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Post Reply │SURVEY│BACK STABBERS? WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THEM?
Posted 5/6/08 , edited 5/6/08
i've started this poll to see/know what's your answer or what you're thinking about these so called "BACK STABBERS"

HOW TO DEAL WITH BACKSTABBERS



They might say they're your 'best friends', but the moment your back is turned, they lie about you to others. No one wants to be hurt in this way, but how do deal with them?. Perhaps the following tips can help.


Steps


1. All backstabbers share a common denominator; they all want something from you. Whether it is money, homework, a house to trash, your computer, or practically anything, varies from person to person.
2. Be aware of your surroundings. If you have a bad feeling about somebody, listen to your instincts!
3. Pay attention to red flags.
* If somebody betrays you, don't trust that person again without extensive consideration.
* If the other person doesn't have friends of his or her own, there may be a reason. Perhaps other people know something that you don't.
* If someone is mean to you one minute and nice to you the next, there is definitely something wrong.
* If someone is too aggressive or tries too hard to sell you on something, he or she is likely setting you up.
* Trust your real friends. They're here to help you.
* Notice the other person's work ethic. If he or she is lazy and irresponsible, stay away from the person as far as anything that requires hard work goes. If you work hard, he or she will use you in a heartbeat!
4. Notice how he treats things you care about. For instance if you really care that your room is clean, and after you've explained this to him he still comes over, throws his backpack on the ground, takes his shoes off in the middle of the room and so on; this means he doesn't really care about you.
5. Try to detect from an early stage what the backstabber is interested in sucking from you.
6. If the backstabber persists in pestering you, either ignore him or tell him dispassionately that you do not want to do (insert activity here). Be polite, but extremely firm. If they detect a weakness in your firmness, they will try as hard as they can to puncture it.



Tips

* Get away from these people as soon as possible and convince others not to associate with them.
* Don't hesitate to ask questions. If somebody seems shady in any perspective, ask them about it but pay close attention to their answers. More often than not, they will try to pull one over you.
* There is a difference between friends and acquaintances. This means that even though he might be fun to talk at in classroom or at lunch, he might not be the kind of person you would like to hang out with after school.
* Don't rely on the backstabber for anything; even the tiniest of things. In this way, you will avoid situations where you owe him/her a favor. This technique takes patience, practice and goes completely against your better nature. The backstabber will get the hint and move on the next sucker/victim.
* Also do not tell them any secret that you want kept hidden, as they will tell it to another one of their "friends" the moment it will gain them something.
* Treat him/her like you would any other snake. Be polite when in his/her area but keep to the path, and maintain your distance.
* Make sure not to reduce to his level by saying untrue and bad things about him behind his back (this is a huge no-no!) as it will only spur him to action against you.
* When seeking justified revenge from the backstabber, take time to closely observe their antics and policies. When the opportunity comes along- fool them into their own game but do it with style and grace. Make sure you're not going against your own values and self-worth in the process.



Warnings

* Never let the backstabber know that he/she has gotten to you.
* Do not underestimate his power. Try not to offend or hurt him, but be merely polite and refuse him anything he asks that you are not willing to give.
* Do not get angry when he backstabs you. Realize from the start it will happen eventually. Don't form any deep relationship with him. He'll suck you dry.
* Be careful when you talk to backstabbers, they might be recording you.
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back stabbers? m,aramai akong kakilalang ganyan! sa DOTA nga lng
Posted 5/6/08 , edited 5/6/08

serpentura wrote:

back stabbers? m,aramai akong kakilalang ganyan! sa DOTA nga lng


in real life tinutukoy ko, indi sa laro
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i hate 'em!!!
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i think they are smart. they can manipulate every person LOL. a nime wouldnt be complete if there are no backstabbers. although they loose in the end ^_^
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ayaw q skanila,, as much as possible d q sila ginagaya
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grabe, wish ko matagal na sana di na maulit ang pag back stab.. pero
mukhang naulit nanaman
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I GOT BACK STAB A LOTTA TIME'S.......BUT I DON'T MIND PEOPLE.....AND OH,I ALSO GOT STAB AT THE BACK ALSO....
Posted 5/6/08
i hate em all! i hate those kind of people
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all i can say they're bunch of jerks.....eerrrr kakainis sila.........kapag kaharap mo sila sau loyalty nila tapos pag kaharap na nila yung iba sa kanila na loyalty nila.......................kahit anong gawin mo di mo sila ma please......those kinds of persons are getting in mah nerve


uu nga ehh, sana makarma ang mga tao na ganun!
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I choose the first solution.....
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ako yung taong madaling maparanoid
and weakness ko pag my naririnig akong my nagsaabi ng negative sakin

There was this girl, I've met her and treat her nicely, and even share my stories
then One day my room mate told me, about that girl sayingbad stuff about me at my room mate
I really dont know what i did too her

I even confronted her and ask her she just say i did nothing

I often called my mom up, crying,
kasi wala naman akong ginagawang masama inaaway ako
iisnabin ka,
plastic sayo
naka ngiti pag magkausap kayo
after 15 min. super galit nanaman sayo huhu

until now i just wanna ask Y?


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annOying!!!!
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KakashiSensei18 wrote:

ako yung taong madaling maparanoid
and weakness ko pag my naririnig akong my nagsaabi ng negative sakin

There was this girl, I've met her and treat her nicely, and even share my stories
then One day my room mate told me, about that girl sayingbad stuff about me at my room mate
I really dont know what i did too her

I even confronted her and ask her she just say i did nothing

I often called my mom up, crying,
kasi wala naman akong ginagawang masama inaaway ako
iisnabin ka,
plastic sayo
naka ngiti pag magkausap kayo
after 15 min. super galit nanaman sayo huhu

until now i just wanna ask Y?




nag post po ako ng tips kung paanu mkaka iwas sa mga taong gnun
sana po maging effective ang mga tips na yun

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Posted 5/7/08
nabackstab na ako,, u2-u2 nga me eh,, kc hinahayaan ko lng tsaka nakangiti lng ako habang binabackstab ako ng ibang tao... 2loy na22 akong gumanti binabackstab ko rin ung mga taong nang babackstab sakin...hehe masaya... parang naglalaro lng kau.... parang sinusugal nio ung trust nio sa isa't-isa tapos kung sinu ung unang mgatiwala xa ung talo...pagalingan nga umarte eh... hehehe
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