Post Reply Are Hmong women losing their traditional role in the Hmong society?
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Posted 4/17/08 , edited 4/17/08
Well, let me get this topic going....

I would like to point out that some Hmong women, to my views, are losing the traditional role as a women in the Hmong society. I don't mean that Hmong women should be housewives only, but at least know the basic of cooking (got a friend who dump rice in the rice cooker but she forgot to put the amount of water in it), cleaning, be respectful to the older generation (at least try to get into a conversation with them), and many more things I see that the Hmong women are losing in the traditional role.

I'm a college student and also the oldest in the family. I was raise to cook, clean, and other stuff, not to be come a houseman, but just in case I marry to a Hmong woman who can not cook, clean, and isn't much of a conversation starters. I guess the Hmong men these days are doing more of the cooking and clean while the women sit around looking around doing nothing.



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Posted 4/20/08

yangster98 wrote:

Well, let me get this topic going....

I would like to point out that some Hmong women, to my views, are losing the traditional role as a women in the Hmong society. I don't mean that Hmong women should be housewives only, but at least know the basic of cooking (got a friend who dump rice in the rice cooker but she forgot to put the amount of water in it), cleaning, be respectful to the older generation (at least try to get into a conversation with them), and many more things I see that the Hmong women are losing in the traditional role.

I'm a college student and also the oldest in the family. I was raise to cook, clean, and other stuff, not to be come a houseman, but just in case I marry to a Hmong woman who can not cook, clean, and isn't much of a conversation starters. I guess the Hmong men these days are doing more of the cooking and clean while the women sit around looking around doing nothing.



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man i think the same thing i'm a guy too and i do everything around the house and out of the house too and my sisters do nothing wtf u know lol... well no offence to anyone but its like we mens have to do everything now days well thats just what i see and experience these days...
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Posted 5/2/08
yup..
Posted 5/17/08
to me?...i think my family is still the same.
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COOKING
and CLEANING.
but others are starting to eat out. and stuff.
i cant eat out.
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Posted 5/28/08
hahahahahahahaha, your right. Men should sit around the house watching football, while the female do all the house work
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...from what i've seen, Hmong guys now don't like girls who do all (cleaning, cook, and etc) that. they say it's old fashion. they want someone who's willing to go out with them and have fun.
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Posted 7/19/08
just bcuz hmong girls used to do all that, dnt mean they have to now!!! i can cook, clean, and start conversations w/old ppl just fine, but wen we do all the work, it's lyk we're MAIDS! fyi:we're not! and it'll be realy sweet if a guy culd wash dishes once in a wile, or clean the kitchen, or atleast cook a dinner meal, but thatz just wat i think
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i can do everything that hmong women r suppose to do T-T i gotta say it's tiring xD but then again it's my duty to do them ^^ but some women these days can't do them but then again guys r more interested in girls that party instead of girls that know their duty
Posted 10/2/08
it depends on your parents if they want you to do all these works like cooking and cleaning. one of my hmong friend who is a girl doesn't even know how to cook or do anything and her parents don't care.

on the other hand...i know how to do all these things because i'm expected to know these things. my parents would totally be mad if i don't know how to do these things. although i'm just really lazy
Posted 3/25/09

yangster98 wrote:

Well, let me get this topic going....

I would like to point out that some Hmong women, to my views, are losing the traditional role as a women in the Hmong society. I don't mean that Hmong women should be housewives only, but at least know the basic of cooking (got a friend who dump rice in the rice cooker but she forgot to put the amount of water in it), cleaning, be respectful to the older generation (at least try to get into a conversation with them), and many more things I see that the Hmong women are losing in the traditional role.

I'm a college student and also the oldest in the family. I was raise to cook, clean, and other stuff, not to be come a houseman, but just in case I marry to a Hmong woman who can not cook, clean, and isn't much of a conversation starters. I guess the Hmong men these days are doing more of the cooking and clean while the women sit around looking around doing nothing.



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i can cook rice and i remember the amount of water but it doesn't always turn out good for me. it's gotten better though. i can cook other things too coz my mom and grandma always make me help them. my sisters and us always have to cook while my brothers sit around and play games. my brothers can barely cook, this is the total opposite of your family i'm guessing. i like to keep my things clean, a bit of a clean freak and neat freak, perfection type of person too. i have friends who look at my locker and say that i'm "too clean and organized." but that's the way i like it. my bedroom is messy at the moment though, because my grandma keeps putting boxes into my room and i need to throw things out. ok, i don't know why people are so disrespectful to their elders. i'm always cautious and respectful to my elders. i've gotten into the habit of doing that to older people that i even do it to people younger than me!! i know that sometimes i can get lazy but there's always time when we just want to relax too and not do so much housework.
i can understand where you're coming from because some of my girl friends are like that, but i know that some guys are like that too.
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Posted 6/21/09

yangster98 wrote:

Well, let me get this topic going....

I would like to point out that some Hmong women, to my views, are losing the traditional role as a women in the Hmong society. I don't mean that Hmong women should be housewives only, but at least know the basic of cooking (got a friend who dump rice in the rice cooker but she forgot to put the amount of water in it), cleaning, be respectful to the older generation (at least try to get into a conversation with them), and many more things I see that the Hmong women are losing in the traditional role.

I'm a college student and also the oldest in the family. I was raise to cook, clean, and other stuff, not to be come a houseman, but just in case I marry to a Hmong woman who can not cook, clean, and isn't much of a conversation starters. I guess the Hmong men these days are doing more of the cooking and clean while the women sit around looking around doing nothing.



so what you think?

I understand what you're saying, but need I remind you that this is America and here in America there is no woman's work and there is no man's work-- if a woman can do it, then a man also can and vice versa. In today's world, the roles of Hmong women are rapidly changing and they need to adapt to meet these demands. In our parents time, a woman's sole purpose was to cook, clean and have children, however, that is not the case now. Today, you see more and more Hmong women choosing career over family which can leave very little time to devote oneself to familial obligations which then can lead to tension and conflict within the family. Another role that I see being reversed now is the care of aging parents. What was once the duty of the youngest son is now being handed over to daughters-- this too leads to "losing" the traditional roles of Hmong women.

Being a male-dominated, male- chauvinistic society isn't helping our Hmong people at all. They see daughters as a burden and favors sons, regardless of whether a son is txim txiaj thiab ntse or not. Hmong people always ask and wonder why peb Hmoob tsis vam meej li... seriously, do they really need to ask? Until Hmoob people are willing to accept the changes that comes with living in America in the 21st century, then we Hmoob people as a whole will never vam meej.

On a personal note, I grew up in a very strict traditional Hmong family and never had the luxury of being a child. I learned to cook and clean before I was four years old and my entire life has been devoted to taking care of my family and their needs. Like my mother before me and her mother before her, I learned to bite my tongue and swallow my tears, but as a human being there is only so much that I can endure, and I surpassed that limit many years ago. Today, my family is a better family because I found the courage to put my foot down and say "enough is enough!"

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Posted 8/24/09
LOL mann.. it depends.. I'm not saying all girls are.. but expect the worse.. we do live in a different environment, time then our parents. I say expect the worse even when they "claim" they do it.. nobodies perfect.. i say, parents have to understand this too.

i had a neighbor who charged 10,000 for their lets say "BAD" daughter when i'm sure shes at the "most a few hundred" thats how bad she was.. of course they declined, and left her with her parents..

i'll leave it at that..
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