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Can a guy and a girl be close friends?
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so can a guy and a girl be close frends without falling for each other? i guess assuming theyre both single..

once i was so sure it was possible cuz i was really close frends with this one girl... but then i found out she liked me... and there were other times where it happened the other way.. wen i liked a frend but she didnt like me that way and id get totally rejected by her. so now im not so sure.
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Yeah.. most of my friends are guys. Well, most of them have liked me at one point since that seems to be how I make my friends.. -.-; But they've gotten over it and we can chillax. I help them with girls and tell them whether a chick is fugly or not. And they.. er.. eat my food..
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yes its possible, did it for many years but the one chance to get in a relationship with the person and the other person agrees can mess up an entire friendship
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It's possible, but not likely. I only have maybe three female friends who i have no feelings in the slightest for, and that's because i've known them for so long (since like, 3rd grade) The rest though, i've either liked, they've liked me, or we've gone out. Soooooo, ya...take from that what you will. :sweatingbullets:

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Like Magikwok said, "they've gotten over it"... I think that would be the key to answer your question/dilemma. Most of the times a friendship between a guy and a girl ends when one of them comes out and tells another that he/she has feelings for that person. And if it's you, and you get rejected... usually, you kind of distance yourself from that person, unintentionally or not. I think you just have to "get over" the fact that she doesn't have feelings for you, and forget all about that incident... that way you'll be able to save your friendship, and most likely become even closer.

If it's her that tells you that she likes you, and you don't have any feelings in return... well... then I guess you do your best to explain that to her. Of course, she has to try and "get over" it too...

See, the key to intersexual friendship is "GET OVER IT!"...
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Yes.
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dejadead wrote:

Like Magikwok said, "they've gotten over it"... I think that would be the key to answer your question/dilemma. Most of the times a friendship between a guy and a girl ends when one of them comes out and tells another that he/she has feelings for that person. And if it's you, and you get rejected... usually, you kind of distance yourself from that person, unintentionally or not. I think you just have to "get over" the fact that she doesn't have feelings for you, and forget all about that incident... that way you'll be able to save your friendship, and most likely become even closer.

If it's her that tells you that she likes you, and you don't have any feelings in return... well... then I guess you do your best to explain that to her. Of course, she has to try and "get over" it too...

See, the key to intersexual friendship is "GET OVER IT!"...


yup actually my close gal frend is already over me... cuz she found another guy after that, and now theyre engaged.. we're still really tight.. im actually helping her plan their wedding. except are there any cases where neither the guy or girl has feelings for each other at any point?

cuz its kinda scary if u think bout it.. wut if all ur close frends of the opposite sex actually liked u all this time but u just dont kno it yet...
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wushukid wrote:


dejadead wrote:

Like Magikwok said, "they've gotten over it"... I think that would be the key to answer your question/dilemma. Most of the times a friendship between a guy and a girl ends when one of them comes out and tells another that he/she has feelings for that person. And if it's you, and you get rejected... usually, you kind of distance yourself from that person, unintentionally or not. I think you just have to "get over" the fact that she doesn't have feelings for you, and forget all about that incident... that way you'll be able to save your friendship, and most likely become even closer.

If it's her that tells you that she likes you, and you don't have any feelings in return... well... then I guess you do your best to explain that to her. Of course, she has to try and "get over" it too...

See, the key to intersexual friendship is "GET OVER IT!"...


yup actually my close gal frend is already over me... cuz she found another guy after that, and now theyre engaged.. we're still really tight.. im actually helping her plan their wedding. except are there any cases where neither the guy or girl has feelings for each other at any point?

cuz its kinda scary if u think bout it.. wut if all ur close frends of the opposite sex actually liked u all this time but u just dont kno it yet...


Hm... This is interesting... and somewhat scary. You might never know, you can't come up to your friend of opposite sex and just ask them something like "Hey, we've known each other for a few years now! By the way, have you ever had any feelings for me? ...maybe?" Well, I know I'd have problems coming up to a girl and asking that all of a sudden, some girls might actually do that though, really not sure about us guys...

But I think, there should be that kind of relationship, without involving that kind of feelings... I think some... no. Many people can have that kind of bond, think "brother and sister". ((And God, I hope noone turns this post in some twisted way)) I'm sure there are guys and girls that have a sister-brother bond without being related...

Did that make sense? It kind of did in my head. Gomen...
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totallyyyy.....yah
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wushukid wrote:

so can a guy and a girl be close frends without falling for each other? i guess assuming theyre both single..

once i was so sure it was possible cuz i was really close frends with this one girl... but then i found out she liked me... and there were other times where it happened the other way.. wen i liked a frend but she didnt like me that way and id get totally rejected by her. so now im not so sure.



In that case, its up all up to you. If you like her that way or not then you can be friends.


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The easiest way for me to handle female friends... was to tell them up straight... I'm going to treat you like family (like a sister). Usually they not only are flattered but will do the same thing. That way both people have that deep understanding.

Example is in asian countries... like philippines... for some reasons I have hundreds of aunts and uncles who have no relationship to me. But, my parents treat them like family...
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I think it's possible for some people out there. The ones I've been close with end up liking me or me liking them=/ except with friendships with my gay friends...
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genjiworks wrote:

The easiest way for me to handle female friends... was to tell them up straight... I'm going to treat you like family (like a sister). Usually they not only are flattered but will do the same thing. That way both people have that deep understanding.

Example is in asian countries... like philippines... for some reasons I have hundreds of aunts and uncles who have no relationship to me. But, my parents treat them like family...


hmm thats good advice.. i think my main problem is that i always *think* i have a brother-sister relationship with her, but i dont actually tell her that.. i just assume she feels the same way, so maybe she gets the wrong idea.. its happened a few times and i dont want it to happen again. i just hate drama.
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Yup. Clear it up right from the start... That sounds right.
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Absolutely. It is up to those people on how to behave themselves.
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