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Posted 8/7/08 , edited 8/7/08

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LOL I actually never went through a denial stage...I'm so naive and innocent some times - i freak out about myself recalling it -- LOL @___@ I was like 11 when i realize i could be attracted to girls, and the theory to tell others never came to my mind O_o; other than to tell the girl that I liked (my best friend =_=;) that i liked her, which I did, the following night >_>; LOL, and then like, 2 months later, i started guessing i was lesbian, which it is what i am....and i just accepted it a month afterwards O_O; I was never in the denial stage saying 'no way, this is wrong, immoral, I couldn't, i shouldn't' any of those LOL, even my coming out was my accident (i was 13 almost 14) LOL @__@ my friends was asking me for the name of my crush, and I couldn't think of a name to lie fast enough and I just told them O_o; the theory of fear never came to me, the theory of rejection never occurred to me.... O___O; (everything went fine btw, LOL, but there's no way i'd tell my parents before they pay for my university fees xD hahahahahahahahahahahaha)


=_=.....u r soooooo lucky.......my experience is the exact opposite of urs..EXACT opposite....


OH really now ms.Rinako-chan? XD (not being sarcastic, attempting to be funny.)

I'd like to know please =D ~_~ and this feels weird ~_~ talking to a friend on a forum ~_~
Posted 8/7/08

Omok wrote:


Rinako-chan wrote:


Omok wrote:

LOL I actually never went through a denial stage...I'm so naive and innocent some times - i freak out about myself recalling it -- LOL @___@ I was like 11 when i realize i could be attracted to girls, and the theory to tell others never came to my mind O_o; other than to tell the girl that I liked (my best friend =_=;) that i liked her, which I did, the following night >_>; LOL, and then like, 2 months later, i started guessing i was lesbian, which it is what i am....and i just accepted it a month afterwards O_O; I was never in the denial stage saying 'no way, this is wrong, immoral, I couldn't, i shouldn't' any of those LOL, even my coming out was my accident (i was 13 almost 14) LOL @__@ my friends was asking me for the name of my crush, and I couldn't think of a name to lie fast enough and I just told them O_o; the theory of fear never came to me, the theory of rejection never occurred to me.... O___O; (everything went fine btw, LOL, but there's no way i'd tell my parents before they pay for my university fees xD hahahahahahahahahahahaha)


=_=.....u r soooooo lucky.......my experience is the exact opposite of urs..EXACT opposite....


OH really now ms.Rinako-chan? XD (not being sarcastic, attempting to be funny.)

I'd like to know please =D ~_~ and this feels weird ~_~ talking to a friend on a forum ~_~


nope...thats ok...and LOL i think talking to a friend on a forum is hilarious XD
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Posted 8/7/08

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Omok wrote:


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Omok wrote:

LOL I actually never went through a denial stage...I'm so naive and innocent some times - i freak out about myself recalling it -- LOL @___@ I was like 11 when i realize i could be attracted to girls, and the theory to tell others never came to my mind O_o; other than to tell the girl that I liked (my best friend =_=;) that i liked her, which I did, the following night >_>; LOL, and then like, 2 months later, i started guessing i was lesbian, which it is what i am....and i just accepted it a month afterwards O_O; I was never in the denial stage saying 'no way, this is wrong, immoral, I couldn't, i shouldn't' any of those LOL, even my coming out was my accident (i was 13 almost 14) LOL @__@ my friends was asking me for the name of my crush, and I couldn't think of a name to lie fast enough and I just told them O_o; the theory of fear never came to me, the theory of rejection never occurred to me.... O___O; (everything went fine btw, LOL, but there's no way i'd tell my parents before they pay for my university fees xD hahahahahahahahahahahaha)


=_=.....u r soooooo lucky.......my experience is the exact opposite of urs..EXACT opposite....


OH really now ms.Rinako-chan? XD (not being sarcastic, attempting to be funny.)

I'd like to know please =D ~_~ and this feels weird ~_~ talking to a friend on a forum ~_~


nope...thats ok...and LOL i think talking to a friend on a forum is hilarious XD


no no i insist you tell me. =) *grins* and yeah it is very amusing LOL. xD i haven't done this before.
Posted 8/7/08

Omok wrote:


Rinako-chan wrote:


Omok wrote:


Rinako-chan wrote:


Omok wrote:

LOL I actually never went through a denial stage...I'm so naive and innocent some times - i freak out about myself recalling it -- LOL @___@ I was like 11 when i realize i could be attracted to girls, and the theory to tell others never came to my mind O_o; other than to tell the girl that I liked (my best friend =_=;) that i liked her, which I did, the following night >_>; LOL, and then like, 2 months later, i started guessing i was lesbian, which it is what i am....and i just accepted it a month afterwards O_O; I was never in the denial stage saying 'no way, this is wrong, immoral, I couldn't, i shouldn't' any of those LOL, even my coming out was my accident (i was 13 almost 14) LOL @__@ my friends was asking me for the name of my crush, and I couldn't think of a name to lie fast enough and I just told them O_o; the theory of fear never came to me, the theory of rejection never occurred to me.... O___O; (everything went fine btw, LOL, but there's no way i'd tell my parents before they pay for my university fees xD hahahahahahahahahahahaha)


=_=.....u r soooooo lucky.......my experience is the exact opposite of urs..EXACT opposite....


