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Posted 7/5/08
help me!! we've been friends for like three years already. but now he is already my suitor. i love him...but i don't want to lose him, especially coz we know that we both are different..please help!!!!
Posted 7/6/08

tereesa wrote:

Well... i happen to like this guy art school. And i always embarrass myself when i am around him. My face gets red very easily, so whenever i am around him i get red faced and dont act like myself =( what should i doo?? he probably thinks im a loser =(


Well I don't know what to tell you. I wish I could help.
Ummm........for me I don't really think about getting a guy mostly because they're all my friends, but once in a while one or two of those friends confess their feelings.
So I would tell you to just try to get to know him as best as you can
Posted 7/6/08 , edited 7/6/08
umm...My bff likes this guy in my class and that guy likes me a lot...i don't like him at all! but my friend got mad thinking i do...i want to tell the boy to stop talking to me but i can't cuz i might hurt his feelings but i don't want to hurt my bff feeling too.. i also have a bf and hes getting really jealous and thinking i like him......what can i do?
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Posted 7/10/08

joycejoycejoyce wrote:

umm...My bff likes this guy in my class and that guy likes me a lot...i don't like him at all! but my friend got mad thinking i do...i want to tell the boy to stop talking to me but i can't cuz i might hurt his feelings but i don't want to hurt my bff feeling too.. i also have a bf and hes getting really jealous and thinking i like him......what can i do?


...be honest...tell that guy that u already have a bf and u don't like him at all...even if it can hurt him!...it's better to hurt that guy by being honest to him than to hurt ur bff and bf....
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Posted 7/10/08

tereesa wrote:

Well... i happen to like this guy art school. And i always embarrass myself when i am around him. My face gets red very easily, so whenever i am around him i get red faced and dont act like myself =( what should i doo?? he probably thinks im a loser =(


..lolz! just be yourself! that's too cute though. ...i remember ariel lin in started with a kiss..lolz!
Posted 7/10/08

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joycejoycejoyce wrote:

umm...My bff likes this guy in my class and that guy likes me a lot...i don't like him at all! but my friend got mad thinking i do...i want to tell the boy to stop talking to me but i can't cuz i might hurt his feelings but i don't want to hurt my bff feeling too.. i also have a bf and hes getting really jealous and thinking i like him......what can i do?


...be honest...tell that guy that u already have a bf and u don't like him at all...even if it can hurt him!...it's better to hurt that guy by being honest to him than to hurt ur bff and bf....


but that boy my childhood friend ><
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Posted 7/10/08

joycejoycejoyce wrote:


khirtladylou wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:

umm...My bff likes this guy in my class and that guy likes me a lot...i don't like him at all! but my friend got mad thinking i do...i want to tell the boy to stop talking to me but i can't cuz i might hurt his feelings but i don't want to hurt my bff feeling too.. i also have a bf and hes getting really jealous and thinking i like him......what can i do?


...be honest...tell that guy that u already have a bf and u don't like him at all...even if it can hurt him!...it's better to hurt that guy by being honest to him than to hurt ur bff and bf....


but that boy my childhood friend ><



u just have to talk to him about that matter. u dont need to break your friendship with him becoz of dat.
Posted 7/10/08

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joycejoycejoyce wrote:


khirtladylou wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:

umm...My bff likes this guy in my class and that guy likes me a lot...i don't like him at all! but my friend got mad thinking i do...i want to tell the boy to stop talking to me but i can't cuz i might hurt his feelings but i don't want to hurt my bff feeling too.. i also have a bf and hes getting really jealous and thinking i like him......what can i do?


...be honest...tell that guy that u already have a bf and u don't like him at all...even if it can hurt him!...it's better to hurt that guy by being honest to him than to hurt ur bff and bf....


but that boy my childhood friend ><



u just have to talk to him about that matter. u dont need to break your friendship with him becoz of dat.


what if he doesn't listen ?
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Posted 7/10/08

joycejoycejoyce wrote:


darkauragurl0418 wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:


khirtladylou wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:

umm...My bff likes this guy in my class and that guy likes me a lot...i don't like him at all! but my friend got mad thinking i do...i want to tell the boy to stop talking to me but i can't cuz i might hurt his feelings but i don't want to hurt my bff feeling too.. i also have a bf and hes getting really jealous and thinking i like him......what can i do?


...be honest...tell that guy that u already have a bf and u don't like him at all...even if it can hurt him!...it's better to hurt that guy by being honest to him than to hurt ur bff and bf....


but that boy my childhood friend ><



u just have to talk to him about that matter. u dont need to break your friendship with him becoz of dat.


what if he doesn't listen ?


tell him, "i thought were friends and that u like me? but y wont u listen? dont u know that because of this were hurting sumbody else?"

Posted 7/10/08

darkauragurl0418 wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:


darkauragurl0418 wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:


khirtladylou wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:

umm...My bff likes this guy in my class and that guy likes me a lot...i don't like him at all! but my friend got mad thinking i do...i want to tell the boy to stop talking to me but i can't cuz i might hurt his feelings but i don't want to hurt my bff feeling too.. i also have a bf and hes getting really jealous and thinking i like him......what can i do?


