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Posted 4/15/08 , edited 4/15/08
Do you have some thing your upset about and no way to vent it? Well you should talk to God 1st and then me. If you wish? Unless you ask me I will not try to solve your issue. What I can provied is some one that can lislen and pray for you. I have about 56 years of life exp. and maybe I can share that with you. Love problem (I was dump ones ), Mom and Dad issues (been on both sides of that ) and many more. Some times you just want some one to lislen.

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Also note, please to not reply to any of the vents. I will take care of it. I want use it as way for all you to vent with out worry about being put down by another. This is to be a help and if I see it going off topic or arumens on it, I WILL LOCK IT DOWN and erase replys or vents
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I'm too happy to vent ^_^...
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Your turn will come....I seem to remember a vent about your Mom and Dad.
Posted 4/19/08
okay I have something to vent about....... when i found out i was pregnant i posted it in my profile thinking that ppl would be happy for me even if im a little young and it wasn't planned. but i got tons and tons of hate mail. i didn't know what to do. i just hate it when ppl are so mean!!!! even now that my baby passed away..... i still get it.... ppl say that i deserved to lose my baby because im easy in bed and a...... well im not goign to repeat it but im sure u can guess. I just wish that they would al stop becuz they dont know how much it rly hurts to lose a child and there making it ten times worse
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Yes there is hate full persons in the world. Even some who call them selfs Christans. The main thing I have learn in my 55 + years is man kind will always fail you. Jesus Never will. So learn to trust in him. He can take all hurt and pain from you. I have let some of the others know about your pain. I hope that is ok. Our group is wide ranging in locaion in the world as well as age. I know 18 is like a life time to you, but, it will come. I/we want to help. Maybe not in phy ways but, other ways to comfort your trobled soul. As I said before, I am praying for you and I know the rest of us will too.
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Oh wow 0_0 I'm really sorry about that but be a little comforted in knowing that your little one is in heaven right now.
In reality we all have to face the facts. Maybe your pregnancy wasn't planned and you were irresponsible but you can't change the past right? I'm not saying that what you did was Ok but other people have no right to judge you right away...especially if they don't know you. Jesus wouldn't have condemned you so easily especially if you understand what you did wasn't according to what the Bible says .
You know what? What other people think or say doesn't matter because in the end, we don't answer to other people. One day everyone will be in front of the judgment seat and everyone will have to face what they did while they lived on Earth.
And here's a little hint XD...delete people from your friend list if they don't encourage you. Anyone that puts you down is not your friend or going to support you when you need it the most. Here's couple of verses to comfort you ^^

Isaiah 65:19 & 20(talking about a new heaven and a new earth)

I will rejoice over Jerusalem and take delight in my people; the sound of weeping and of crying will be heard in it no more.
Never again will there be in it an infant who lives only a few days, or an old man who does not live out his years...etc...
lol i only answered cuz ratman asked me to so i'm not breaking the rules~
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Alright..so heres the deal. I was at a church event that went on all weekend. Basically we split into age groups with an adult leader and hang out and do bible study and play games all weekend. I was not very fond of one or two of the people in my group, but I was willing to get over it. Well we all met up at the house and I found that my leader (Sotara) was Cambodian, which of course is fine with me. Unfortunately, however; I live in Alabama. Lots of ignorance in Alabama. The people I'm not fond of tended to make racist comments here and there, and i figured it would be put on hold, at least while Sotara was around. It wasn't. In fact they yelled comments such as "Amen white power!" and "If it ain't white, then it ain't right!" during the middle of our study sessions. Sotara of course turned a blind eye to these comments, being the kind and God-loving man that he is. My two friends and I however did not. We couldnt address them directly, for they simply laughed and asked what we were going to do about it. Eventually my friend told my youth pastor about it, and those two peaple were yelled at. (which by the way was not his intention, we just wanted to let Bill know what was going on.) Now they think I am the one that "told on them" and continually yell "White Power!" just for the sake of getting under my skin. Its working. Im normally a very calm guy, but I'm tempted to punch the next person that yells anything racist. Got anything for that?
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I understand that Alabama has a lot of race issues, but it's very upsetting to see it in a Christian setting. If these guys are truly "children of light", they shouldn't be comfortable of things such as this. It sucks to hear that those guys didn't take the pastor's rebuke into heart. They're only hurting themselves in the process..."He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise. He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding." (Proverbs 15:31-32).

