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Can a meaningful romantic relationship exist between an adult and a child?
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No...Just...No. I'm sorry, but it's just one of those things which should never happen. One reaosn being that children don't understand love, they don't...You can question them about sex and stuff, chance are they may know all that, but it doesn't mean they know love. On the off chance that there is a child who understands love, you have to be aware that they are still children, love and relationships are serious business at the end of the day, which is why pedo's are always seen as dirtbags.

Occasions where it can be accepted: an 18 yr old and a 15 yr old. That's still technically illegal, but I wouldn't see thin the same category as pedos.
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Absolutely.

If you give the younger party the option to leave if at some point they no longer want the kind of relationship and also don't do anything against their will then I don't see any problem with it whatsoever. Men with attractions to older women are allowed to express them so it would make sense with younger as long as some guidelines are maintained.

Edit: Typo
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Well i wont judge you for it but i dont think a child could really understand the concept of love..
Anyone read the book lolita? it sort of deals with that.. i hightly recommend it
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first of all I think to catch a predator is one of the funniest shows on nbc and second of all children are way to impressionable at early ages they do whatever adults tell them to do because thats what their taught to do so no way................
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Of course its technically plausible, but according to our social values its totally out of the question.
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Posted 4/29/08

Doom-Desire wrote:

No...Just...No. I'm sorry, but it's just one of those things which should never happen. One reaosn being that children don't understand love, they don't...You can question them about sex and stuff, chance are they may know all that, but it doesn't mean they know love. On the off chance that there is a child who understands love, you have to be aware that they are still children, love and relationships are serious business at the end of the day, which is why pedo's are always seen as dirtbags.

Occasions where it can be accepted: an 18 yr old and a 15 yr old. That's still technically illegal, but I wouldn't see thin the same category as pedos.



I agree with you. Kids may know how love works, but never experienced it. N the pedos obviously have no life. lol N I also agree with thin-aged relationships. Like for instance, a 19-year old and a 16-year old love eachother. Probaly a 3 or 4 years difference. If they are really REALLY TRULY MADLY in love with eachother n they both TRULY understand the meaning of true love, then they are destined to be together. 16 or 17 is almost there to adulthood n they are responsible enough nyways (well some are based off my school >_<), so. But if there was a 16-year old with a 30-year old, then that would be wrong. N I freakin hate how most people think everyone that u meet on the internet is a predator! >_< If I met the guy who invented the internet or the guy who invented microsoft, would they be predators? <_<;
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I think the question is: how can it not be possible?

Unless the truth of the world as we know it is a lie, most everyone should come to the same conclusion that it is, indeed possible, for almost any type of relation to exist between two people - in spite of age.
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Prepubescent kids don't understand romance. They may see it on TV or something and try to imitate it, but they don't really understand what they're doing. But once kids hit puberty and their hormones start flaring, they'll understand what it's like to truly desire a person and want to do anything to make them happy, then it's possible to have a romantic relationship with them. Although during the early stages of puberty (maybe even until the late teens for many people) it's hard to distinguish sex from love, so it might not work out so well.
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Eh, well this goes against all my morals but I guess it *could* be possible. It doesn't necessarily have to be sexual.

However I'm totally against sex between an older person and a child who hasn't even gone through puberty. That's just wrong.
Posted 4/29/08
Have you read "Lolita" by: Nabokov?
[perfect example of adult/child relationship] I personally do not agree with adult/child relationships because children are not able to comprehend the situation and are not fully mature where as the adult is fully aware of the situation and what may happen.
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I think kids know what love is as a word such as feeling for their parents, but when it comes to a romantic relationship I doubt it. For example, I use to help out at a daycare center that dealed with children from 3 to 8 and all the kids would say, "I love you" if you were nice to them. It was so cute, but we all know that they didn't mean it. Some adults don't even understand love so you shouldn't expect a child to.
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I think it is wrong. Thats really all I have to say about that.
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I don't think its possible. Children IMO are those defined as 11 and under, and even 12 years old, but some kids grow up too fast "physically" even before that. Mentally, children are too young and lack the complete understanding and experiences involved in real romantic love. At most it could be a crush, or puppy love etc. I barely remember when I was in 5th grade there was a girl I had a crush on, but I know that I didn't "love" her since I've experienced more in life since then. Just basic attraction to females. Around 13 and up the young ones start going through their pubescent years and get a little more understanding between physical attraction and emotional attraction and can only grow from there.
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Between vague appeals to this notion of "true love" and an unwillingness to even think critically on issues like these, I'm surprised you got some good answers at all.

To "Can a meaningful romantic relationship exist between an adult and a child?": This depends on how you define "meaningful" and "romantic," but I'd say it's possible, though very rare. Mental development and social experience vary wildly from individual to individual such that an 12-year-old can be more "mature" than an 18-year-old; however, even if I don't know where to draw the line precisely between what is acceptable and what is not, I have a general idea that a certain age group--say, 0-10--should be off-limits. Might there be individuals even in this group who demonstrate a capacity for a "meaningful romantic relationship"? Certainly, but I'm not sure how we would test this and I don't know if we should even allow exceptions anyway. Similarly, there may be 10-years old who could drive very well or 20-year-olds who could be effective presidents, but, as these are uncommon cases, we have rules against them.

Let me point out some instances of ignorance in this thread, though:
-It's wrong and you should be ashamed even if you don't act on it (claiming rightness/wrongness is insufficient to prove it, and I don't see any more reason to feel shame about feeling/thinking this than I do for someone to feel shame about liking chocolate or wanting to hurt someone who has done him wrong)
-That's not REAL love (I don't see this term ever having an objective definition, so it's always going to be defined by subjective experience; furthermore, we "love" people for all sorts of reasons that may fade over time, so why not childhood/innocence?)
-You're stupid for even thinking it's possible (obviously there is a point at which it is impossible, but I'm afraid that some people are socialized to the extent that they simply give a knee-jerk reaction of hostility as soon as they hear a term or idea that is not accepted by general society)

Anyway, I sympathize with you even if I don't share the interest, but lines do need to be drawn if we wish to protect the young.
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popezeke wrote:

I have thought a lot about this subject, and despite all the bashing about this subject few people really touch on this. They are too busy either defending their lolicon pic folders or screaming bloody murder about those wicked child rapists to consider the real implications of a relationship between an adult and child.

As a proud lolicon, I am growing weary about people ignorantly bashing my compatriots, and Chris Hanson's To Catch a Predator is possibly the most useless effort ever devised by television.

However I do not approve of child rapists, child pornographers and the like. Rape is one of the great acts of evil committed by humans, and people who put children through such pain deserve nothing but the full wrath of a bullet.

But while all this flaming is going on, few people really consider this:

If a consenting adult and a willing child existed, do you believe a meaningful relationship could exist? Us lolicons can dream all we want, and the haters can sputter all they want, but I want to know what you guys think. I'm not trolling. Promise.

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What child on earth is totally aware of what's going on when some nasty old man has their dick in them? That's just fucking sick! I don't care if the child is willing, it's a CHILD. It knows NOTHING. Only a sick old fuck would take advantage of that.
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