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Can a meaningful romantic relationship exist between an adult and a child?
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Posted 12/5/08
A child and an adult cannot possibly have a "romantic" relationship because psychologically, their are in 2 very different mindsets. The child hasn't evolved enough in life to truly comprehend what love is, and what pain and loss are. Children are naive and can be manipulated into anything; I'm sorry, but I would not trust my 10 year old to have a relationship with a grown man.

If you're a grown man, and you're into little children, obviously something is not right in your head. Get help before you hurt somebody.
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Posted 12/6/08
60% ---> yes

40% ----> no
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Now that just SICK! and WRONG!!!

in my opinion a kid doesn't really understand "love" (and there are some adults who don't either!)
and a pedophile is someone who takes advantage of a child by using that kids possible idea of looking up too the adult
and the adult warps it into the kid wanting something sexual from them......which is SICK and WRONG!!!

pedophiles should get the death penalty- enough said.
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Posted 12/6/08

cindy_hsu12 wrote:

I don't know how to say this without having haters after me, but...

If a child knows what they're doing, and mature enough to handle the relationship (if that's how it's called), then I do think it's okkay for it to happen... Although if it's a 7 yr old child with a 30 yr old man, then... I do doubt it is a real "relationship", but then again, the child might just feel protected by the older adult.

Protection is sometimes what we need, but... if what you mean is sexual relationship... then... that's not okkay at all, 'cause the child doesn't even know what they're doing, they're probably just forced into it.. since they're clueless. Otherwise, I don't find a problem with this at all.




i think he meant sexual relations

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that was crazy, even if a kid is mentally stable to be with and adult that's kind of sick because
health wise, children and teens (until 21) it is scientifically proven that their bodies are still developing including their brains,
so if a pedophile does end up with perhaps a 17 year old that's still wrong because she's still under the definition of a growing child---
NOT jumping on your case or anything just throwing some junk i got from health class
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....well taking all considerations...

...to have a successful child-adult relationship requires not only the right mindframe and set of moral attributes (patience, love, understanding, etc.) but extremely good luck...that, or a very high IQ on the part of the child, but that doesn't guarantee anything...

...the most obvious factor for failure into that kind of relationship is that it's like having a pair of mismatched batteries. one's all mature and the other still fails to comprehend of what even love is...

...there's a reason children aren't expected to act in the same rational manner as adults do (but what the heck, the level of immaturity some adults display outrivals that of a child...)...

...first, do you really expect children to act responsibly and maturely in regards to a loving, intimate relationship (cross out the sexual part for those who associate intimate with sexual innuendos)? well obviously, the answer's no. it's like asking have you ever seen a normally sane kid refuse a candy under normal conditions?

...and second, even if the adult in the relationship has all the patience and understanding in this world, i doubt the child has the same... children are synonymous to being fickle and irrational at times...

...unless of course, the adult 'forces' the child to think that everything's okay, and that's the way it's supposed to be but i doubt this can be done without violating a whole set of moral ethics...

...so there...succesful children-adult relationships without the context of being forced to or without sexual relations are like one in a billion...
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Posted 12/7/08
you know why God made trees? to hang paedophiles!
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The question I have here is, what happens once the younger lover becomes older? Does the pedophile lose interest? I don't see a point in falling in love with someone who's mentally and physically inferior to you (at least, for the most part. I've seen some stupid adults.). Let kids be who they are - kids. Loving someone means that you are capable of giving up something from yourself for the person you love - and frankly, kids haven't grasped that concept yet.
Posted 12/7/08
hmmmmmmmm Well, if the two people truly love each other then yes, go for it, I'm not stoping them. Heck I'd push them If I had too. Really, dose it matter what Society looks upon it? What ever happened to the lesson your parents would teach you about when you meet your destined one you'll understand what love is.
and who says that there 'destined one' can't be 20 years older/younger than them?
I actually like manga like this usually, like a high school student with a high school teacher or university teacher in manga ALOT, anime too. It adds to the drama of the long age gap and actually strengthens the love between them.
But rapist and Molesters are disgusting. There's a complete difference in actual romantic feelings and that. Remeber, not all pedohiles (did I spell that right?) are rapists.
Posted 12/7/08 , edited 12/7/08
wow people sure dissaproving about true love just because of phyiscal attributes. of course rape and all that crap is bad.
But if they did things like a normal couple then I don't mind really plus looks really don't count that much if your that in love. Not that I'm interested in them but you have my support when it comes to love. In short: people should mind thier own business when people are actually in love.
apparantly some people don't know that some children can develope or mature beyond thier age. which is probably why little kids didn't really understand me back then.
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Posted 12/8/08