Tuley, you have to be careful in how you react. I know it's tough, but you have to push through and be patient. If you react physically, you will be no better than those guys. You have to show that you are a child of God, and be an example to these brothers no matter how hard it seems. First, encourage Sotara, because he is taking the attacks to heart, even if he turns a blind eye to the comments. Exhort him, pray for him, do whatever you can for him, because these kinds of things can really hurt people..."a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit" (Proverbs 15:4). Second, talk to your pastor once more, and ask him to address it to the head pastor. There is a reason why pastors are appointed as leaders of the church, and they will do what is in their power to handle the situation. And of course, pray. Nothing helps Sotara and others more than prayer. And God will listen.

I'm glad to hear that you are angry with sin and I hope that you are encouraged when I say that you have a good heart. Push on with hope that those guys will change and live out a more righteous life by the power of Jesus Christ.
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Alright..so heres the deal. I was at a church event that went on all weekend. Basically we split into age groups with an adult leader and hang out and do bible study and play games all weekend. I was not very fond of one or two of the people in my group, but I was willing to get over it. Well we all met up at the house and I found that my leader (Sotara) was Cambodian, which of course is fine with me. Unfortunately, however; I live in Alabama. Lots of ignorance in Alabama. The people I'm not fond of tended to make racist comments here and there, and i figured it would be put on hold, at least while Sotara was around. It wasn't. In fact they yelled comments such as "Amen white power!" and "If it ain't white, then it ain't right!" during the middle of our study sessions. Sotara of course turned a blind eye to these comments, being the kind and God-loving man that he is. My two friends and I however did not. We couldnt address them directly, for they simply laughed and asked what we were going to do about it. Eventually my friend told my youth pastor about it, and those two peaple were yelled at. (which by the way was not his intention, we just wanted to let Bill know what was going on.) Now they think I am the one that "told on them" and continually yell "White Power!" just for the sake of getting under my skin. Its working. Im normally a very calm guy, but I'm tempted to punch the next person that yells anything racist. Got anything for that?


Wow I havent had to deal with that since I was in High School (back in the 60's) and race issues were a big issue. Now I can understand you reaction. I have had Gambodian freinds my self and know what they fled in Gamboda back in the 70's. Do these persons know what your friends family probly went thru to get here or what was going on when they left. If they want to be upset with any one they should be upset with the CIA. Camboda was getting along fine with there king playing off one side on the other and keeping his country out of the Vin Nam war. Untill the CIA push the king out and put a goverment that was very right winged. That goverment lost after we pulled out and the hell that was the killing fields started. Sorry for giving you the history leson. I also have strong feelings about these white power persons. Pray for them, idgor them and dont give them satafaction of knowing that they are getting to you. Gee this sounds like my school days. As you see I was the one, most of the evil studens like to pick on because it was fun to them, to see my reaction. Oh I just now remember what, stopped them. My friends who were watching this and help me deal with it. Let your friends (your real god fearing friends) know about this. Have them pray with you and rely on their support and on Gods support. I will be praying for you and them.
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Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm pretty much over it now.

Well, i don't want to punch anybody now.
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Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm pretty much over it now.

Well, i don't want to punch anybody now.


Thats good. Keep us posted and let your friend Sotara, know about us.
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**I'm aware that the last post in this thread was days ago, and that I don't post in this group often, but I feel the need to get this off of my chest, so...**

This is actually really silly of me to even be remotely upset about this, but, I need to let it go and I can't do it on my own.

So, I was posting on the CR forums today, something I usually do. I'm usually very cautious on all my forums because for some reason, no matter what I say, someone has to attack me, simply because I don't agree with the majority, most of which seem quite lost and have habits of saying things that make them sound "cool" or whatever their issue is. I usually try to be polite and courteous and civil on the forums, even with the people who attack me, because I think forums should be civil, even in heated disagreements. So, I was posting my opinions on this upsetting article, and another user--I won't say who, and I think I've even forgotten-- decided to attack me, because they felt my opinion was inappropriate, simply because everyone else was apathetic about the entire subject and I wasn't. No big deal. I just tried to explain to them why I felt the way I did, granted I can't really word my thoughts correctly at times. Well, eventually, after a few more throw-downs with this person, my thoughts on what I believe in happened to subtly reveal my Christian faith. And that threw this person off! They unleashed an all-out flaming attack on me, calling me "hypocritical", and making snide, spiteful remarks about my "religion". I wanted find this person and hurt them. I'm probably making this a bigger deal than what it really is, since a lot of people on CR seem to feel that way, but I have never had any of those comments directed solely at me before. It was really hard to "just ignore" these comments, like I usually do with people who insult or flame me, especially because I tried my very best to be civil and understanding towards this person's opinion, and I had expected the same understanding in return. Apparently, I was mistaken to do so. I've never had anyone attack me to that extent before for my Christian beliefs, and it was pretty hurtful, especially since it was over something so trivial!

