Online and Offline ''Psychopaths''
Posted 5/7/08 , edited 5/7/08
I am not sure now if this topic is in any ways suited for the ED section, but meh e.e

I was thinking about this for a while now, as I am currently regularly online and also I am actively participating in the online world. And I came to a conclusion, the internet is the perfect hideout for psychopaths and other people of the likes. Not that I wouldn't have known that before, just before that I wouldn't really believe it, or not really take it that serious. I saw a lot of shit in real life, but the biggest shit was definitely online....

I always thought that I am open for anything, but now I am sure that I CAN'T be open for everything cause some stuff is honestly just TOO TWISTED, even for me. Some people are TOO TWISTED for me, and I am not being someone who gets shocked that easily, but then I imagine this teens and kids being online, and then I think about how many twisted people I've met online...This teens who are not aware of most of the consequences, like sending their naked pictures around on some online friend's request, or some similar shit. Also taking into consideration how many FATAL lies are being used just to make someone do something, and all this based on the immaturity of the prey. Predators are literally lurking here for their prey to come sit on their lap, and then they devour them alive, mentally abuse them, and there are even cases where they meet up in real life, and oh well...

I always thought that there are some parents who are overreacting with blocking skype and other messengers, and websites to PROTECT their children. But now I would say that it is better to overreact than regret it later.

Anyways, I know a few manipulative people in real life. People of the kind who are playing with the weak-minded people, just to fullfil their own desires. Good example are constant attention-whores. The typical person who comes up with threats like this:'' If you won't do this, or that, I will kill myself!'' or '' *sob sob* you ignored me, I am going now to my emo corner /slits wrists*, they are trying to seek attention with threats of the like, and IMO they are definitely annoying, and are a threat to people who would like to keep their sanity intact, but besides that the BIG problem is if you are a caring person, then you can't never be sure enough if they are just playing with your mind or if they are actually really that depressive and emotional, so if you tell them to GTFO, then you might get plagued by thoughts like, :'' Oh snap, but what if she really will kill herself because of me not paying enough attention to her?'', and similar thoughts will plague you, so you think twice, and you just pretend to be sorry, and blah blah...and then you are actually SCARED that if you would be honest with them, that they eventually might make their threats come true....How will you handle with this? This people exist online and aswell offline...

Then there are the ones who are always ''horny'', like give me some nude pics of you, and blah blah, or get a cam, and lets make some online stuff. Mostly this perverts are failures in real life, as they never had the opportunity to ever really have any sexual experiences and so on, otherwise why would they always need to talk about sex and similar stuff? Mostly this are adults who are misusing the innocence and naivety of children without parental guidance. They can literally terrorise the minds of this kids, and other naive beings. And sometimes being mentally ''raped'' can be the same as if you would have gotten physically raped, even worse. What can you do against this...I mean there are people who lack the confidence to block this ''perverts''...they will automatically end up as a prey for the ''predators''....

Anyways, I could go on endlessly about this stuff. And I might later edit my post, as I am a bit e.e w/e

Just write about your personal experiences, or any experiences of people you know, and debate about it HOW such things could be prevented, or how to get out of similar troubles...

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Then there are the ones who are always ''horny'', like give me some nude pics of you, and blah blah, or get a cam, and lets make some online stuff. Mostly this perverts are failures in real life, as they never had the opportunity to ever really have any sexual experiences and so on, otherwise why would they always need to talk about sex and similar stuff? Mostly this are adults who are misusing the innocence and naivety of children without parental guidance. They can literally terrorise the minds of this kids, and other naive beings. And sometimes being mentally ''raped'' can be the same as if you would have gotten physically raped, even worse. What can you do against this...I mean there are people who lack the confidence to block this ''perverts''...they will automatically end up as a prey for the ''predators''....


This bit you have to make clear choice weither that person is playing around or not, ive seen many of both in the chat, obviously its my own oppinion if they are playing around becasue in truth i will never know.... however in my oppinion they do it mainly to gain attention. Very rare cases its casuse they are psycho. However yes many will be perverted...and mentally scared are you not a instagator of this i rember it clearly


Also rember a very important thing, many people see the net and chatrooms as a place where they dont need to be themselves. They can create alternate personalitys where they can act and do as they please.
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I've always thought that being educated on any matter, in this case too, would help prevent these sorts of things from happening. To be honest, I'm not entirely sure that sheltering or restricting children from knowing what's out there does any good. It just furthers provokes naivety when coming across a situation face to face because they won't know they are facing it. It's hard to say that people should have some common sense when surfing the internet because we all know not everyone has it. The things that you hear involving children and online predators is all because the former lacked the common sense to not share personal information.

