have to be pretty but the more u like sumone the more fanciable they become. sumone u can have a ocnversation with and laugh with and do silly things with, now come on wat sounds more fun?

i know that i should habve positive attidute and have coinfidence..........but i still am so aware about everything i lack.......and that way i could refine myself in those things but is it worth it?.......you start being something you are not and when you are something you are not what are you?^^





when i am speaking up people will only laugh at my dreams and thoughts.......so why to bother?
Posted 3/17/08 , edited 3/17/08

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Stickmania wrote:

Well there are two contradictory sayings around. 'Never Judge a book by its cover' and 'first impressions are everything'. Basically the second one is right because nobody ever listens to the first one, you WILL be judged by your 'cover' so to speak. Also there is an element of actually being attracted to someone in a sexual way. Essentially looks are far more important than personality if you want to get a girlfriend, personality only really matters if you want to make it last.


i dont agree the part whereby looks are far more important than character if you are getting a gf.. I mean looks are important. But would you date a person who is attractive yet has a bad attitude? i think you wouldnt even wanna talk to him/her.


Lots of people date people without knowing them well first. Also its possible to pretend that you are something you are not and hide your true personality in order to get a member of the opposite sex to like you, but it is not possible to hide your true looks. In the long run the truth will out so they say but in the short term 90% of people are very very shallow.
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when i am speaking up people will only laugh at my dreams and thoughts.......so why to bother?



u just havent met the right person or crowd that shares the same interests as u. i have lots of different groups of friends some hate each other becos they dnt share the same values or interests. ok hateings going abit far but wat i mean is i have punk, goth friends and really girly barbie friends and smart friends and sum silly freinds all who i love to bits. u just shudnt care wat ppl think and just be urself and one day u'll meet sumone or sum ppl who share things in common with u and ur ideals. ur never gonna meet ppl like that if ur just quiet and dnt speak up and let ppl know ur personality.
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You should try being funny it always works at school
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tngrqb123 wrote:


Stickmania wrote:

Well there are two contradictory sayings around. 'Never Judge a book by its cover' and 'first impressions are everything'. Basically the second one is right because nobody ever listens to the first one, you WILL be judged by your 'cover' so to speak. Also there is an element of actually being attracted to someone in a sexual way. Essentially looks are far more important than personality if you want to get a girlfriend, personality only really matters if you want to make it last.


i dont agree the part whereby looks are far more important than character if you are getting a gf.. I mean looks are important. But would you date a person who is attractive yet has a bad attitude? i think you wouldnt even wanna talk to him/her.


Lots of people date people without knowing them well first. Also its possible to pretend that you are something you are not and hide your true personality in order to get a member of the opposite sex to like you, but it is not possible to hide your true looks. In the long run the truth will out so they say but in the short term 90% of people are very very shallow.


lol. thats why the divorce rates and breaking up rates are increasing. =-= tsk tsk
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I wouldn't want to be seen hanging out with a poorly dressed guy...!!! And who likes talking to someone who you find annoying and not so attractive to look at?


it is just so harsh you know?........you cant look good and coool even if you tried your bewst and everyone ignores you so why to bother to try to be something else?^^


lol... I have NO IDEA what you just wrote. But, all I'm saying is you do judge a person's appearance and if it's not a pretty sight, you could care less. I'm sorry if this sounds mean or harsh but it's the truth. I know personality also counts but a cute handsome face to look at is also a positive in the relationship. Have a nice day!


well my head is thebiggest problem i have.......it does just not look good in this body^^
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I think to some degree you have to be physically attracted to the person you are going to be with. I think looks are important becasue it does have a role when deciding who you want to make a relationship with. However, its not the only thing that decides it. For me personally, when someone has a good personality, it makes their physical features even better. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Someone I think is attractive may not be attractive to someone else. Everyone has their own preferences and ways of looking at people. Even those people who "aren't so cool" as you put it, have people that do think they are cool.


and when they find something which is not cool they start dislike you^^


Thats not true. NOBODY is perfect and EVERYONE has their flaws. Its up to that person if they want to deal with it or not. You are still young and may not understand but a negative attitude like that isn't going to help you. You have to have more confidence in yourself and not let others define you or who you are. There are certain things that people don't like about me but that doesn't mean they dislike me as a person. Everyone has their idiosyncracies and their pet peeves. Not everyone is going to like you but not everyone is going to hate you either.


i know that i should habve positive attidute and have coinfidence..........but i still am so aware about everything i lack.......and that way i could refine myself in those things but is it worth it?.......you start being something you are not and when you are something you are not what are you?^^


I understand where you are coming from. However, there is a BIG difference between trying to change your actual character and trying to change to become a more positive person or changing positive aspects of your life. For example, I used to be really negative about things when I was younger but I decided for myself that I wanted to be happy and not let negative things and thoughts control me. Both bad and good things happen all the time but you can either learn from it or dwell on it. Its totally up to you. Don't try to change into something you aren't but you CAN change into something that will better yourself.
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when i am speaking up people will only laugh at my dreams and thoughts.......so why to bother?



u just havent met the right person or crowd that shares the same interests as u. i have lots of different groups of friends some hate each other becos they dnt share the same values or interests. ok hateings going abit far but wat i mean is i have punk, goth friends and really girly barbie friends and smart friends and sum silly freinds all who i love to bits. u just shudnt care wat ppl think and just be urself and one day u'll meet sumone or sum ppl who share things in common with u and ur ideals. ur never gonna meet ppl like that if ur just quiet and dnt speak up and let ppl know ur personality.


they would become really messed up if i told them everything what moves in my head^^.......i just can corrupt people just sharing my darkest thoughts.........so i dont think people should know what i have done what i really am.......they would just run away....
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I look for looks then if they r bitchy Im through wit em... and I just love styling my hair and keeping it nice.. i like to keep my hair in order the most
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deadly01 wrote:






when i am speaking up people will only laugh at my dreams and thoughts.......so why to bother?



u just havent met the right person or crowd that shares the same interests as u. i have lots of different groups of friends some hate each other becos they dnt share the same values or interests. ok hateings going abit far but wat i mean is i have punk, goth friends and really girly barbie friends and smart friends and sum silly freinds all who i love to bits. u just shudnt care wat ppl think and just be urself and one day u'll meet sumone or sum ppl who share things in common with u and ur ideals. ur never gonna meet ppl like that if ur just quiet and dnt speak up and let ppl know ur personality.


they would become really messed up if i told them everything what moves in my head^^.......i just can corrupt people just sharing my darkest thoughts.........so i dont think people should know what i have done what i really am.......they would just run away....


heyy. look on the bright side of life. i bet u can improve the way you are now.
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well in a relationship, you gotta be attracted to the person, not so much that its the major factor in the relationship....but you know, you have to find them at least decent looking.....at least for me :]
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