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Posted 1/21/07
I think it could be argued that the game is different between the sexes. Stereotypical "man-game" that you've already detailed is where a guy goes out with a neon sign on his chest that says "Mate with me, dammit!", while stereotypical "lady-game" is where women straighten their creases and send out an unconscious electric current that reminds men in the area of their existence.

There are obviously people who aren't playing the game, and they can expect different results from that choice. Both accomplish different flavors of the same thing; as a metaphor, just because you aren't on the dance floor doesn't mean someone won't approach you. Anyone who knows a lick about Japanese culture can understand that different people have a wide range of taste and preferences, and I'd say a lot of people here in crunchyland are less "game players" and more "just gamers"...
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Posted 1/26/07
i hate guys when they try to put up a "game" to get girls. why not be yourself. because when you finally get the girl and then you become your true self and the girl don't like it and she leaves you. then you loose. so you might as well be up front in the beginning. it just show how much of a coward you are and how much you are ashamed of yourself. "I Think, therefor I am" If you think you have a good enough personality to get the girl you want, hey you might get her. but if you think you're not good enough and do tactics to get her, then of course in the end you loose
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Posted 1/26/07
I believe it's simply the nature of things. Everywhere in nature the females are the one's that make final judgement of a mate based on the display (game if you will) of the male(s). In nature, the female will usually pick the mate which will provide them with the strongest offspring based on their specifications and needs on a genetic level. In reality the human creature is no different.

Males have the instictual need to pass on their genes to anything they can. Females have the instinctual need to ensure those genes provide strong offspring. We just tend to make it more complext and meaningful than that.
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Posted 1/26/07
Last severals posts have been good. I'd like to see some more articles linked to and more scientific information though

I had problems with this to start because we don't have a common understanding of what is meant by the word "game" in this context. Its a pretty loaded word, but I think it will be useful to think about it as an activity, as gameplay. Surely some guy's standard 'gameplay' may work well on one woman, but not on another.

I like how gopherthegold put it as a two sided thing, and each side has a role based on social norms. The woman demonstrates her availability. Personally, I could only be said to be playing the game as far as abiding by most social norms, I don't have some standard gameplay, like animals tend to, such as build a big nest, flaunt around, etc. But, some guys surely do have standard pickup lines, places to go, and so on.

Depends how structured you want to have it. As, amysophamish, typed, making it too fake though will likely lead to a poor outcome relationship wise.
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Posted 1/26/07
i personally don't bother with the whole game thing; i don't bother with make-up, when i go out i don't care (too much) what i wear so long as i'm comfortable and pretty much the only thing i do is keep clean, that's it
having said that, i haven't so much as said 'hey' to a guy since i went to a mixed school (which was what? four years ago?)
and i've never had a girl/boyfriend... ever....
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Posted 1/26/07

insane_killer_bunny wrote:

and i've never had a girl/boyfriend... ever....


it's alrite..i never had one of those either..lol
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Posted 1/26/07
sigh... Me neither...
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Posted 1/26/07
because in reality men and women are not totally equal. just like a million years ago guys still have to do all this crap. but there are some girls who go through the mess too.
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Posted 1/26/07
It's the natural way of things. It's how it's always been. You hardly see any species that has the females competing for the males. It's how it's always been.
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Posted 1/26/07
guys clothing are more expensive that girls. thats a fact.
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Posted 2/28/07
Everybody has it girls are just a lot better at it.
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Posted 2/28/07
This is from what I see so far

Guys - who do pick-up lines, dress better than the norm, groom a lot and all that sht - do it because they think their personality alone isn't good enough to attract girls/women.

They don't communicate well, so how do they get their attention in the first place? By looking good, being witty and whatever works for them.

It's all about communication. Most are crap at it, so they rely on the second place - their looks, clothes and humour.

I do tell friends to be themselves and just go with the flow, but some just don't have that much confidence in themselves, hence all the peacock crap.
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Posted 2/28/07
none is needed character is everything at least thats what i think
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Posted 3/29/08
i agree with catex .
in my experience, the men that i have dated that have had serious 'game' are always the ones that are lacking in personality and humor >.< ive been more satisfied dating a man that rolls out of bed and puts on any pair of jeans and tshirt . though i do get on his ass on a daily basis to up his game a little . i mean damn i aint dating a hippy lol
Posted 3/29/08
ooh man this reminds me of one of my friends who was trying to hook up with some chick at a party, when a different girl came up to him and started talking to him. He wasnt interested in her and just said dam you need to work on your game! lol
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