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lol that's true. Alright thanks. Praying is my best route right now. I'll apologize to the youth pastor son and try to keep the monekyheartbreak away from my friend. (I feel so bad for her. She's homeschool and her first and only crush is the chruch playboy. T.T her sister is much better often. Any advice for them?) I feel bad for the boys too because all the good christains liek them now but they want the 'bad' girls from school but in a few years they'll want the good christian girls but we'll have moved on to better things. I keep praying for all of them though. So my random outburst (still doesn't escuxe them though) aren't as bad as what's hiding in the shadows. I want to tell ym youth pastor about all these bad crushes. I fear it'll tear apart the group. But I pray as often as I can about this. I hope everything will turn out right. Thanks for helping and listneing everyone. (in japanese that's mina-san.) It really helped.



(Oh by the way my youth pastor is int omanga. lol Just the cute ones like Fruits basket.)
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Alright I need soem advice from fellow chriastians because the ones I come in contract with daily. I have my faults and it seems my faults keep getting the way mroe the an usually espeicalyl with my fellow youth group member.s Espeically the guys.
Here's the basics. there's 9 guys and 6 girls in high school youth group. 4 of the girls to school A and all the boys but 1 boy go to school B. And our school are revials. We got over that for the most part.But one guy in particular won't let it go and to top it off I think he's a player and he jsut rubs me the wrong way. If he wasn't a christian he seems like he would be the worst of the worst kind of guys. But he's not. He's a good guy. But he keeps playing games with one of my best friends. He teases her by bringing another attractive girls from hsi school to chruch and he'll just mess with her. So since he's made her cry I;m not too happy with hi mand he knows that but he doesn't know why. So we don't get a logn and we don't like each other. (He doesn't like me because I'm smart allick and opinioned.)
But the latest problem is I lost my temper and blew up at the PASTOR'S SON! And he blew back up at me.So I haven't been to chruch in aweek and it's killing me. So now I'm afriad to go back to chruch because I don't tihnk I could handle 2 guys mad at me. (these guys are friends too.) And I'm afraid of showing the worse of me to the whole youth group. (I hate looking bad in front of adults and crowds.) So what should I do? I need to go to chruch but I have this feeling I'll be kicked out of the chruch for picking fights.


Please help! SOS! I need some advice.


If I may interject, I, being a christian and a guy have some insight on typical male pattern behavior. Now I thankfully don't fit this stereotype, but it's typical for a male to pick on or tease others, especially girls/women. It's best to ignore and acgknowledge that this is just there way. The fact that someone says they are a christian does not make them so. And a good guy, can still goto hell, so rather they acknowledge Christ as their savior, and act like a christian, or they are just fraudulently claiming Him. But that's neither here nor there, this guy "monkey" I think he is referred to as needs to be the one in prayer it seems. We all lose our cool, we all make mistakes, and if 1 dang member of your youth group says anything they should take the boulder from their own eye, than judge you for the pebble in yours. Don't think twice about it, appologize perhaps, if it's neccesary to the pastors son, but that monkey dude, i would just blow off for now.

Sounds like there might be more to this then you let on previously, a guy will typically tease and single out a girl if she is either a) the weak one of the group, and him teasing her makes himself feel good, (which I dont think is the case) b) I hate to say it but usually, picking on someone or teasing someone is our childish way of saying we like that person.

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, spend time in God's word, and in prayer, and when you go back to church, and go back to your youth group, just do as your heart tells you.

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lol that's true. Alright thanks. Praying is my best route right now. I'll apologize to the youth pastor son and try to keep the monekyheartbreak away from my friend. (I feel so bad for her. She's homeschool and her first and only crush is the chruch playboy. T.T her sister is much better often. Any advice for them?) I feel bad for the boys too because all the good christains liek them now but they want the 'bad' girls from school but in a few years they'll want the good christian girls but we'll have moved on to better things. I keep praying for all of them though. So my random outburst (still doesn't escuxe them though) aren't as bad as what's hiding in the shadows. I want to tell ym youth pastor about all these bad crushes. I fear it'll tear apart the group. But I pray as often as I can about this. I hope everything will turn out right. Thanks for helping and listneing everyone. (in japanese that's mina-san.) It really helped.



(Oh by the way my youth pastor is int omanga. lol Just the cute ones like Fruits basket.)


Hahaha, sounds like your in an anime. Word's of advice for your homegirl, lol or best friend whatever you guys say these days (i'm outta the hip loop) tell her that she needs to wait on God. Tell her that anything that should happen needn't be forced. Tell her if she is hellbent on having this guy or another, to pray for them, that their eyes will be open to His word and guidance, and if that happens, the rest should fall into play. And I was always the good christian boy, who got dissed by the not so good christian girls, so unfortunately, for me, I am in the opposite role. And unless something happens in those boys life, and they realize they shouldn't run after the tainted sheep, ill be polite, and avoid words like skanks, hypocrites, so where was I tainted sheep, then they are just runnin away from God's will. Good christians should be with good christians, and the tainted need to get their act together.