Exactly where do these people hang out? Chatrooms, personal websites such as Myspace or Facebook... Of course if someone puts information like phone numbers or screen names, a predator can certainly use it to their advantage. Targets of online predators almost always seem to be picked because of the innocence that they exude.

Being naive and gullible are always factors someone willing to victimize another person looks for.
Posted 5/7/08

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Then there are the ones who are always ''horny'', like give me some nude pics of you, and blah blah, or get a cam, and lets make some online stuff. Mostly this perverts are failures in real life, as they never had the opportunity to ever really have any sexual experiences and so on, otherwise why would they always need to talk about sex and similar stuff? Mostly this are adults who are misusing the innocence and naivety of children without parental guidance. They can literally terrorise the minds of this kids, and other naive beings. And sometimes being mentally ''raped'' can be the same as if you would have gotten physically raped, even worse. What can you do against this...I mean there are people who lack the confidence to block this ''perverts''...they will automatically end up as a prey for the ''predators''....


This bit you have to make clear choice weither that person is playing around or not, ive seen many of both in the chat, obviously its my own oppinion if they are playing around becasue in truth i will never know.... however in my oppinion they do it mainly to gain attention. Very rare cases its casuse they are psycho. However yes many will be perverted...and mentally scared are you not a instagator of this i rember it clearly


Well, I am referring to cases where the person is seriously after it. Joking around about this stuff is not that terrible as long as you make it clear that it is just a joke and of course there are some boarders.

In this cases I was more relying on skype affairs and other messenger crap.

The psychopath word, I did put it in '' '', to make it clear that it is an exaggeration.

Oh snap, I was never serious about anything, I thought that I made it clear that I was only JOKING around. Plus, I don't do it EVERY day. I stopped long ago...and I did this only on chat for fun...I was always laughing my arse off...or did I send you a PM with a request about nude pics of yours? e.e

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Posted 5/7/08
I think the concept of allowing people from the internet so far into your life that they can actually control your reactions and behaviours is a very scary but real thought.

The internet is an amazing thing, it can cross borders without a passport, it can convey a smile without facial nerves, it can even laugh without really making a sound. Here's the problem with that. In real life, someone smiles at you, and if you are perceptive enough you can tell if that smile is malicious, you can tell if its genuine, or faked. In real life people need to knock on your front door in order to first come into your home, and when they laugh you usually know if they are laughing with you or at you. Online, none of those rules apply. Once you log on, people are INSIDE your home without invitation (especially if you're talking about a chatroom), you cant tell if these smilies are genuine (in fact most of the time they are downright mocking actually), and you can't tell if an LOL is directed at the comment you made being funny or if its making fun of a vulnurability you didn't even know you had.

Equally as frightening is the aspect that women just as much as men can overpower a user on here (emotionally, psychologically, in nonphysical terms). Anyone who can pluck away at your obvious triggers has you at their disposal whether or not you intended them to be. The most bizarre things you never thought were things that worried you will suddenly worry you. "Oh so and so made a statement that sounded too similar to something I said to someone else in private, are they talking about me?" tends to come to mind frequently if a person is insecure enough.

One of the really bizarre things that I often times didnt consider bizarre in real life, is the public obsession with attention. Girls who literally GUILT people for simply not saying hi in a chatroom (even if said person didnt see the message, was away, etc). Some of these girls even revert to high school behaviour of attempting to exile others, trying to manipulate words, or even better, the hypocritical "HI _____ <3333333333!.... WHY ARENT YOU RESPONDING OMG" and then leave, only to go and whisper behind peoples backs saying things like "so and so is such a b*tch etc etc" when said person either is more quiet, or probably wasn't there at all.

The predatory behaviour online sometimes extends way past sexuality and goes into mentality, a quick endorphin fix for the predator by simply making others feel lesser of themselves. The psychological games that itty bitty kiddies play on the playground to see who'll cry first. It's pretty sad actually, because generally those people don't get very far in life. If a person is still stuck in playground mentality they deprive themselves many chances of gaining true friends, knowledge, and life experience.

As for the sexual predator, they are generally the guys who take your sad moments and twist them, "oh I'm letting you cry on my shoulder. Strip on cam for me it'll make you feel better... I'm here for you" or if they can't even handle a woman their own age they prey on younger girls, and then consequently use that embarrassing moment in that girls experience to kind of hold it over her, keeping her on a yoyo that makes her feel insecure, imbalanced, sometimes even guilty, as though they asked to be manipulated.