loopity wrote:


cindy_hsu12 wrote:

I don't know how to say this without having haters after me, but...

If a child knows what they're doing, and mature enough to handle the relationship (if that's how it's called), then I do think it's okkay for it to happen... Although if it's a 7 yr old child with a 30 yr old man, then... I do doubt it is a real "relationship", but then again, the child might just feel protected by the older adult.

Protection is sometimes what we need, but... if what you mean is sexual relationship... then... that's not okkay at all, 'cause the child doesn't even know what they're doing, they're probably just forced into it.. since they're clueless. Otherwise, I don't find a problem with this at all.




i think he meant sexual relations

AND

that was crazy, even if a kid is mentally stable to be with and adult that's kind of sick because
health wise, children and teens (until 21) it is scientifically proven that their bodies are still developing including their brains,
so if a pedophile does end up with perhaps a 17 year old that's still wrong because she's still under the definition of a growing child---
NOT jumping on your case or anything just throwing some junk i got from health class


LMAO, junk from health class? haha, niice. im glad im done with that class. XD

& back to the topic...

if it's sexual relationship.. then of course not... 'cause it's just too much for the child to handle.. they have no idea what they're doing.

but also, if it's sexual relationship based upon a healthy emotional relationship, then the adult should [and would] give the child time to grow and mature before convincing the minor into sex.
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Posted 12/9/08
UMM?
dont even want to think bout it...
they can kill so many Innocent children
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Posted 12/13/08

cindy_hsu12 wrote:


loopity wrote:


cindy_hsu12 wrote:

I don't know how to say this without having haters after me, but...

If a child knows what they're doing, and mature enough to handle the relationship (if that's how it's called), then I do think it's okkay for it to happen... Although if it's a 7 yr old child with a 30 yr old man, then... I do doubt it is a real "relationship", but then again, the child might just feel protected by the older adult.

Protection is sometimes what we need, but... if what you mean is sexual relationship... then... that's not okkay at all, 'cause the child doesn't even know what they're doing, they're probably just forced into it.. since they're clueless. Otherwise, I don't find a problem with this at all.




i think he meant sexual relations

AND

that was crazy, even if a kid is mentally stable to be with and adult that's kind of sick because
health wise, children and teens (until 21) it is scientifically proven that their bodies are still developing including their brains,
so if a pedophile does end up with perhaps a 17 year old that's still wrong because she's still under the definition of a growing child---
NOT jumping on your case or anything just throwing some junk i got from health class


LMAO, junk from health class? haha, niice. im glad im done with that class. XD

& back to the topic...

if it's sexual relationship.. then of course not... 'cause it's just too much for the child to handle.. they have no idea what they're doing.

but also, if it's sexual relationship based upon a healthy emotional relationship, then the adult should [and would] give the child time to grow and mature before convincing the minor into sex.



lol, oh god! your gonna convince that stalky guy next door to keep talking to me now 00, except instead of attacking me he will try to be friends until i'm mature *looks around suspiciously* CREEPY!!!!!!

....BTW, i finished Health class sucessfully last week!!! YAY!!!!
Posted 12/13/08
It's not impossible, but very unlikely. Most likely, it won't be a "romantic" relationship.
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Posted 12/13/08
I think a lot of it also has to do with pregnancy at that age, not just the phycological aspect of it. Pregnant little girls likely results in death. Recently we devoloped birth control, but we are still riding around on previous values.
Posted 12/15/08 , edited 12/15/08
Meaningful? yes. Romantic? it can exist but the question is, would it be right? No.
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