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YummyPocky wrote:


snckpack wrote:

Alright theres this girl i like and shes one of my friends.I told her but she told me she doesnt like me like that.What should i do?I mean i cant stop thinking about her and in my minds eye shes perfect.She has beautiful eyes and the way she wears her glasses at the end of her nose and when she smiles at me its the greatest feeling in the world AND she likes anime.I...*sigh* I just dont know what to do and its killin me inside.


awww..it's so cute tha way you talk about her!! lol but how sad..hmm..jus be yourself nd maybe she'll end up falling for you!! or maybe you'll get over her nd find another girl that will complete take your heart away<3 umm..whutever happens happens..jus do watever makes you happy! good luck w/everything!!


Don't lisen to this person. She does not know what she is talking about. I tried for everything for a year. Being my self trying to make her jelious. The point is move on. Nothing good can come of it.
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It's hard to accept when you have feelings for someone but you're going to have to move on. No use waiting for love to develop...that's not how it works. If she doesn't love you now, chances are she's not going to love you later either. Be happy you can be friends with her, but move on. You're young, it wont take too long.
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Move on, meet as many girls as possible, ask girls out. The worst thing they can say is "no"(unless they insult you, but you wouldn't want to be with someone that cruel anyway)
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yeah...I think you really should move on. You're young, there's plenty of girls out there and you're bound to find another one you like that will like you back. Remember, however much you want it to work...life isn't like those asian dramas where things always seem to go wrong and then at the very end, go your way and you live happily ever after.
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Meowsa wrote:

It's hard to accept when you have feelings for someone but you're going to have to move on. No use waiting for love to develop...that's not how it works. If she doesn't love you now, chances are she's not going to love you later either. Be happy you can be friends with her, but move on. You're young, it wont take too long. :)


She is right on the money. I wish that I didn't waste my time waiting on her. Forget her and move on to the next girl that is really cute, is sweet, and smart and seems to like every thing i do *shakes head and says to self* "I don't like her any more I don't like her any more.*

The point of that was to say you will never get fully over her. But you got to live with that. And hope the next girl you like/love likes/loves you back.
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So, I don't understand what's wrong with the world. Let me elaborate:

I've always considered myself pretty attractive. People say that I'm overly confident. I have long blonde hair, big lake colored eyes, people always stare at my big butt, i have a nice chest, i'm average-heigth, i'm not skinny, but DEFINETLY not fat, i have muscular legs, and the only thing about me thats a bit unattractive is that my acne isn't so great. I don't consider myself like a total bombshell, but I didn't think that my physical appearance would be a reason for some one not to like me... and THEN.

I liked this guy named Dan since the beginning of this school year. He's smart, witty, funny, listens to good music, is tall, not too popular and kind of dorky. It's so cute. He brought a power ranger to school once, what's hotter than that? Anyway, I've been crushing on him for a long time and last semester we would do some group projects together with some other people that I know and it was fun just hanging out with him sometimes. Then, he sort of had a crush on my friend Suisa.

Suisa is not a babe. Suisa is cute. She is short with short hair, a CUTE face, a frail body, but she still has a decent chest. (which most girls her size don't)

I assumed that Suisa must have some special personality trait that I'm lacking and she's not interested in him so it will pass someday if I just sit tight and be friends with every one and Dan doesn't need to know I like him.

Then, this semester Dan and I haven't really talked a whole bunch because his friend Brian is in our class now and Suisa has stopped coming to school altogether I dunno why. I was about to give up when finally, Dan and I were in the same room for the SAT's and we would talk in the hallways and it was really cool and like old times and I started thinking, "now might be my chance..."

THEN. I found out something really disturbing. My best friend was talking to Dan's good friend Eve because they have a class together. Eve goes, "So, does Bethany still like Dan?" and my BFF is like "HUH?" Apparently Dan has known I liked him since God knows how long and I just haven't known about it. Then, Eve goes on to say that I don't have a chance with Dan because he's really superficial and only likes really small, skinny, short girls (like Suisa).