The sad thing about that, is that many young girls online don't think twice before tossing out a flirty comment, or a <33333 to some random guy they've known a week or two, it's not to say that they should be blamed for anything happening but they should definitely consider being a little less attention whorey. The wrong kind of attention is usually brought on by seeming just a little too vulnerable and open.

Mostly the best thing a person can do on the net, male or female, is to truly talk to the people who they claim to be friends with, without giving out so much information that it hurts you later on. At the beginning keep things neutral (that does NOT mean shallow), find out how much you really have in common with someone before dipping into the deep dark secret bowl. You never know whose skeletons in the closet might still be alive.
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Posted 5/7/08

MidnightZorya wrote:


Blazeh wrote:


Then there are the ones who are always ''horny'', like give me some nude pics of you, and blah blah, or get a cam, and lets make some online stuff. Mostly this perverts are failures in real life, as they never had the opportunity to ever really have any sexual experiences and so on, otherwise why would they always need to talk about sex and similar stuff? Mostly this are adults who are misusing the innocence and naivety of children without parental guidance. They can literally terrorise the minds of this kids, and other naive beings. And sometimes being mentally ''raped'' can be the same as if you would have gotten physically raped, even worse. What can you do against this...I mean there are people who lack the confidence to block this ''perverts''...they will automatically end up as a prey for the ''predators''....


This bit you have to make clear choice weither that person is playing around or not, ive seen many of both in the chat, obviously its my own oppinion if they are playing around becasue in truth i will never know.... however in my oppinion they do it mainly to gain attention. Very rare cases its casuse they are psycho. However yes many will be perverted...and mentally scared are you not a instagator of this i rember it clearly


Well, I am referring to cases where the person is seriously after it. Joking around about this stuff is not that terrible as long as you make it clear that it is just a joke and of course there are some boarders.

In this cases I was more relying on skype affairs and other messenger crap.

The psychopath word, I did put it in '' '', to make it clear that it is an exaggeration.

Oh snap, I was never serious about anything, I thought that I made it clear that I was only JOKING around. Plus, I don't do it EVERY day. I stopped long ago...and I did this only on chat for fun...I was always laughing my arse off...or did I send you a PM with a request about nude pics of yours? e.e

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Yes, i know you was joking around but it was an example of what i mean, and skype and msn affairs well ive never experienced them, although i still belive the same theory applies.

However i agree there are people that are serious, though i seriously dont udnerstand their logic, wouldn't be watchin porn better than them spending large amount of time trying to persuade people. But as they are messed up in the head then again they wouldnt think like that. Lukily im assuming we all have enough sence to ingore these types of people.
Posted 5/8/08

Blazeh wrote:


MidnightZorya wrote:


Blazeh wrote:


Then there are the ones who are always ''horny'', like give me some nude pics of you, and blah blah, or get a cam, and lets make some online stuff. Mostly this perverts are failures in real life, as they never had the opportunity to ever really have any sexual experiences and so on, otherwise why would they always need to talk about sex and similar stuff? Mostly this are adults who are misusing the innocence and naivety of children without parental guidance. They can literally terrorise the minds of this kids, and other naive beings. And sometimes being mentally ''raped'' can be the same as if you would have gotten physically raped, even worse. What can you do against this...I mean there are people who lack the confidence to block this ''perverts''...they will automatically end up as a prey for the ''predators''....


This bit you have to make clear choice weither that person is playing around or not, ive seen many of both in the chat, obviously its my own oppinion if they are playing around becasue in truth i will never know.... however in my oppinion they do it mainly to gain attention. Very rare cases its casuse they are psycho. However yes many will be perverted...and mentally scared are you not a instagator of this i rember it clearly


Well, I am referring to cases where the person is seriously after it. Joking around about this stuff is not that terrible as long as you make it clear that it is just a joke and of course there are some boarders.

In this cases I was more relying on skype affairs and other messenger crap.

The psychopath word, I did put it in '' '', to make it clear that it is an exaggeration.

Oh snap, I was never serious about anything, I thought that I made it clear that I was only JOKING around. Plus, I don't do it EVERY day. I stopped long ago...and I did this only on chat for fun...I was always laughing my arse off...or did I send you a PM with a request about nude pics of yours? e.e

Floetry~


Yes, i know you was joking around but it was an example of what i mean, and skype and msn affairs well ive never experienced them, although i still belive the same theory applies.

However i agree there are people that are serious, though i seriously dont udnerstand their logic, wouldn't be watchin porn better than them spending large amount of time trying to persuade people. But as they are messed up in the head then again they wouldnt think like that. Lukily im assuming we all have enough sence to ingore these types of people.


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