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Posted 4/13/08 , edited 10/20/08
EDIT:
thankyou everyone!

the whole thing went pretty smoothly and yeah...

i dont think the story needs to be here anymore n____n



thankyou for everyone's help
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Posted 4/14/08
I'm thinking it could well be any of the first three options. ^^;

Maybe she was tiptoeing round you and trying to find out if you are a lesbian just because she wanted to gauge your reaction before she came out to you.

Maybe.

To be honest it sounds like she is smitten with you. I wish that was better news. If you are indeed "pretty darn straight" then you've got to step lightly.

She came out to you because she trusts you, she hoped that you would accept her, which you did. :)
If she also loves you then she came out to you hoping that you would accept her feelings. Which you can't. :(

You've accepted this part of her, but you'd have to reject her feelings towards you. You'll have to make sure that she understands the difference. You wont stop being her friend. But you can't really be any more to her.

Wait for a bit to see if she brings it up. Be supportive. If she doesn’t then try to talk about it. If she does have feelings for you then you'll have to treat her carefully, make sure she understands that you aren't judging her for being gay.

...now I've run out of things to say. So I'll stop.
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Posted 4/19/08
thankyou for your advice!

i will try my best

wish me luck :D


i just really hope that this won't affect our friendship too much
Posted 5/7/08

dunno if you still need "advice", but that situation sounds quite familiar to me.
when I was younger and had a crush on a (straight?) girl... I did exactly the same.
It never worked out though

but don't feel bad about refusing her (as a "lover"), it's the best you can do.
if you don't make it clear then she'll continue hoping (that's what I did, too *sigh*) - assumed that she really has a crush on you. just talk to her...
but don't go like a bull at a gate
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Posted 8/6/08 , edited 8/6/08
i have a bi friend. ( yea we hang out with any1 and every1 ^_^) and i had some feelings abou it so i talked with her. thats what i think you should do. just have a chat. over coffee mebye... ^_^. ( wow the other prenthisis came out wierd. sry if it offended anyone. i ddnt mean anything by it.)
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