OH really now ms.Rinako-chan? XD (not being sarcastic, attempting to be funny.)

I'd like to know please =D ~_~ and this feels weird ~_~ talking to a friend on a forum ~_~


nope...thats ok...and LOL i think talking to a friend on a forum is hilarious XD


no no i insist you tell me. =) *grins* and yeah it is very amusing LOL. xD i haven't done this before.


ya right...i'm not tellin u on da forum...NO OFFENSE TO ALL U PPL ON DA FORUM!!
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I don't think I ever had a denial stage. I mean maybe you'd only deny it to yourself if you thought it was bad, or if you thought people would think bad of you, but I don't think I really cared what other people thought. The only people I haven't told is my family, but that's only because my sisters been walking around calling me "names" like only ones people would call my type of sexuality, so my parents know but without a long explanation.
Posted 8/12/08
it took me like 2 months... ^_^
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Posted 8/13/08
i'm still there.....but i can't help liking her so much.
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Posted 9/6/08 , edited 9/7/08
i was never in denial... its coz i didn't mind your only in denial if u cant accept who u r
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i was never in denial... its coz i didn't mind your only in denial if u cant accept who u r


Nah, that's not true. I accepted who I was, but I was too afraid of losing everyone close to me if I admitted it.

I grew up in a very close minded Christian environment. We have a church right down the street from us for crying out loud. I wasn't even allowed to play Pokemon or read Harry Potter because they had "demons" in them x.x;

I've always been attracted to girls the same way I was attracted to boys, but I never knew it was "wrong" until I learned what a lesbian was at age 12. I brought it up to my mom. I told her how a girl I went to school with liked girls and the kids called her a lesbian. Her response was "She's going to burn in hell. Don't talk to her or you will too." Needless to say, I kept my mouth shut about my preferences.

My period of denial was strange. From about 12-14 I tried to force myself to be straight. I went out with any guy that would have me. I asked out every guy I met (resulting in a none too pleasant nickname). I watched straight porn. All bets were off, though, when I fell in love with one of my best friends. She completely rejected me, but I finally realized that there was no way I couldn't NOT like girls.

I officially "came out" when I was 15. My mother doesn't like it, but she deals.

Posted 12/18/08

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xAKIZAKURAx wrote:

i was never in denial... its coz i didn't mind your only in denial if u cant accept who u r


Nah, that's not true. I accepted who I was, but I was too afraid of losing everyone close to me if I admitted it.

I grew up in a very close minded Christian environment. We have a church right down the street from us for crying out loud. I wasn't even allowed to play Pokemon or read Harry Potter because they had "demons" in them x.x;

I've always been attracted to girls the same way I was attracted to boys, but I never knew it was "wrong" until I learned what a lesbian was at age 12. I brought it up to my mom. I told her how a girl I went to school with liked girls and the kids called her a lesbian. Her response was "She's going to burn in hell. Don't talk to her or you will too." Needless to say, I kept my mouth shut about my preferences.

My period of denial was strange. From about 12-14 I tried to force myself to be straight. I went out with any guy that would have me. I asked out every guy I met (resulting in a none too pleasant nickname). I watched straight porn. All bets were off, though, when I fell in love with one of my best friends. She completely rejected me, but I finally realized that there was no way I couldn't NOT like girls.

I officially "came out" when I was 15. My mother doesn't like it, but she deals.




Yeah that's true. I'm in love with my best friend for 4 years but I couldn't tell her. I just made her angry with me so that way I would no longer love her more. But then, the feeling doesn't go away xD

Good thing, I knew about YUI xD
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Posted 12/20/08
I never had one either... It just kinda happened, the more I thought about it the more it felt right, I found a name for it and ran with it... My parents don't know, but I currently need a place to live, and their it...
Posted 2/12/09
first i would like to say hii to all here ....and about that denial stage...i find out about that side of my when i first had a crush on a girl...i wose 12...i think... i tryd not to think about it..and i manage to bury it deep in side...but it came out again and im fine with it now..didnt tell anyone jet... to afraid of reactions....
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Posted 4/22/09
I dont know anymore O.o....................
I still am in the denial Stage Im...... this is so pathetic but im still waiting for that special someone to sweep me
off my Feet and give me the confidence to realize who I am TnT
its taking for ever where are YOU???
maybe im just not trying hard enough?? but im scared T~T
Posted 7/10/09
XD
I was never really in denial.
The first time I was ever attracted to a chick I never doubted in my mind that I was bi, lol... especially since I was having these feelings for quite some time.
Posted 8/27/10
I'm still kinda in the denial stage, see my whole life when I was younger people made fun of me and called me gay, even though I wasn't gay, so there is a part of me that still desperately tries to deny the fact that I'm bisexual, even if I can admit it here I still have the voice in the back of my head, I have no parents so I don't have to worry about that but I still never told my sister who I am really close to. Also it doesn't help that I've never actually been with a guy in real life, I've had guys over the internet that I really fell in love with, well at least in one case, so I know that I am bisexual, still I think until I meet a good guy in real life I will always be in some form of denial.
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