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Posted 9/4/07
Of course the age difference matters when your in High school. Any normal person would feel like (and seem like) a pedo. for dating someone a year or two younger.
I think it gets better as your older though. ^^'

And age really is just a number. I think a 40 year old guy could marry and live happily ever after with a 20 year old. The reason why that normally doesn't happen is because those 40 year olds are just looking for someone to make them feel young again, they aren't even wanting to settle down.
For some, age has nothing to do with their maturity.
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Posted 9/4/07
lol i don't mind if the years are not too far apart like more than 8 years
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I thought this was going to be a thread on the Oedipus Complex. If it's just about age then it's a repeat.
Does age matter in Love?
http://www.crunchyroll.com/showforumtopic?id=6695
^please post here.

If you want to stick to Oedipus Complex though, oh man I could go on. Someone inform me and I'll start writing, until then I can spare you all of paragraphs.
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Posted 9/4/07

chocofluffywhip wrote:

I thought this was going to be a thread on the Oedipus Complex. If it's just about age then it's a repeat.
Does age matter in Love?
http://www.crunchyroll.com/showforumtopic?id=6695
^please post here.

If you want to stick to Oedipus Complex though, oh man I could go on. Someone inform me and I'll start writing, until then I can spare you all of paragraphs.


I guess i'll stick to Oedipus Complex.
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I'm cute.
Posted 2/6/12
Yeah, about that.
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Posted 2/8/12
I'm use to dating guys who are like a year are two older than me but the last guy i dated was younger than me I couldnt take it,it was fun in the beginning. He would get jealous over he dumbest things. My friend Sky she dates like super old dudes,like guys in their 40s and 30s and shes like 19,but i guess it works for her because i really don't think a younger guy or a guy our age could ever deal with her. I think relationships with age gaps all depend on the maturity level of the people in the relationship
Posted 2/9/12

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I'm cute.


Aw, who's the darling? Who is it? You are, you are! Goochie woochie booboo!
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Posted 2/9/12

D01BCDN3 wrote:


snuffie wrote:

I'm cute.


Aw, who's the darling? Who is it? You are, you are! Goochie woochie booboo!


Posted 3/5/12

ChrisOnline wrote:

hmm.. those kinds of relationships dont last long.. due to the age and maturity difference.. it'll cause lots a friction between the 2 parties.. so.. it wont be advisable to get into a relationship like this one.

Edit: at first, i tot it was a new anime/manga.. zzz.. cosplay complex, lovely complex..
what a strange title to begin with..


Well, I'm glad you're not ending anything before it starts.

Anyway, just prepare yourself for the consequences -_- And hopefully, you really like that PERSON - not just their age, if you're trying to be in a committed relationship.

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It's only natural for teen or similarly younger guys to be attracted to women who are older than they are. Just look at the way that any young man looks at an older (25+) woman. At that point, genetics kick in, and the guy can create babies while the more mature woman can safely get pregnant and raise the baby. The young guy is also going to be young and strong enough to deal with gathering, defense, and so on.

Good'ol evolutionary drive. I'm not sure if women generally feel the same way; that is, to be attracted to younger guys. On the one hand, younger guys are going to be more "flighty" and may not stick around to help raise the potential kids, and whether they're consciously thinking of that or not, this lack of commitment is very unattractive to women.

So.. who knows? I haven't read much research on the subject so I can only talk from my own experience. I do know that I have never regretted being with the 28 year old woman when I was 17. She was simply amazing. At the same time, though, younger people get jealous and possessive much faster than more mature guys do (and this is probably true for younger women, too). This was a problem in my relationship with her and it eventually made her too uncomfortable to continue the relationship.

edit: That's not to say that it wasn't risky in regards to the more physical aspects of the relationship. It was, and if there was anything to regret about it, it was a certain lack of care that was taken in regards to the physicality of things. To put it in more PG-13 terms.

Another important issue with younger men and women is that they're still discovering their interests. It's not just the guys who will be more "flighty". As the younger person discovers more about themselves and their interests, they're going to change in their attitude toward their older partner. It's possible that the younger person may like the stability inherent in the relationship, the experience, and be genuinely attracted to the older person - or it could easily be a fling. I'm not sure that the younger person will even know which is which at first.

If I had been a bit more mature then it would have lasted much longer. Like I said though I haven't read any actual research on the subject, so my experience may be the exception to the norm? I just don't know, but based on my experience, I don't see anything inherently wrong with that kind of relationship. I just see a lot of potential for instability in the relationship, depending a great day on the behavior of the younger person.

I may also be very lucky that there was nothing "weird" or manipulative about the relationship, which obviously plays a role in my perspective.

What I do know is that as a young lad, every other guy my age (15, give or take a few years) was very interested in older women.
Posted 3/15/12 , edited 3/15/12
Sorry, guys, for me to be sleeping with every mom.
Posted 3/20/12
I really have a thing for girls that are 5-6 years older
I just like the idea of a girl who is considerably more mature than me, and can kind of keep me in line.
Plus they just seem more stable.

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Posted 3/21/12
I've been attracted to guys a couple years younger than me... which is really young, like early middle school age.
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