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Friends that choose their bf/gf over their best friends.
Posted 6/1/08
You're probably mistaken, she's no best friend.
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Posted 6/1/08

viet2fly wrote:


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viet2fly wrote:
do you think i haven't tried that? i've talked to her about 4 times. every single time she starts crying and says "I'm sorry, i won't ever do it again" and guess what? she does it even worse. and on new years, she used me as a place to "Crash" for her and her boyfriend to have some make out session. Because they had no other house to go to, and if they didn't go to mine they wouldn't be allowed to hang out on new years. And, last time we hung out, she brought her boyfriend obviously, and then they were making out in my basement for 3 hours while I was upstairs on the computer. Yeah, ditched right? Should I still stay by her side? even though she does all this to me.


sounds like a one sided love/friendship... obviously she is more important to you than you are to her.... i would say give up on her... yea thats hard to do trust me i know...girls like that arent worth it... they just go with whit the best guy in front of their eyes... and bounce between guys like that 4ever..... but theres always a bigger fish.....

she obviously isnt that great a friend if she is even ignoring you... is that what you really call a friend??!

ur 15... you have ur whole lif ahead of you.... look for a girl that puts you before her random selection of guys that gives her attention 1st......


Yeah .. i'll take your advice, she isn't worth it at all. Until she decides to act like a true friend, i'm not wasting anymore time with her. thanks xD



Ehh? Are you really going to give her up? I don't think that you should be that harsh, maybe wait for a while more, to see if she'll actually change. I've been in an exactly same siatuation as you, just at the beginning of this school year actually. My best friend went out with a guy, for the first time, and she was all head over heels of this guy T__T. I felt as if I was betrayed, and left out completely of her life. I mean, we can't even get to see each other on weekends anymore. And believe, she has ditched me quite a number of times for this guy. During months we haven't had a proper talk. I was always sulking, and really unhappy that she was like that. But then I told myself that I must try to understand her, that it's completely normal if she was like that at the beginning of her relationship, and she'll eventually balance friendship/love out. But of course, being a human girl as I am, I can't always forgive her for what she did, I felt exactly the same as you. I was so frustrated that she chose her guy over me, her bestfriend. I tried to have a proper talk with her many times, and we kind of sorted things out. Although now I'm lonelier than before, as most of the time she's with her boyfriend, I guess that I should be glad for her, and that she's happy with the guy. I'm glad that I haven't gave up this friendship, because we have been friends since the first year of junior high, now we're in the first year of high school. A friendship like that, I would never give it up, especially for a guy!

Oops, sorry for the story, it's off topic hehe since it's about your prob. But I wanted you to know that I've been experienced the same thing as you are now. So, as someone who has been in the exact same place as you are, I'd say that please do not give up on your friend, if you really value your friendship. Just give her one more chance, and try to talk to her, until she changes. Don't ask anything in return, just give your all, that's what friendship is about. I once thought that why was I always the one who should make the first move to save our friendship, because it's my bestfriend who did wrongly first. But then, I understood that it doesn't matter who makes the first move, as long as we remain the best of friends, it'll do lol. Please think that maybe for her, choosing between you and her boyfriend isn't an easy choice either. I'm sure that she didn't make the choice, although it did seem like it. It's just my personal opinion, so don't take it too seriously. ^__^ If you really do think that she's not worth it, then just go ahead and give her up You're the better one to judge if the friendship between you two is true, not me xD If you really value it, please cherish it and give her one more chance...

Just my two cents...-peace-
Posted 6/1/08 , edited 6/1/08
Erm...LoL
I Would Do Nothing...
Because I've Been In This Situation So Many Times, That I Don't Seem To Care Anymore. Because At The End Of The Day, She Comes Running Back Crying, When Her Boyfriends, Has Dumped/Cheated On Her. Telling Us She Would Never Leave Us Again, For Her Boyfriend & Like How Shes Sorry & Blah Blah Blah...!!!
But She Does It Again, When Another Boy Ask's Her Out. (Sometimes I Wana Punch Her... ...But I Don't Have The Heart To). Anyways She's Like On Her 8th Boyfriend Now, In 5 Years, I've Known Her...(That's Like WoOoOoW... ...I Still Have'nt Had 1.) Anyways Some Of Her Other Friends Already Hate Her Cause Of This & Left Her, I Wish I Could,
But Then Again I've Known Her For 5 Years. & I Can Never Leave Her Or Any Of My Friends. Even If Some Of Them Are Total...