My response to this is WHAT?!?!?!?!?! It seems like a lot of guys are into smaller women these days. What's up with that? I thought guys LIKED big boobs? SHEESH. And Dan shouldn't be so picky anyways. He definetly isn't lean and muscular or anything. His body is pretty average. But I guess that's part of why I like him. That and he's a total jerk sometimes, its so cute.
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So, I don't understand what's wrong with the world. Let me elaborate:

I've always considered myself pretty attractive. People say that I'm overly confident. I have long blonde hair, big lake colored eyes, people always stare at my big butt, i have a nice chest, i'm average-heigth, i'm not skinny, but DEFINETLY not fat, i have muscular legs, and the only thing about me thats a bit unattractive is that my acne isn't so great. I don't consider myself like a total bombshell, but I didn't think that my physical appearance would be a reason for some one not to like me... and THEN.

I liked this guy named Dan since the beginning of this school year. He's smart, witty, funny, listens to good music, is tall, not too popular and kind of dorky. It's so cute. He brought a power ranger to school once, what's hotter than that? Anyway, I've been crushing on him for a long time and last semester we would do some group projects together with some other people that I know and it was fun just hanging out with him sometimes. Then, he sort of had a crush on my friend Suisa.

Suisa is not a babe. Suisa is cute. She is short with short hair, a CUTE face, a frail body, but she still has a decent chest. (which most girls her size don't)

I assumed that Suisa must have some special personality trait that I'm lacking and she's not interested in him so it will pass someday if I just sit tight and be friends with every one and Dan doesn't need to know I like him.

Then, this semester Dan and I haven't really talked a whole bunch because his friend Brian is in our class now and Suisa has stopped coming to school altogether I dunno why. I was about to give up when finally, Dan and I were in the same room for the SAT's and we would talk in the hallways and it was really cool and like old times and I started thinking, "now might be my chance..."

THEN. I found out something really disturbing. My best friend was talking to Dan's good friend Eve because they have a class together. Eve goes, "So, does Bethany still like Dan?" and my BFF is like "HUH?" Apparently Dan has known I liked him since God knows how long and I just haven't known about it. Then, Eve goes on to say that I don't have a chance with Dan because he's really superficial and only likes really small, skinny, short girls (like Suisa).

My response to this is WHAT?!?!?!?!?! It seems like a lot of guys are into smaller women these days. What's up with that? I thought guys LIKED big boobs? SHEESH. And Dan shouldn't be so picky anyways. He definetly isn't lean and muscular or anything. His body is pretty average. But I guess that's part of why I like him. That and he's a total jerk sometimes, its so cute.


Hmmm apparently, the type of guys that you stereotype are either perverts or gangsters (or wannabes). Personally, I am also into smaller women well mainly because they have this innocent and fragile feel to em. I think those are the type that men really want to get serious with. If you haven't noticed yet, chivalry isn't dead yet. XD Guys like those who can they protect sort of...

So yeah correct me if I'm wrong but that's how I see it. Besides, there is nothing wrong being physically fit. It's just men prefer those who hold a "feminine" image.
Posted 1/30/07
Just because you're a looker doesn't mean that guys are gonna look. Atleast for me, now that sex is in high demand, I tend to avoid girls who I feel are trying to use "feminine wiles" to hook me. I mean, I don't really fall for girls till I see them on their "day off", without the makeup, with the clothes that no "decent" girl'd wear in public, when they aren't seeking to impress. You gotta be careful in dating so that the other person doesn't think you're trying to sell them something. I'm not trying to be accusatory, but I caught a whiff of something in your writing.

It takes a long time to personally figure out what attracts you. I've dated a respectable quantity of girls with almost nothing physically in common with each other (except the obvious anatomical requirements ). But I know plenty of blondechasers and guys with certain "dishes" on the menu, if you will. The short and economical model is "in" right now, especially with the "hip dorks" who fit neither category, as the man of your dreams seems to be. I think we're looking at a case of "grass is always greener" and that your desirable friend would gladly trade to lose the cute look in a second.

