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Posted 4/3/13
THEY ARE ALL HUMAN BEINGS, DOESN`T MATTER.

Don`t see why it bothers people if somebody is gay/straight/bi/lesbian or whatever. If they are a nice person then why does it matter what their sexual orientation is ? I know straight people who are horrible people vice versa. It does not bother me whether one is gay.

In the end, we`re all fucking human beings so stop stereotyping and classing people and start accepting each other !!

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Posted 4/10/13
Nothing against it, and I think people shouldn't be ostracized for their sexual orientation.
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Posted 4/11/13
All I want are blood-related grandchildren and etc.

That's my only internal conflict on the topic. Last time, I worded that line above in a different way and an old lesbian CR user blew up in the thread, so that's all I'll say.

That's just my personal preference, of course. However, it is not my choice if something does occur.
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Posted 4/12/13
You know something I find amusing? The fact that people always make statements like, "I don't care what other people do in their bedroom." Even though their heart is in the right place this is problematic. It boils a persons sexuality down to a sexual kink like BDSM or watersports and it sort of devalues the fact that sexual orientation is a massive part of most people's identity.

But I digress, i'm gay and leading "the gay lifestyle" which ultimately means i'm engaged to a woman and occasionally I go to a gay bar/club with some other lesbians. I never really understood that bit, the only real difference between me and a heterosexual person, aside from the discrimination, is that i'm romantically involved with a person the same sex as me and I occasionally go to places where others who can sympathize with me hang out.

Another thing since i'm just rambling at 3 AM, why is it that every time I mention the fact that i'm a lesbian, even if indirectly, to a heterosexual women she immediately assumes i'm making a pass at her? Maybe i'm just bringing it up outright to avoid an awkward conversation down the line, I don't automatically want your body just because i'm attracted physically and romantically to women you conceited bitch.
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Posted 4/12/13

Pomff wrote:

You know something I find amusing? The fact that people always make statements like, "I don't care what other people do in their bedroom." Even though their heart is in the right place this is problematic. It boils a persons sexuality down to a sexual kink like BDSM or watersports and it sort of devalues the fact that sexual orientation is a massive part of most people's identity.


Would you prefer: "Can I watch?"..."Do you need any help with that?"..."May I participate?"

Unlike most people... I happen to be acutely aware and sympathetic to what people do in their bedrooms and happen to think it's awesome.

I'm just a confused bi-curious hetero male looking to explore my lesbianism...

eh, in all seriousness I tend to think we're more Bonobo than we all would like to admit or what our social environment would allow us to admit.
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Posted 4/13/13
I think it's okay to be homo/bi/pan sexual, et etcetera. It's also okay to disagree with that lifestyle.
What most people aren't understanding in this society is that although it's a choice to accept it, it's not a choice to feel a certain way and be attracted to someone.
It's natural.

Just my thoughts...
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Posted 4/14/13 , edited 4/14/13

Hylian_v wrote:

It's also okay to disagree with that lifestyle.

It's natural.


This is something I have never understood. What is this magical "gay lifestyle" that straight people are always talking about that no gay person i've ever met lives? Gay people do the same things everyone else does with the only differences being that they're romantically/physically involved with members of the same sex and sometimes they can't express this in public because people disagree with their "lifestyle".

Do some gay people party all the time and constantly have sex? Yes, just like some straight people do. Neither are in the majority. Oh and sometimes they attend gay friendly events (Pride is not an everyday thing which most people who use the term "gay lifestyle" fail to understand) and sometimes they got to gay friendly places like bars or clubs where they don't have to worry about being abused or mistreated if they hit on someone. If not for the fact that I was open about my sexuality nobody would know I wasn't heterosexual, most gay people are the same way.

If it's natural then it isn't a lifestyle as you choose to lead a certain lifestyle. If you don't get to make a choice in the matter (some people will argue you can) it's not a lifestyle it's life.

edit: Not calling you out personally, it's just another one of those terms that annoys me since 98% of the time someone uses it they follow it up with an offensive statement.
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Posted 4/14/13

Pomff wrote:


This is something I have never understood. What is this magical "gay lifestyle" that straight people are always talking about that no gay person i've ever met lives? Gay people do the same things everyone else does with the only differences being that they're romantically/physically involved with members of the same sex and sometimes they can't express this in public because people disagree with their "lifestyle".