I replied back to that person, telling them that even though they really hurt me, I chose to forgive them for their cruel remarks. And I want to forgive them and just move on, but I'm very short tempered and I know if they decided to come back and attack me again, I'll just get angry over it...I'll just be getting angry over nothing, and I don't want to be angry over nothing...I'm tired of being angry over nothing. (Also, I'm afraid that when I said I would forgive this person, it came off as a bit snappy/sarcastic because I was annoyed, even though I really meant it...Heaven help me...)
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**I'm aware that the last post in this thread was days ago, and that I don't post in this group often, but I feel the need to get this off of my chest, so...**

This is actually really silly of me to even be remotely upset about this, but, I need to let it go and I can't do it on my own.

So, I was posting on the CR forums today, something I usually do. I'm usually very cautious on all my forums because for some reason, no matter what I say, someone has to attack me, simply because I don't agree with the majority, most of which seem quite lost and have habits of saying things that make them sound "cool" or whatever their issue is. I usually try to be polite and courteous and civil on the forums, even with the people who attack me, because I think forums should be civil, even in heated disagreements. So, I was posting my opinions on this upsetting article, and another user--I won't say who, and I think I've even forgotten-- decided to attack me, because they felt my opinion was inappropriate, simply because everyone else was apathetic about the entire subject and I wasn't. No big deal. I just tried to explain to them why I felt the way I did, granted I can't really word my thoughts correctly at times. Well, eventually, after a few more throw-downs with this person, my thoughts on what I believe in happened to subtly reveal my Christian faith. And that threw this person off! They unleashed an all-out flaming attack on me, calling me "hypocritical", and making snide, spiteful remarks about my "religion". I wanted find this person and hurt them. I'm probably making this a bigger deal than what it really is, since a lot of people on CR seem to feel that way, but I have never had any of those comments directed solely at me before. It was really hard to "just ignore" these comments, like I usually do with people who insult or flame me, especially because I tried my very best to be civil and understanding towards this person's opinion, and I had expected the same understanding in return. Apparently, I was mistaken to do so. I've never had anyone attack me to that extent before for my Christian beliefs, and it was pretty hurtful, especially since it was over something so trivial!

I replied back to that person, telling them that even though they really hurt me, I chose to forgive them for their cruel remarks. And I want to forgive them and just move on, but I'm very short tempered and I know if they decided to come back and attack me again, I'll just get angry over it...I'll just be getting angry over nothing, and I don't want to be angry over nothing...I'm tired of being angry over nothing. (Also, I'm afraid that when I said I would forgive this person, it came off as a bit snappy/sarcastic because I was annoyed, even though I really meant it...Heaven help me...)



Well I do know how you feel. I have had that happen over my life time and even here in the BA forums. I have been blind sided (or felt like I was). My 1st thouth was "WHAT" and since I have annoyed persons before with out knowing it. Tried to make it rigth by PM the person but, was just hit with more attacks. I just had to give it up to the Lord. Note, we have some very anti Christens in BA. Who have attack us, in the forums and on the wall (I have had to shut down the wall once and have had to lock down forum threads). Also same persons have attact me dir. (one when as far as calling me a leader of the Hitler Younth), which did hurt. In that last attack it was very easy to get me more than just annoyed but, after I cooled down. I simly forgave them and moved on. Some times I PM them other times when it just looks like it going just keep the argument going. Also note, some persons think it is fun to attack Christians and others just to try an undermine your fath.

Your response to these and others is, 1st pray, 2nd forgive and 3 try an reach the person with your fath but having said that some will just use that last one to attack again. In those cases, 1st pray and do not respond or ignor attacks from same person But, the big thing is to PRAY. For your hurt, angre and for that person.
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