And, by the way, did you ever consider that, maybe she did actually like the guy, but considered your feelings first and killed them before they grew? People are crazy like that. Just throwin' that out there... Plus, fallin for your crush's best friend can be tough because they are so close to the person you liked. And what does this Eva really know about that guy, I'm sure he doesn't find other variences in the female form all that offensive... It's a big world with a lot of women, I'm sure she just hasn't observed him long enough.
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in regards to the first post in this section:
the advice started out beautifully, but it got a little wacked out so i couldn't bring myself to read any more.

being female, and liking someone in a different country who probably sees me as a little sis, i understand how easy it is to become infatuated!

i've had guys proclaim their love right after meeting me!
(creepy! scary! don't do it!)

but this brought me to the realization that although i think i'm in love with him, he may only see me as a sister, and i need to wait and see what God wants

if she says no, stop. don't persue her--it will only end up hurting you and your friendship!

get to know her and maybe you both will see something in each other, but teen romance doesn't usually work out anyway. . . so don't fall too hard for her, k?
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bisforbodacious wrote:

So, I don't understand what's wrong with the world. Let me elaborate:

I've always considered myself pretty attractive. People say that I'm overly confident. I have long blonde hair, big lake colored eyes, people always stare at my big butt, i have a nice chest, i'm average-heigth, i'm not skinny, but DEFINETLY not fat, i have muscular legs, and the only thing about me thats a bit unattractive is that my acne isn't so great. I don't consider myself like a total bombshell, but I didn't think that my physical appearance would be a reason for some one not to like me... and THEN.

I liked this guy named Dan since the beginning of this school year. He's smart, witty, funny, listens to good music, is tall, not too popular and kind of dorky. It's so cute. He brought a power ranger to school once, what's hotter than that? Anyway, I've been crushing on him for a long time and last semester we would do some group projects together with some other people that I know and it was fun just hanging out with him sometimes. Then, he sort of had a crush on my friend Suisa.

Suisa is not a babe. Suisa is cute. She is short with short hair, a CUTE face, a frail body, but she still has a decent chest. (which most girls her size don't)

I assumed that Suisa must have some special personality trait that I'm lacking and she's not interested in him so it will pass someday if I just sit tight and be friends with every one and Dan doesn't need to know I like him.

Then, this semester Dan and I haven't really talked a whole bunch because his friend Brian is in our class now and Suisa has stopped coming to school altogether I dunno why. I was about to give up when finally, Dan and I were in the same room for the SAT's and we would talk in the hallways and it was really cool and like old times and I started thinking, "now might be my chance..."

THEN. I found out something really disturbing. My best friend was talking to Dan's good friend Eve because they have a class together. Eve goes, "So, does Bethany still like Dan?" and my BFF is like "HUH?" Apparently Dan has known I liked him since God knows how long and I just haven't known about it. Then, Eve goes on to say that I don't have a chance with Dan because he's really superficial and only likes really small, skinny, short girls (like Suisa).

My response to this is WHAT?!?!?!?!?! It seems like a lot of guys are into smaller women these days. What's up with that? I thought guys LIKED big boobs? SHEESH. And Dan shouldn't be so picky anyways. He definetly isn't lean and muscular or anything. His body is pretty average. But I guess that's part of why I like him. That and he's a total jerk sometimes, its so cute.


Oh wow. My friend and I were JUST talking about this the other day. xD The conclusion we came to is that guys like small girls cause they're...small in a particular area (not sure how to phrase this in a PG-13 manner @_@).

Also, I'd talk to some of my guy friends and, though they do like big boobs, if the girl doesn't look proportionate, it's just a big no-no. Then again, I guess it's a manner of preferance. A lot of guys liked me cause I have a big butt. HAHA. xD