...be honest...tell that guy that u already have a bf and u don't like him at all...even if it can hurt him!...it's better to hurt that guy by being honest to him than to hurt ur bff and bf....


but that boy my childhood friend ><



u just have to talk to him about that matter. u dont need to break your friendship with him becoz of dat.


what if he doesn't listen ?


tell him, "i thought were friends and that u like me? but y wont u listen? dont u know that because of this were hurting sumbody else?"



hmm i'll try thanks ^^
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Posted 7/10/08

joycejoycejoyce wrote:


darkauragurl0418 wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:


darkauragurl0418 wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:


khirtladylou wrote:


joycejoycejoyce wrote:

umm...My bff likes this guy in my class and that guy likes me a lot...i don't like him at all! but my friend got mad thinking i do...i want to tell the boy to stop talking to me but i can't cuz i might hurt his feelings but i don't want to hurt my bff feeling too.. i also have a bf and hes getting really jealous and thinking i like him......what can i do?


...be honest...tell that guy that u already have a bf and u don't like him at all...even if it can hurt him!...it's better to hurt that guy by being honest to him than to hurt ur bff and bf....


but that boy my childhood friend ><



u just have to talk to him about that matter. u dont need to break your friendship with him becoz of dat.


what if he doesn't listen ?


tell him, "i thought were friends and that u like me? but y wont u listen? dont u know that because of this were hurting sumbody else?"



hmm i'll try thanks ^^


no probz! ^_~ hehee hope it'll work

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Posted 7/11/08

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help me!! we've been friends for like three years already. but now he is already my suitor. i love him...but i don't want to lose him, especially coz we know that we both are different..please help!!!!


hm... if you do love each other, then do the right thing for you. You must always think of each other's feelings...
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joycejoycejoyce wrote:

umm...My bff likes this guy in my class and that guy likes me a lot...i don't like him at all! but my friend got mad thinking i do...i want to tell the boy to stop talking to me but i can't cuz i might hurt his feelings but i don't want to hurt my bff feeling too.. i also have a bf and hes getting really jealous and thinking i like him......what can i do?


let's see... you should tell the truth. Tell to him your true feelings in a nice way so that it wouldn't hurt him that much. After that, you could make it up and prove to your bff and bf that there's nothing really going on between the two of you. And maybe you can support your bff.
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anime4215 wrote:

well..... theres this guy that i've liked for over a year now. he was like one of my best guy friends, but now we've become really distant. he became more interested in basketball, n i've become more interested in the violin. we still talk to each other n see each other almost everyday, but i still cant help but miss the old days... then, when i thought things couldnt get even worser, my bestest friend starts to like him now i dont knw wat to do anymore i try n just ignore my feelings for him n help my BF get her luv, but everytime i try, i just end up liking he even more. although, things got even worser. i started to be friends wit my crush's friend. but.... there's this big problem. my crush's friend is kinda starting to like me.... although im not sure wether i like him, or my crush, or neither of them...

any advice???


first... you must consider the ff. people's feelings... you know, it's a very complicated thing so to be able to not regret anything, if it's possible, have a hint about their feelings for other persons... but it will depends on you since you're still not sure about your feelings... do whatever you feel the right thing to do...
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Monika-chan's advice is also right. And my adive to you is....do it step by step..


First, ask yourself. Do you REALLY like this guy? If you do, then there is no problem.

Second, does your friend already know about this? If not, then you should tell her. You don't have to be scared on hurting her feelings, if she is your friend, then she won't mind...but if she DO mind, then just tell her that you don't mind the competition...sometimes, it's good to have rivals in love too! ^^ and remember, don't let this thing destroy your friendship..when i say rivalry in love, you don't have to kill each other. it may help me more if i know what personality you have and you bff so that i can give you a more detailed advice...

Third, don't push the guy. Believe it or not, some guys like girls who are simple and friendly. it won't help you if you scream and squeal everytime your crush passes by...ok, some guys DO like that stuff...makes them feel like a chick magnet...anyways, to get that guy to notice you should not be hard at all! first and the most stable way is befriend him...

Fourth, the friend of your crush...that really IS troublesome...are you sure he likes you? if you are, double-check again....if he DO likes you, then..consider his feelings too. you should tell him how you feel, but in a nice way of course. be frank but nice at the same time...if you dont know how to do that, then just try to stick to the point....tell him something like this: "You know, I like (your crush's name). I know he is your friend, so....(anything you want to add)" it WILL hurt his feelings if he DO truly like you, its like he is being dumped...yeah, saying that to him is like BEING dumped....but anyways, its good to say that first, you dont want to keep feeding him with false hopes....


Next, remind yourself, to not hurt someone..do it as little as possible..if i were in your position, i could have solved the problem by now...anyways, if you think my advice is still not good enough, next time, tell me your personalities in one SIMPLE sentence first...so that i could give a much more detailed advice...



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