These bad girls, ran into a few of them throughout my life, and you should never be envious or jealous of them, you be sure to tell your friend that to, because if it works like it has for me, they will get one of those good christian boys, the boys going to wake up and drop them out of their lives. And wouldn't you know it that one good christian girl is going to look so much better than ever before.

And lastly even if it will tear apart the group, its better to have a small honest-together group, than to have people that shouldnt be there in the first place. Now, big groups are nice, but if one of them is tainted, its best to detach them before the rest is infected.
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BloodlyRoses wrote:

Alright I need soem advice from fellow chriastians because the ones I come in contract with daily. I have my faults and it seems my faults keep getting the way mroe the an usually espeicalyl with my fellow youth group member.s Espeically the guys.
Here's the basics. there's 9 guys and 6 girls in high school youth group. 4 of the girls to school A and all the boys but 1 boy go to school B. And our school are revials. We got over that for the most part.But one guy in particular won't let it go and to top it off I think he's a player and he jsut rubs me the wrong way. If he wasn't a christian he seems like he would be the worst of the worst kind of guys. But he's not. He's a good guy. But he keeps playing games with one of my best friends. He teases her by bringing another attractive girls from hsi school to chruch and he'll just mess with her. So since he's made her cry I;m not too happy with hi mand he knows that but he doesn't know why. So we don't get a logn and we don't like each other. (He doesn't like me because I'm smart allick and opinioned.)
But the latest problem is I lost my temper and blew up at the PASTOR'S SON! And he blew back up at me.So I haven't been to chruch in aweek and it's killing me. So now I'm afriad to go back to chruch because I don't tihnk I could handle 2 guys mad at me. (these guys are friends too.) And I'm afraid of showing the worse of me to the whole youth group. (I hate looking bad in front of adults and crowds.) So what should I do? I need to go to chruch but I have this feeling I'll be kicked out of the chruch for picking fights.


Please help! SOS! I need some advice.


If I may interject, I, being a christian and a guy have some insight on typical male pattern behavior. Now I thankfully don't fit this stereotype, but it's typical for a male to pick on or tease others, especially girls/women. It's best to ignore and acgknowledge that this is just there way. The fact that someone says they are a christian does not make them so. And a good guy, can still goto hell, so rather they acknowledge Christ as their savior, and act like a christian, or they are just fraudulently claiming Him. But that's neither here nor there, this guy "monkey" I think he is referred to as needs to be the one in prayer it seems. We all lose our cool, we all make mistakes, and if 1 dang member of your youth group says anything they should take the boulder from their own eye, than judge you for the pebble in yours. Don't think twice about it, appologize perhaps, if it's neccesary to the pastors son, but that monkey dude, i would just blow off for now.

Sounds like there might be more to this then you let on previously, a guy will typically tease and single out a girl if she is either a) the weak one of the group, and him teasing her makes himself feel good, (which I dont think is the case) b) I hate to say it but usually, picking on someone or teasing someone is our childish way of saying we like that person.

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, spend time in God's word, and in prayer, and when you go back to church, and go back to your youth group, just do as your heart tells you.



Thanks, I;m not the weak one. I liek to thin kI;m the strong one. One of the other girls said Monkey sees me as a threats. (I act liek a guy more than a girl.) I always don't leave myself open to be tease. We all tease each ther as a form of friendship. But I don't take part. (I try not to). But thnaks I will apologize and I'll keep ignoring Monkey. Yeah the the whole blouder/pebble thing wil lcome in handy. I'll go back Wendes. I have Graduration on Sunday (can you believe that?) Thanks again.
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haha, I am merely a vessel, if you got anything out of that then I am thankful. congrats on the graduation... and I am always availible. Except when im slepping, or at school..or at work...but other than that lol.
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Yeah I got a lto of this. Thanks again. I'm always on here usually after 3 or so. If you need any help let me so I can return the favor. I;m scared of graduration. Schools all I've ever doen and I was good at it so....I know I jsu need to give it to god but,...I;m still afraid. There's so much I can do but what is the right path. (and which can I afford?) Graduration is a big fuss to my family.
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take some advice from me and go back to church . I've had a lot of problems with my church and pigheaded members that I didn't get along with and I've even had an arguement in church (which is horrible) but for some reason I always went back and I'm glad that I did. God doesn't want us to stay angry with anyone for long and it's also important to forgive and forget. I know it's hard but it's necessary to move forward with you relationship with God.

A lot of people in this world (especially Christians) take God for granted and the opportunity of fellowshipping with other Christians for granted as well. It's a sad story but many people that claim to be believers couldn't care less about Jesus or where they are on a personal level with their Saviour.

