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Posted 5/1/08 , edited 5/1/08
So I noticed a lot of girls are having issues, including, at times, myself (though I'm good as of now.) All these threads are being made when we should have just one big one where people can dish out their problems and try to receive help from other people. And this way, it's a lot more organized.

I actually meant to do this before XD oh well
Posted 5/6/08
lol thats a much better idea XD
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Posted 5/12/08

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umm ok i need help... well... i told my mom i was bi..and she said she was ok with it... but ever since she still won't talk to me about it.. and she keeps saying stuff that makes me out to be straight.. and i dun want that... what should i do? >//<


are you sure? 'cause you're fairly young (don't call me judgmental now...I'm only 14 too...speaking from experience) when i was your age (not that long ago) I was confused from head to toe x_x, i settled with Bi, but now i realized its ...*coughs* completely ...'gay'...So you may actually be completely straight? *shrugs*

but anyways...

just tell her you love her, and want her to put it at the back of her mind, and say you're still the same person and ask your mom straightforwardly why the heck isn't she talking to you?
Posted 5/12/08 , edited 5/12/08

Uchiha-candy wrote:

umm ok i need help... well... i told my mom i was bi..and she said she was ok with it... but ever since she still won't talk to me about it.. and she keeps saying stuff that makes me out to be straight.. and i dun want that... what should i do? >//<


I came out to my dad first, then to my mom about 2-3 months ago. My mom acts the same way. But she let me know she still loves me and she doesn't act different towards me anymore now that she's used to it.

Just as we want to be understood, we have to understand the people we tell as well. It's probably not so much the fact that you're bi, but the fact that it came outta nowhere.

If she loves you, and apparently she does, she'll come around and you two'll be okay. You just have to try and get her to understand that you don't want to change, if you don't, and that she's gonna have to learn to deal with it. If I were you, I'd just continue to act the same, and if your mom can't accept you for you, it's HER problem, not yours.

Posted 5/13/08

Uchiha-candy wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Uchiha-candy wrote:

umm ok i need help... well... i told my mom i was bi..and she said she was ok with it... but ever since she still won't talk to me about it.. and she keeps saying stuff that makes me out to be straight.. and i dun want that... what should i do? >//<


I came out to my dad first, then to my mom about 2-3 months ago. My mom acts the same way. But she let me know she still loves me and she doesn't act different towards me anymore now that she's used to it.

Just as we want to be understood, we have to understand the people we tell as well. It's probably not so much the fact that you're bi, but the fact that it came outta nowhere.

If she loves you, and apparently she does, she'll come around and you two'll be okay. You just have to try and get her to understand that you don't want to change, if you don't, and that she's gonna have to learn to deal with it. If I were you, I'd just continue to act the same, and if your mom can't accept you for you, it's HER problem, not yours.



heh thx ^-^ i iwll most deffantily try.. thank you


Haha it's no problem. But, I want you to picture your mom telling you something as shocking, just so you can see what she's going through right now. Think about how you felt, because I'm sure she's surprised you at least once in your life.

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umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????
Posted 5/16/08

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umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????


Your mom needs to understand that you can't force someone into something. It always backfires.
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Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:

umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????


Your mom needs to understand that you can't force someone into something. It always backfires.


you think so???
Posted 5/16/08

Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:

umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????


Your mom needs to understand that you can't force someone into something. It always backfires.


you think so???


Do you like doing what you're always told?
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Posted 5/17/08

Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:

umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????


Your mom needs to understand that you can't force someone into something. It always backfires.


you think so???


Do you like doing what you're always told?


no not really.......
Posted 5/17/08

Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:

umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????


Your mom needs to understand that you can't force someone into something. It always backfires.


you think so???


Do you like doing what you're always told?


no not really.......


Right ^^ When random people try to tell us to do something, we're like, "no way." And when someone we have to listen to want us to do something, we don't want to, but we still have to do it. Usually.

Sometimes, we can't do it unless we want to. And if it's even possible to stop being bisexual, it's something YOU have to stop wanting to be. Your mom telling you not to, and I bet you've already noticed this, is just driving you away, right?



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Posted 5/17/08

Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:

umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????


Your mom needs to understand that you can't force someone into something. It always backfires.


you think so???


Do you like doing what you're always told?


no not really.......


Right ^^ When random people try to tell us to do something, we're like, "no way." And when someone we have to listen to want us to do something, we don't want to, but we still have to do it. Usually.

Sometimes, we can't do it unless we want to. And if it's even possible to stop being bisexual, it's something YOU have to stop wanting to be. Your mom telling you not to, and I bet you've already noticed this, is just driving you away, right?





ok I'll try to go out with guys even doh there a pain in the ass
Posted 5/17/08

Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:

umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????


Your mom needs to understand that you can't force someone into something. It always backfires.


you think so???


Do you like doing what you're always told?


no not really.......


Right ^^ When random people try to tell us to do something, we're like, "no way." And when someone we have to listen to want us to do something, we don't want to, but we still have to do it. Usually.

Sometimes, we can't do it unless we want to. And if it's even possible to stop being bisexual, it's something YOU have to stop wanting to be. Your mom telling you not to, and I bet you've already noticed this, is just driving you away, right?





ok I'll try to go out with guys even doh there a pain in the ass



If you don't want to, then don't do it.
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Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:

umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????


Your mom needs to understand that you can't force someone into something. It always backfires.


you think so???


Do you like doing what you're always told?


no not really.......


Right ^^ When random people try to tell us to do something, we're like, "no way." And when someone we have to listen to want us to do something, we don't want to, but we still have to do it. Usually.

Sometimes, we can't do it unless we want to. And if it's even possible to stop being bisexual, it's something YOU have to stop wanting to be. Your mom telling you not to, and I bet you've already noticed this, is just driving you away, right?





ok I'll try to go out with guys even doh there a pain in the ass



If you don't want to, then don't do it.


OMG my ex bf and me made up I guess I'll be a normal girl that likes guys not girls and not both in that way
Posted 6/4/08 , edited 6/4/08

Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:


Flourescent wrote:


Worldm wrote:

umm..... I'm bi but now I'm losing my attraction to guys now and now my mom says that you have to go out with guys because she wants me to be straight and have a good life what should I do?????


Your mom needs to understand that you can't force someone into something. It always backfires.


you think so???


Do you like doing what you're always told?


no not really.......


Right ^^ When random people try to tell us to do something, we're like, "no way." And when someone we have to listen to want us to do something, we don't want to, but we still have to do it. Usually.

Sometimes, we can't do it unless we want to. And if it's even possible to stop being bisexual, it's something YOU have to stop wanting to be. Your mom telling you not to, and I bet you've already noticed this, is just driving you away, right?





ok I'll try to go out with guys even doh there a pain in the ass



If you don't want to, then don't do it.


OMG my ex bf and me made up I guess I'll be a normal girl that likes guys not girls and not both in that way


At least you're happy.

So for future reference let's avoid calling straight "normal" or implying that if you're not straight, you're not normal. People fear what they don't understand, and just because your average couple these days involve a woman and a man doesn't make it normal or abnormal. It's just what we're used to seeing.

Seeing as that's cleared up, let's move on. ^^

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