Do some gay people party all the time and constantly have sex? Yes, just like some straight people do. Neither are in the majority. Oh and sometimes they attend gay friendly events (Pride is not an everyday thing which most people who use the term "gay lifestyle" fail to understand) and sometimes they got to gay friendly places like bars or clubs where they don't have to worry about being abused or mistreated if they hit on someone. If not for the fact that I was open about my sexuality nobody would know I wasn't heterosexual, most gay people are the same way.

If it's natural then it isn't a lifestyle as you choose to lead a certain lifestyle. If you don't get to make a choice in the matter (some people will argue you can) it's not a lifestyle it's life.

edit: Not calling you out personally, it's just another one of those terms that annoys me since 98% of the time someone uses it they follow it up with an offensive statement.


You seem to get annoyed easily.

All a Lifestyle is, is the typical way of life of an individual, group, or culture...

The kids 14...
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Posted 4/14/13 , edited 4/14/13

spacebat wrote:

You seem to get annoyed easily.

The kids 14...


So explaining why someone could take offense to certain terminology is getting annoyed easily? A lot of gay people dislike the term because it implies, like I said, that it's some kind of "party lifestyle" which devalues the claim that we are like everyone else and as such deserve the same rights.

So because the poster I quoted is 14 that somehow means I shouldn't explain why the comment in question could be seen as annoying? I believe that teenagers are a lot smarter and more responsive to new information than people think, from my experience it's a lot easier to teach them something new than it is to teach an adult. I speak to them the way I would to an adult because I respect their intelligence.
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Posted 4/14/13 , edited 4/14/13


So explaining why someone could take offense to certain terminology is getting annoyed easily? A lot of gay people dislike the term because it implies, like I said, that it's some kind of "party lifestyle" which devalues the claim that we are like everyone else and as such deserve the same rights.

So because the poster I quoted is 14 that somehow means I shouldn't explain why the comment in question could be seen as annoying? I believe that teenagers are a lot smarter and more responsive to new information than people think, from my experience it's a lot easier to teach them something new than it is to teach an adult. I speak to them the way I would to an adult because I respect their intelligence.


I absolutely agree you should explain why she shouldn't use the term lifestyle but you don't have to do it in an aggressively defensive way.

Here's an example:

Dear Hylian,

Thank you for your comment. I wish other people held the same view you do. However, please do not call it a lifestyle as lifestyle tends to mean it is not a natural way to live. Being gay is natural and it is a very common and natural occurrence even in the animal kingdom. Thanks for your post!

If you begin your discussion by being defensive you are going to get responded to with defense.

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Posted 4/14/13

spacebat wrote:

I absolutely agree you should explain why she shouldn't use the term lifestyle but you don't have to do it in an aggressively defensive way.

If you begin your discussion by being defensive you are going to get responded to with defense.


Aggressively defensive? If you think that's aggressive then I really have no idea what to tell you. I didn't bully, or insult, or mock. I went into detail because that's how i've always been taught to explain something, with as much detail as possible. Your example sounds very flowery and nice but with this type of subject matter flowery and nice doesn't get you very far. Detailed explanations do and I say that coming from a lot of experience talking about the subject.
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Posted 4/15/13
I'm gay,(queer specifically) and for any woman out there that feels uncomfortable around lesbians, don't worry most of the time we have a type. We're not animals that can't control our libidos, I have a barrage of straight girl friends, I've never heard them complain once.
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Posted 4/15/13

yoruichi87 wrote:

I'm gay,(queer specifically) and for any woman out there that feels uncomfortable around lesbians, don't worry most of the time we have a type. We're not animals that can't control our libidos, I have a barrage of straight girl friends, I've never heard them complain once.


Out of sheer curiosity; what's the difference between queer and gay?
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Posted 4/15/13
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Posted 4/15/13 , edited 4/15/13
I may not exactly be gay or bi (I'm pansexual) but I would never label myself queer, I just don't care for the term. To me queer is closer to the words weird or strange so I think if you're using it to describe your sexual orientation it kind of reinforces the idea that we are different and potentially cripples the goal of acceptance that we're just like everyone else in all the ways that matter. The stuff that makes us different are things that, aside from your partner knowing, no one needs to know about.

So to me queer is not a sexual orientation, if you have a particular sexual orientation be proud of that, and if you don't want anyone to know what your sexual orientation is, most likely revealing it is not relevant to the situation anyway.
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