~Boys Are Whatever~
~Friends Are Forever~

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Posted 6/1/08
it depends!,.. it really depends
Posted 6/1/08
uhm, well, for me id always choose my freinds over some guy.
but if i balance my time with my freinds and my boyfreind then i wouldnt have to worry about choosing.
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Posted 6/1/08

NaruHina2210 wrote:
~Boys Are Whatever~

~Friends Are Forever~



WoW! Your Horny thoughts!

or You only have Girl Friends? Don't tell me you're a lesbo!....lol.......
Posted 6/1/08

schimazo wrote:


NaruHina2210 wrote:
~Boys Are Whatever~

~Friends Are Forever~



WoW! Your Horny thoughts!

or You only have Girl Friends? Don't tell me you're a lesbo!....lol.......


No !!!
Im 100% Straight.
But Boys Don't Seem To Interest Me Now...
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Posted 6/1/08
well there's no right or wrong. and i facing that problems too =x
before she get together with her current boyfriend, she will tell me daily how her guy woo her, how nice he treating and so on and so for. As her good friend, i can only entertain and listen attentively which i'm getting bored at it. When they finally get together, they being sticking like a glue !!! most of her time will be spend with her bf =.= . We, gals, got any gathering or outing , she's not joining. She says "i need to accompany my bf. sry". i been hearing that over and over again. So now, i will not bother to ask her out for any thing, cos i will know she refer spend her time with her bf than with us .
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Posted 6/1/08

viet2fly wrote:

Title says all.. is it ok for that? I have a friend that has been my best friend for 2 years.. and recently she got a boyfriend, before I was able to tell her everything and was completely comfortable around her. Now that she got a boyfriend she chooses him over all her friends now, even ditches her friends to hang out with him.. and at lunch she would ask you to sit with her and her boyfriend and then her back would be towards you the whole time.. and the other weird thing is.. i'm best friends with her boyfriend too.. but it's funny, i like how you could be best friends with someone and talk to them everyday, and now you could walk by them like complete strangers. What do you guys think? Is it really right for your best friend to choose their boyfriend or girlfriend over you?



omg i can totally relate because me and my friend we werent like childhood friends we just known echother about 2 years but we were really close like we considered ourself to be twins becuase we were so alike.....then this year i started going out with this guy and weve been going out for 7 months now but when i first started going out with him we would like hold hands and stuff while walking to class and we usually cross her but she doesnt even say hi or anything and like ignores me and im like why dont you ever want to hang out with us and she says cause its awkward. i mean if she was around i would kinda lower down the lovey doveyness but yah we never really hang out anymore and she probably does think i chose my bf over her which makes me feel bad because i promised myself i would always choose friends over bf but its different when your actually with someone cause i love being around my bf you know and i really do care about him and lately i havent been able to hang out with him because my parents found out i was going out with him and they wanted me to break up with him so now were just sneaking around. its complicated. but if i could start over id do things differently like id balance things out maybe friends on weekdays bf on weekends ya knoe? chooosing just hurts in the long run.

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Posted 6/1/08

bros > hoes
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33 / M / philippines
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Posted 6/1/08
it depends........
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26 / M / UK
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Posted 6/1/08

HiImGoergeZimmer wrote:


bros > hoes


nicely put
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Posted 6/1/08
know one likes a succubus girls
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Posted 6/1/08
its a hard choice.. I mean best friends you can always have but love is a rare feeling. But then again best friends are everything and you can always replace a bf but never a best friend. I dont know who i would choose.
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Posted 6/1/08
well its really hard choice well for me i would choose both bc the best friends got my back and girlfriend love me alot
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