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There are indeed lots of cases of rape, kidnapping etc etc.
This tread is created to share your experiences with any misfortunes that are SERIOUS that happened to you which might result in death, kidnapping,rape ,abuse ,theft ,fraud etc.
And not just that, tips to prevent the preventable.

I have searched for any duplicate threads and there seem to be none. If there is, Please report and delete this thread.If you find this thread useless, do delete it. Please don't spam.

Here's some tips on preventing rape.

Protect yourself at home

1.Keep entrances well lit. If normal lighting is not functioning in an entryway, approach with extreme caution. It is not uncommon for a criminal to remove, unscrew, or break bulbs in entryways.
2.Check the identification of any sales or service persons before letting them in. Ask for a photo ID. If you have any doubts phone the company for verification.
3.Equip your home with peepholes, dead bolts, and chain locks. If you have a child, add a second peephole at their eye level.
4.Never give the impression that you are at home alone if strangers telephone or come to your door. Advise your children to do the same.
5.Beware of potential hiding places and avoid them.
6.Keep outside bushes and shrubbery trimmed. Overgrown bushes and trees often provide excellent hiding places for criminals.
7.Plant defensive shrubbery around your home, especially beneath windows. Bushes that feature thorns, such as bougainvillea, or stiff, spiky leaves are not good hiding places for criminals.
8.If you come home and find a door or window open or signs of forced entry, do not go in. Go to the nearest phone and call the police.
9. If there is someone following you home, turn around and talk to the person. Ask for the time or whatsoever. The ideal is to see the person's face. Rapers normally do not want to be recognised.


Protect yourself in your automobile


1. Keep your car in good working order and gas tank at least half full. Make a practice of filling up your vehicle during the daylight hours. Never let it get so low that you are forced to stop for fuel, particularly at night in an area with which you are unfamiliar.
2.Always have your keys out and ready before leaving a building to approach your car. Fumbling through your purse for keys after you've reached your car provides criminals with an opportunity to sneak up on you.
3.Look around and in your car before entering. If you are concerned for any reason, simply walk past your car instead of getting into it.
4.Lock your car door immediately after entering the vehicle. Make this your first action - even before putting the key into the ignition.
5.When stopped in traffic keeps doors locked as usual and leave yourself enough distance from the vehicle in front of you should a criminal attempt to walk alongside your vehicle and gain entry or attack you.
6.Park in well lighted areas and lock the doors, even if you'll be gone a short time. Check your surroundings before getting out of your car. If something or someone strikes you as out of place or threatening, drive away.
7.When you return to your car, have the key ready and check the front and rear seats and floors before getting in.
8.If you are accosted in a parking lot, away from your own vehicle, consider rolling underneath a nearby auto. It is difficult to force anyone out from under a car.
9.If an attacker does manage to get into your car while you are in it, do everything in your power to exit the automobile. If you are still behind the wheel, steer your vehicle into a barricade, a pole, a wall -- any object that will create a minor accident. Take advantage while your attacker's attention has been diverted and exit the automobile. Run, yell, scream. Attract attention.
10.Don't stop to assist a stranger whose car has broken down. Instead, help by driving to the nearest phone and calling police to help.
11.If you get a flat tire, drive carefully on it until you reach a safe, well lighted and well traveled area. If necessary, better to ruin a tire than gamble with your safety.
12.If you are involved in an accident, stay in your car until police arrive. In minor accidents where the other driver suggests you exchange insurance information, simply hold up your driver license and insurance card against the window.
13.If you are being followed, don't drive home. Go to the nearest police or fire station and honk your horn. If that is not possible, drive to an open gas station or other business where you can safely call the police. DO NOT leave your car unless you are certain you can get inside the building safely. Try to obtain the license plate number and description of the car following you.
14.If possible, have a cellular phone in your car for use in emergencies.


Protect yourself while walking or jogging

1.Always be alert to your surroundings and the people around you. Walk confidently and at a steady pace.
2.When on the street, walk facing oncoming traffic. A person walking with traffic can be followed, forced into a car, and abducted more easily than a person walking against traffic.
3.Walk close to the curb or on the sidewalk. Avoid doorways, bushes, and alleys.
4.Don't walk alone at night and always avoid areas where there are few people.
5.Be careful when people stop you for directions. Always reply from a distance, and never go too close to the car. Stay far enough away from the car that you can turn and run easily. An alternative is to simply state, "I don't know" and keep walking.
6. If you feel you are being followed, walk to a well populated area.
7. If you are in trouble, attract help any way you can. Scream, blow a whistle or yell for help.
8.Trust your instincts. If a particular place, person, or group of persons make you feel uneasy, go a different direction, do not approach.



