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why is looks so important always when making relationship?
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Posted 3/17/08

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I think to some degree you have to be physically attracted to the person you are going to be with. I think looks are important becasue it does have a role when deciding who you want to make a relationship with. However, its not the only thing that decides it. For me personally, when someone has a good personality, it makes their physical features even better. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Someone I think is attractive may not be attractive to someone else. Everyone has their own preferences and ways of looking at people. Even those people who "aren't so cool" as you put it, have people that do think they are cool.


and when they find something which is not cool they start dislike you^^


Thats not true. NOBODY is perfect and EVERYONE has their flaws. Its up to that person if they want to deal with it or not. You are still young and may not understand but a negative attitude like that isn't going to help you. You have to have more confidence in yourself and not let others define you or who you are. There are certain things that people don't like about me but that doesn't mean they dislike me as a person. Everyone has their idiosyncracies and their pet peeves. Not everyone is going to like you but not everyone is going to hate you either.


i know that i should habve positive attidute and have coinfidence..........but i still am so aware about everything i lack.......and that way i could refine myself in those things but is it worth it?.......you start being something you are not and when you are something you are not what are you?^^


I understand where you are coming from. However, there is a BIG difference between trying to change your actual character and trying to change to become a more positive person or changing positive aspects of your life. For example, I used to be really negative about things when I was younger but I decided for myself that I wanted to be happy and not let negative things and thoughts control me. Both bad and good things happen all the time but you can either learn from it or dwell on it. Its totally up to you. Don't try to change into something you aren't but you CAN change into something that will better yourself.


but it really does not matter what i am does it?
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when i am speaking up people will only laugh at my dreams and thoughts.......so why to bother?



u just havent met the right person or crowd that shares the same interests as u. i have lots of different groups of friends some hate each other becos they dnt share the same values or interests. ok hateings going abit far but wat i mean is i have punk, goth friends and really girly barbie friends and smart friends and sum silly freinds all who i love to bits. u just shudnt care wat ppl think and just be urself and one day u'll meet sumone or sum ppl who share things in common with u and ur ideals. ur never gonna meet ppl like that if ur just quiet and dnt speak up and let ppl know ur personality.


they would become really messed up if i told them everything what moves in my head^^.......i just can corrupt people just sharing my darkest thoughts.........so i dont think people should know what i have done what i really am.......they would just run away....


heyy. look on the bright side of life. i bet u can improve the way you are now.


why i should improve myself?......
i am just sick twisted man who tries to be good and nice to all.......but all the time i cant be mister nice guy.......somtimes i just have to burst out my bad feelings and cry after what i have done^^
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Posted 3/17/08

narutofan999 wrote:


Tashi_Chan wrote:


narutofan999 wrote:


Tashi_Chan wrote:


narutofan999 wrote:


Tashi_Chan wrote:

I think to some degree you have to be physically attracted to the person you are going to be with. I think looks are important becasue it does have a role when deciding who you want to make a relationship with. However, its not the only thing that decides it. For me personally, when someone has a good personality, it makes their physical features even better. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Someone I think is attractive may not be attractive to someone else. Everyone has their own preferences and ways of looking at people. Even those people who "aren't so cool" as you put it, have people that do think they are cool.


and when they find something which is not cool they start dislike you^^


Thats not true. NOBODY is perfect and EVERYONE has their flaws. Its up to that person if they want to deal with it or not. You are still young and may not understand but a negative attitude like that isn't going to help you. You have to have more confidence in yourself and not let others define you or who you are. There are certain things that people don't like about me but that doesn't mean they dislike me as a person. Everyone has their idiosyncracies and their pet peeves. Not everyone is going to like you but not everyone is going to hate you either.


i know that i should habve positive attidute and have coinfidence..........but i still am so aware about everything i lack.......and that way i could refine myself in those things but is it worth it?.......you start being something you are not and when you are something you are not what are you?^^


I understand where you are coming from. However, there is a BIG difference between trying to change your actual character and trying to change to become a more positive person or changing positive aspects of your life. For example, I used to be really negative about things when I was younger but I decided for myself that I wanted to be happy and not let negative things and thoughts control me. Both bad and good things happen all the time but you can either learn from it or dwell on it. Its totally up to you. Don't try to change into something you aren't but you CAN change into something that will better yourself.


but it really does not matter what i am does it?


If it didn't matter to you, then you probably wouldn't have made this post and/or be so negative about it but as long as you are happy with yourself and who you are then it really doesn't matter and it doesn't matter what others think. As long as you are happy then thats great. If not, then I don't know what to tell you. Its just something you have to figure out. You're still young and have a lot to learn anyways. You'll be alright. ^_^

Posted 3/22/08
Well some sexual attraction is important.
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Posted 3/22/08
Lets get one thing straight.
Looks don't matter, as long as you don't have a disfigured face, a guy is all about attitude. Jesus Christ man.

I'll drink some more to that, cheers to jesus and tough guys.
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I talked to my boyfriend over the phone before he actually met me in person. [we did NOT meet on myspace] Neither of us are the best looking but we make it work because we had already had sexual attraction.
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Posted 3/22/08
how about:

Why ARE looks so important when making relationships.
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Posted 9/25/09
^ Yeah.

Well, that's not *really* true. I mean, looks will always play a part, but once you get older, it doesn't matter so much. Not that you can roll out of bed and expect people to swoon over your great personality, but it dies down once people grow up.
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The first people see are looks they overlook everything else. people are superficial so interested in looks that forget what is really important heart. I look for the the beauty in others hearts it is what draws to people not by their outward appearances. Thats how it should be...only a few people actually get it.
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Posted 9/26/09

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well i look normal i guess..........but no one is never interested about always chasing the one guy who might be gay or who is cool and sexy.........who just does not care about them.........there are guys and girls who dont look so cool etc.......but they care so why looks are so important???


Im sure you look fine people will love you who you are and if they dont they they are not true friends. Be yourself dont try to be something your not, dont let any one bring you down with there harsh words. Everyone has something in them that makes them special and so do you, you might not realize it right but soon it shine.....like the brightest star at night.
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I personally don't care so much about looks...(ok I want someone to have all his parts and not be blind,or deaf :P)
anyway!
My boyfriend now,doesn't really have the looks,but he has a great personality,and i'm not bored of him at all :D
It's true that most guys though pay much attention on the looks...and especially the body >.<(just like most girls :P)
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Posted 10/4/09
lol at the flame war as such i am high jacking this thread and it is now about bananas you know you love them
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Posted 10/4/09 , edited 10/4/09
These days, people prefer to judge the person by its appearance than the true inner beauty. So I have to agree with DRO1 that people nowadays are shallow.
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Posted 10/4/09
Well personality does matter, but looks do too... i mean if it was a really nice guy but he smelled really bad and looked like a monster.. Average looking is okay though... at least its not like a kiss from a horror movie..
But i suppose people have different ideas of average, ugly and pretty
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