Maybe you should try talking to him privately and show how serious you are and ask him to stop? Don't lose your temper though and do everything in the humility of Christ. PM me if you need extra help ok???? I'm always glad to lend an ear!
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cool, thanks I will.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's had problems with chruch mates. I get a long with little kids and older folk but I don't get along with people my age. lol But I'll try to talk to him. He tends to get pulled away from privatre talks. But 'monkey' real leaves me alonne lately. But I will talk to the Pastor son I'll talk to him privately and apologize seriously.
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The issue is pride. They love their schools and rivalry more than each other and God (from the way you states it in your opening post)
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cool, thanks I will.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's had problems with chruch mates. I get a long with little kids and older folk but I don't get along with people my age. lol But I'll try to talk to him. He tends to get pulled away from privatre talks. But 'monkey' real leaves me alonne lately. But I will talk to the Pastor son I'll talk to him privately and apologize seriously.


I wish I had a church where I knew the members. At the moment I goto a small little elderly church, I think I am the youngest member outside from the children, youngest adult I should say, I don't fit in well, except the pianist and the pastor, they are really hospitable, and the congregation is nice, I just need more my age to go I suppose, what i'm trying to get at is, you should be greatful that you can have this problem among your peers. It might not seem like it, but everything put before you is God strengthening you for a new adventure so to speak. I myself am not to blessed to have a younger congregation I can call friends, all the members of my church i think are retired lol. Anycase enjoy sas much of it as you can, and the bonds you make their will help you in later obsticles. and although i know everyone loves reading my huge long posts, ill cut this short.

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BloodlyRoses wrote:

cool, thanks I will.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's had problems with chruch mates. I get a long with little kids and older folk but I don't get along with people my age. lol But I'll try to talk to him. He tends to get pulled away from privatre talks. But 'monkey' real leaves me alonne lately. But I will talk to the Pastor son I'll talk to him privately and apologize seriously.


I wish I had a church where I knew the members. At the moment I goto a small little elderly church, I think I am the youngest member outside from the children, youngest adult I should say, I don't fit in well, except the pianist and the pastor, they are really hospitable, and the congregation is nice, I just need more my age to go I suppose, what i'm trying to get at is, you should be greatful that you can have this problem among your peers. It might not seem like it, but everything put before you is God strengthening you for a new adventure so to speak. I myself am not to blessed to have a younger congregation I can call friends, all the members of my church i think are retired lol. Anycase enjoy sas much of it as you can, and the bonds you make their will help you in later obsticles. and although i know everyone loves reading my huge long posts, ill cut this short.

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Well some of us older persons dont think like old persons. I am 56 going on 16. Age is a state of mind. O BTW BloodlyRoses we will all be praying for you. If you need help we will be here. or to vent.
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Cool thanks. If you someone I'm here too. I need to repay you . Cryolyger if you want some people your age bring some your firneds or invited fellow chirstinas your ages to visit your chruch. When I strated going to this chruch in 2003-2004 there was 5 people and then I showed up then we lsot the youth pastor and I left I came back 2005-2006 and it had grown to 10 people and now there's almsot 20 of us.
I guess I should be more grateful they are there for me.
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The issue is pride. They love their schools and rivalry more than each other and God (from the way you states it in your opening post)



No that was a problem at first I jsut put that there so people would understand the sensitive sitatuion here. But yeha we got over that. We've learn to agree to disagree. Anyways.....
I wish I had more questions to ask you guys so I could continue to talk to you but I can't think of anymore.
*sigh* I know I already ask about this. But I;m still confused a bit. The thing with Monkey and Bee (I'll jsut call the girl that lieks him this.) Should Il eave that alone.
Bee says she still loves him but she knows she should give up on him. Should I tell her otherwise? Monkey likes her but doesn't want to give up all his other 'girls'. I don't want to see her get hurt anymore.
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hmm... Well, in this case I would talk to the "monkey." Maybe he feels like he needs attention from all the other girls because he doesn't have many close male friends? If she likes him she shouldn't become obsessive and realize that they haven't started going out, so she can't believe that she has him. He on the other hand, needs to not have many women swoon over him and be pompous about it. Show love to your friend, and help her to realize that if it is God's will, he will give her a husband/boyfriend one day. show her that you love her now and that she doesn't need this boy who isn't going to be faithful to her. Right now it seems like she has an infatuation (not love) for him.
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Thanks, I'll try my best to suppose and love her.
Actually she's not obsessive jsut jealous. (of all the girls he brings.) I don't think he's really close to anyone guys or girls. The one he's closest too is Bee's sister and maybe Curly. Yeha he does have a attitude problem. I need to get her on here to talk to you guys. You're sooo helpful.
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