Protect yourself from date rape drugs

1.Never leave a drink unattended. NEVER.
2.Do not accept a drink from anyone you would not "put your life into their hands." Remember, any stranger or casual acquaintance could be suspect. Even those people who are mixing or pouring drinks.)
3.If you are feeling sick or dizzy while out socially, go to someone you KNOW and TRUST. If there is no person you can talk to about your condition, call someone on the phone. Never leave alone. NEVER. (The intent of date rape drugs is to get you isolated and then to assault you.)
4.If you think you have been drugged and cannot tell or call someone, call 911. A blood sample can be collected and appropriate tests run.
5. Remember, alcohol greatly increases the effects of these drugs. The mixture could be lethal.

Why Rohypnol, GHB and Ketamine are used in Date Rapes:


1.They are easy to administer. (Stir and dissolve)
2.When victims feel the effects, they often leave and are caught alone and vulnerable.
3. If victims 'come to' during an assault, the drugs render them totally helpless and unable to do anything.
4.When victims are raped, they doubt their experience because of the impaired memory of it.


If You Are Attacked


There is no single strategy that always works, so remember these tips:

1.Keep your head. Stay as calm as possible, think rationally and evaluate your resources and options.
2. It may be more advisable to submit than to resist. You will have to make this decision based on the circumstances. Be especially careful if the attacker has a weapon.
3.Keep assessing the situation as it is happening. If one strategy does not work, try another. Possible options, in addition to non-resistance, are negotiating, stalling for time, distracting the assailant and fleeing to a safe place, verbal assertiveness, screaming to attract attention and physical resistance.
4.Stay alert and observant so that you can better describe the attacker and the assault to the police.
5. If forced to get into a vehicle, your life is in danger, so resist at all cost. Attract attention, cause a disturbance or try to disable your suspect, but DO NOT get into the vehicle. Scream, gouge his eyes, kick or knee him in the groin, stomp on his feet, use your elbows. Fight like you never have before. This is the fight for YOUR life and it could become your last one.


General Security Tips


1.Always let someone know where you are and where you may be going. You should report all unusual stalking or following of you by any suspicious persons.
2.Maintain your personal space. Stay alert! If a person moves inside your comfort zone, move away. If that person persists, run.
3.Be alert when leaving stores or shopping malls. This is a time when criminals know you are carrying cash, checkbooks, credit cards, or valuable merchandise.
4.Don't use outside ATMs at night, or in unfamiliar or unsafe surroundings. This is another time when criminals know you are carrying cash.
5.Avoid filling your arms with packages. You might have to make more trips, but keep one arm and hand free whenever possible.
6.When friends drop you off at home or work, ask them to wait until you are safely inside before leaving. Extend this courtesy to your own friends when driving them to a destination.


Adapted from
http://www.wcstx.com/prvntrpe.htm

Chainletters Scam
• Chain letters that involve money or valuable items and
promise big returns are illegal. If you start or forward
one, you are breaking the law;
• Chances are you will receive little or no money back on
your “investment.” Despite the claims, a chain letter
will never make you rich;
• Some chain letters try to win your confidence by
claiming that they’re legal, and even that they’re
endorsed by the government. Nothing is further from
thetruth;
• If you’ve been a target of a chain email scam, contact
your Internet Service Provide

Addapted from
http://www.aarpelderwatch.org/public/fraud_prevention/Chainletters02088x10.pdf

Internet Fraud

When presented with online goods, services, investment opportunities, and charity requests, the watchword is caution. The following tips can help you identify and avoid common Internet scams:

* Don’t do business with an organization you can’t verify or don’t trust.
* Check with your consumer protection agency and Better Business Bureau for outstanding complaints.
* Confirm contact details, including physical addresses, phone numbers, and localities of incorporation. Don’t do business with organizations that won’t freely provide this information.
* Understand all the rules of an auction before bidding.
* Confirm an auction sellers’ track record and contact details before bidding on their item.
* Avoid buying collectible or one-of-a-kind items in an online auction. If you can’t inspect it beforehand, how do you know it’s the real thing?
* Don’t send cash or use wire transfers to pay for online goods, services, or auction items.
* Insist on a cashier’s check for the exact amount of goods or services you’ve sold over the Internet. Never deposit a check you’ve received for amounts exceeding the price you’ve negotiated.
* Even if you’re familiar with a charity, call the organization to confirm their online request before making a donation.
* Use good judgment when responding to offers of easy money. If the offer appears too good to be true, it probably is.
* Be wary of unsolicited requests for upfront fees from lenders, government agencies, or other organizations.
* Make all online transactions with credit cards over secure Web sites. Even if you’ve done your due diligence and decided to transact business with someone, you should still pay the safest way.
* Never show people how you look like
* If you are having e-sex, don't get naked with your webcam on, for your opponent might be waiting for a chance to snap a picture of you and blackmail you



Adapted from
http://www.symantec.com/norton/products/library/article.jsp?aid=internet_fraud_prevention

Internet Banking
1.Always clear private data.How?
Click on tools and scroll down to Clear Private data.
2.Never save your password
3.Do not go to a cyber cafe to use internet banking, if so, delete all data.