As for the first post, I totally understand. There was I friend that I liked, but he didn't like me back. I woefully accepted his decision. Time went on and I was glad that we didn't hit it off. So don't worry about her. You'll a better catch once you get into college... or wherever you go.
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wow...'love'...sucks
ok..I got a problem..could you guys help me?
Ever since the beginning of 8th grade, everybody has told me that i have gotten prettier. Now that boosted my self-confidence ALOT. Over summer i lost like 20 pounds, grew 5 inches, grew out my hair,new hair color, my acne is almost gone, and i grew in..'other places'(if you catch my drift). I was so excited for school to start because there was this guy I liked and sorta became friends with. I wanted him to see me and think 'Wow'( I know that sounds self-loving, but trust me, I am the farthest thing from self-loving).
But as soon as i got to school, all my confidence seemed to slip through my fingers. I swear every girl at school was flirting him with in their little size 2 bodies crowding him.UGH! Why is it, that if your not a size 2 you're fat?(atleast that's how it is at my school) A size 5 is not fat, it's average/athletic.....I felt too 'overly-developed' for a girl my age. It was so awkward to stand next to my best friend(who the year before had been my same height) and tower over her my like 4 inches. I hated that she was so small and 'girly' compared to me. Now, I'm not saying I'm not girly, cuz I am. And I'm not fat nor thin. I'm athletic. Which I dont really like. My dad has always told me that guys like a girl who thay can relate to. But all the guys at my school seem to just wanna have me on their basketball team instead actually talk to me. Even the guy I like is kinda like that. Like the year before he and I used to always get into trouble during class for talking to eachother, now this year, he barely talks to me. Why? My attitude hasn't changed from last year, if anything I smile more this year.
Why can't any of the guys like me for me and not what's on my chest? If the guys at school aren't trying tho get me to play basketball with them, they're giving me perverted looks or cracking perverted jokes at me. Are all guys like this?
I just want this guy to notice me because I'm me. I really want him to like me..but how do I do that??
sooo..confused & frustrated
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Sweetie, guys your age are nowhere NEAR as mature as you are now. It's gonna take time for them to actually realize the difference between nice and natural girls over the ones that just try to flaunt their "goods." And your dad is right...just not for people your age. ^^; Trust me, guys will be total poop heads for a few years. Occasionally you'll find a respectible one, but don't get your hopes up.

In response to that guy, maybe he changed? Maybe he has a girlfriend? (but probably not since you would have mentioned that :P) Maybe he lost his initial interest in you since you may not have conversed much in the summer? In any case, don't worry too much about it. He may come around. If not, then you can do better. Hope he's not one of those guys that go for the "easy" girls. xP

And are all guys perverted? At that age, yes. They just went through puberty and their hormones are going crazy. When they get older, will they still be perverted? Yes. xD Well, in a sense. Only the dumb losers will still act that way thinking they'll somehow score with an actual girl. Heh.
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In all honesty, id much rather have a good friend who is a girl rather than a girlfriend.

well that has mostly to do with my perdicament and my never actually being "normal"
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stone032 wrote:

wow...'love'...sucks
ok..I got a problem..could you guys help me?
Ever since the beginning of 8th grade, everybody has told me that i have gotten prettier. Now that boosted my self-confidence ALOT. Over summer i lost like 20 pounds, grew 5 inches, grew out my hair,new hair color, my acne is almost gone, and i grew in..'other places'(if you catch my drift). I was so excited for school to start because there was this guy I liked and sorta became friends with. I wanted him to see me and think 'Wow'( I know that sounds self-loving, but trust me, I am the farthest thing from self-loving).
But as soon as i got to school, all my confidence seemed to slip through my fingers. I swear every girl at school was flirting him with in their little size 2 bodies crowding him.UGH! Why is it, that if your not a size 2 you're fat?(atleast that's how it is at my school) A size 5 is not fat, it's average/athletic.....I felt too 'overly-developed' for a girl my age. It was so awkward to stand next to my best friend(who the year before had been my same height) and tower over her my like 4 inches. I hated that she was so small and 'girly' compared to me. Now, I'm not saying I'm not girly, cuz I am. And I'm not fat nor thin. I'm athletic. Which I dont really like. My dad has always told me that guys like a girl who thay can relate to. But all the guys at my school seem to just wanna have me on their basketball team instead actually talk to me. Even the guy I like is kinda like that. Like the year before he and I used to always get into trouble during class for talking to eachother, now this year, he barely talks to me. Why? My attitude hasn't changed from last year, if anything I smile more this year.
Why can't any of the guys like me for me and not what's on my chest? If the guys at school aren't trying tho get me to play basketball with them, they're giving me perverted looks or cracking perverted jokes at me. Are all guys like this?
I just want this guy to notice me because I'm me. I really want him to like me..but how do I do that??
sooo..confused & frustrated


If a guy a cant like you for you then that just means that hes not for you. You dont have to work hard for someone to like you and to notice for who you are. Just act normally,
act in a way that youd be comfortable. sooner or later esomeone will see your inner you and the whole shebang. Just be you - taking pride of who you are, thats all that you have to do.
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oh by the way deary, similar interests is much more important to guys than you think...well...most guys...its not all about looks anymore....well, i speak for myself and a few others
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