Snatch Theft
1. Never wear jewelry that you know will attract unwanted attention. If you wear a gold chain, make sure it is not clearly visible by either hiding it under your shirt/blouse/t-shirt or by wearing a scarf.
2. When walking on a street, walk facing the traffic (against the flow of traffic).
3. Walk on the inner part of a pavement/sidewalk. This is so that you have some distance from traffic
4. Do not strap or clutch your handbag/purse on the hand/arm which is next to the traffic. If possible, use a handbag that has a long strap so you can strap it over your shoulder (like a sling bag).
5. Be alert at all times.


What to do when you fall victim to it

1. Do not hold on to your bag unless you want to fall, be dragged by your predators and as a result have critical head injuries or worse.
2. If you have your "life or death" belonging in your bag and have to hold on to it with your dear life, my suggestion is to pull it as hard as you can so that the thief falls off of his motorcycle as well (probably easier said than done). In any case, you should always try to remain calm.
3. Shout to draw attention to what is going on.

Adapted from
http://anitakrishlee.blogspot.com/2008/01/snatch-theft-prevention-control.html

Here an experience of almost being scam
My parents were on the way home, they were using the highway. My dad stops his car at the rest house to get some stuff from the trunk. Suddenly, a car stops at the side and the passenger rears down his window. He was of Bangaladesh nationality. He asked for help saying that he needed some Ringgit( my country's currency) and was willing to trade with with Us dollars. Well my dad saw that the stack of US bills were black but he never thought of the fact that they were supposed to be green. So he agreed and went into the car to get his wallet. When he returned, the car had driven off because a police car was turning in. If the police hadn't come, my dad would have been scammed

A tip for everyone
1.Do not exchange money with people you don't know. Although you may be lending a helping hand, due to the constant cases of scam, its hard to trust anyone.
2. If you still wish to help the poor fellow, make sure that you get a good look at his face or any personal info.
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Hmm let's see I remember being chased by a drunk at the bus station. Dangerous enough? LOL
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A-swAn wrote:

Is it okay to be confused to exactly what the question is?


This is more like a guide I supposed.
I hate the fact that rape cases are increasing, and so I try to play my part to at least decrease a minimal chance of rape
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I had a knife fight with a hobo once.
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Ah Ok I see then. I've heard of cases occur to others but they never occurred to me well so far.
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(o.O") Your post is so bloody long, that I didn't bother reading.
Well anyway, it's not really kidnapping, but more on a threat to kidnap me.
In my country of origin (Philippines), there was a trend of Chinese kidnapping, since most of the people there stereotype Chinese as the rich people. Although, majority of the Chinese are wealthy it doesn't apply to everyone.My family there was you could consider very influential (?), and during that time, that trend was at its peak. My grandpa had lots of political "enemies" so we started to get phone calls almost everyday and letters that informed us of my schedule in school, the plate number of the car I use, photos of my friends and I, the name of my driver, the route we take to go to school, and if my family didn't give this "ransom" shit, they were supposedly to kidnap me. And since the police there sucks ass, my grandpa just gave the money, and hired this douche bag to follow me around. Thank goodness I mvoed here. (T.T")

I personally think that no one deserves to be put into a situation like rape, kidnapping, or whatever. Well, I can't say the same for the scums of the world, they probably deserve those.
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geeene_16 wrote:

(o.O") Your post is so bloody long, that I didn't bother reading.
Well anyway, it's not really kidnapping, but more on a threat to kidnap me.
In my country of origin (Philippines), there was a trend of Chinese kidnapping, since most of the people there stereotype Chinese as the rich people. Although, majority of the Chinese are wealthy it doesn't apply to everyone.My family there was you could consider very influential (?), and during that time, that trend was at its peak. My grandpa had lots of political "enemies" so we started to get phone calls almost everyday and letters that informed us of my schedule in school, the plate number of the car I use, photos of my friends and I, the name of my driver, the route we take to go to school, and if my family didn't give this "ransom" shit, they were supposedly to kidnap me. And since the police there sucks ass, my grandpa just gave the money, and hired this douche bag to follow me around. Thank goodness I mvoed here. (T.T")

I personally think that no one deserves to be put into a situation like rape, kidnapping, or whatever. Well, I can't say the same for the scums of the world, they probably deserve those.



Wow that's scary...
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I doubt anyone in my area is afraid for getting raped suddenly...

My misfortune was I went all in with kings preflop against pocket sevens and the opponent made quads...

$532.45 for 6th place though at FullTilt.
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I doubt anyone in my area is afraid for getting raped suddenly...

My misfortune was I went all in with kings preflop against pocket sevens and the opponent made quads...

$532.45 for 6th place though at FullTilt.


You just had bad luck, and you could have prevented it by not being greedy.
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my misfortune is getting an ingrown toenail for 8 months AND on both sides too AND infected and then finally going to surgery to get it worked on AND THEN a few months later (a few days ago) i notice that the big toe on my other foot has an ingrown toenail!!!!

so it's not as bad as rape but it's bad to me
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i doubt anyone under the age of 30 could fall for internet fraud scams... i got e-mails from Grace Mugabe and Winnie Mandela as well as the children of Generals from Ivory Coast to Kenya asking for $50000 deposits
i had no idea i was so popular among africa's elite
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makimaki_sataandagi wrote:
There are indeed lots of cases of rape, kidnapping etc etc.
This tread is created to share your experiences with any misfortunes that are SERIOUS that happened to you which might result in death, kidnapping,rape ,abuse ,theft ,fraud etc.
And not just that, tips to prevent the preventable.


It's not really the "preventable" as many people keep saying. I view rape, kidnapping, death, etc. as "inevitable". Research has shown that many rape/abuse cases are done by someone who is well-known by the victim, not a stranger. So that shoot down the entire tips of preventing rape that you posted. As for kidnapping, usually kidnappers aren't operate alone. Often they work in team of at least four members or more with certain weapons. If one or two adults gang up on me without any weapons, I may still be alright. However, if there are three of them and they all have weapons, well, let's just say that I pretty much am dead. There is no bloody way for a teenager to get away from three or more armed kidnapper, unless, of course, you are lucky enough to be near a police station, which I doubt because the kidnappers aren't stupid. Also, once you are being chase by them, you are completely on your own until the police arrive. No one is going to help you because they all worry about their own safety. Once they target you, you are gone, and that's the end of the story. Thefts are easier to deal with, as long as they don't carry a gun or a knife. Hey, c'mon, we are not like that Jackie Chan guy who was a master of martial art; there's no way we can put up against someone who is armed and is twice our sizes. Wait until the cops arrive may not be a good idea either because by that time, maybe the theft already be on his marry way and you are already crying on the bed...naked.

Speaking of naked, hey, you should go to the mall and get Naked


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Lame joke... anyway well there may be plenty of cases of rape which are done by people we do know, but there are still ways to prevent them. I mean, if a girl is wearing a shirt hat hardly covers her boobs, that will turn guys on and might result in the girl being raped. Kidnapping, well may be it would be inevitable since most of them are being planned, but still , staying alert might minimize the chances too. You don't have to be Jackie Chan to defend yourself. There was a family which was robbed by 2 men armed with knives. The family runs a butcher shop and one of the thief was butchered to death. Ordinary people too can play a role in helping society.

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>.>
well in the P.E. newspaper there was a brief on a man who got his car stolen. a person behind him had flashed his high beams and told him that one of his tailgate lights was out. when the man got out of the car to look, the person stole his car.

how this could have been prevented... dont get out of the car =.=;;
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makimaki_sataandagi wrote:
There are indeed lots of cases of rape, kidnapping etc etc.
This tread is created to share your experiences with any misfortunes that are SERIOUS that happened to you which might result in death, kidnapping,rape ,abuse ,theft ,fraud etc.
And not just that, tips to prevent the preventable.


It's not really the "preventable" as many people keep saying. I view rape, kidnapping, death, etc. as "inevitable". Research has shown that many rape/abuse cases are done by someone who is well-known by the victim, not a stranger. So that shoot down the entire tips of preventing rape that you posted. As for kidnapping, usually kidnappers aren't operate alone. Often they work in team of at least four members or more with certain weapons. If one or two adults gang up on me without any weapons, I may still be alright. However, if there are three of them and they all have weapons, well, let's just say that I pretty much am dead. There is no bloody way for a teenager to get away from three or more armed kidnapper, unless, of course, you are lucky enough to be near a police station, which I doubt because the kidnappers aren't stupid. Also, once you are being chase by them, you are completely on your own until the police arrive. No one is going to help you because they all worry about their own safety. Once they target you, you are gone, and that's the end of the story. Thefts are easier to deal with, as long as they don't carry a gun or a knife. Hey, c'mon, we are not like that Jackie Chan guy who was a master of martial art; there's no way we can put up against someone who is armed and is twice our sizes. Wait until the cops arrive may not be a good idea either because by that time, maybe the theft already be on his marry way and you are already crying on the bed...naked.

Speaking of naked, hey, you should go to the mall and get Naked


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Your joke was..... not funny :(

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Regarding the main post... I'm not really in the position to say this since I never really suffer such misfortunes, but I feel that executing these protecting oneself safety thing is kind of too... protective for oneself? This may limit oneself to not do alot of things in life...
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