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Friends that choose their bf/gf over their best friends.
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Posted 6/1/08
Well, tough decision... First off, if its a new relationship, I would understand because they're trying to make it work and build up a strong foundation. Just be understanding of it for now.. Think about it this way.. would you want to give up a person that may be "the ONE" or your best friend? I wouldn't wanna give up either.. So it may not be because they're picking them over you or you over them... they may just trying to build a stable relationship and once its stable.. then it'll go back to normal... ya know?
Posted 6/1/08
I went through the same thing you did,and yeah I can say on my part that it's both,I mean sometimes it's Okay and sometimes it's not. My friend would always bring her boyfriend wherever we went,and she'd ask me to take them over here over there,we stopped hanging out a lot like we use to,and then Boom,by the time we knew it we were crossing each other in 6 period like nothing,and didn't talk to each other. Unlike others are saying I wasn't experiencing jealousy(I don't think you are either,well maybe a little lol),cause there was nothing to be jealous about,the only thing I had a problem with was that she would use me to just get anything like U ,she would come to my house like at 2:00am (2 FREAKING AM in the night)and ask if her and her boyfriend could stay in my parents van,because he got kicked out of his parent house(This was in high school, way long ago). I was hesitant,but I mean at that time I though you know she's my friend and I don't want to do anything that could break our friendship,but I mean now she's pregnant and her baby's daddy acts like a little boy,and won't stop(He's with her and says that he loves her,but truly they are not living the best life),but that's what happens when a dumb girl(No offense to my friend) fall for the first guy who tells her he loves her. Seriously people need to stop being codependent.
Posted 6/1/08 , edited 6/1/08
Well, im an adult pretty much, and i still let things like that happen to me
I just never find motivation to stand my ground, (lack of confidence), the last time my crush got a GF was like 2 years ago, and he realized right after he got with her how i felt, because his friend told him. but then he got scared he screwed up by getting w/her, and slowly stopped talking to me, and i ignored him back.
Posted 6/1/08
well....my opinion is that i dont let my bf take over all my time...its happened though where my best friend like loves her bf but when she is around me and our friends she tells him that she is going to hang out with us....i really admire that from her...it shows that she still cares about us...
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Posted 6/1/08
have you talked to her about how you feel about all this? these situations can be tricky, but it's better to at least make some attempt to salvage your friendship than to just allow negative feelings to grow. she might not realize that she has done something to hurt you.

I won't comment on whether or not it's right for your friend to pay more attention to her bf, since I don't judge people I don't know...
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27 / M / Toronto
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Posted 6/1/08
I think it's ok when the friends are bad influence...I know from experience....:S.
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26 / F / England
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Posted 6/1/08
My friends seem to always sell me out for their boyfriends.
It passes though and they always comes back. It still annoys me though.
I think we'll all ditch our friends for a partner at least once.
I haven't yet.
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Posted 6/1/08
Your situation sounds like that of a friend of mine actually. Honestly I don't really give a damn what they do if they find a boy/girlfriend. It's their business and it's not like YOU can withhold sex.
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76 / M / california
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Posted 6/1/08
idc cuz id prob do the same thing anyway
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23 / M / havent u noticed...
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Posted 6/1/08
nope, but its ok if its ur wife
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Posted 6/1/08
well, I would do it. it's kinda the nature of a human, you want to be with the person you love the most, in this case the bf/gf.
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29 / M / Canada
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Posted 6/1/08
well i think u would have to spend time with both ... like if ur Best friends you would want to spend time with them still ... but ur BF/GF u would still want to spend time with her/him to ... but u shouldnt ingore 1 completely thats just wrong ...
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23 / F / HOME AS USUAL!
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Posted 6/1/08 , edited 6/1/08
i have a best friend too...weve been best friends for 3 years and she had a boyfriend. but she never chooses him over me. NEVER.....she knows a guy is not worth losing your friend over....im lucky, i guess


for your dilemma: talk.talk.talk. keep on staying by her.....she needs you and she might act a little different, but all you have to be is patient. make sure you are never distant from her. if you go long without talking to her much, it could become awkward if she breaks up with him
Posted 6/1/08
Bro's before hoes, that says it all, women are everywhere, but its hard to find people who you can call true friends.
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22 / M / Brooklyn, New York
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Posted 6/20/08 , edited 6/20/08
I put my friends b4 my girl cuz Ive been with my friends 4 so long and I only got my gf recently. Well I havent rlly told her that but she has 2 understand that she wasnt the one who has been talking 2 me or making me laugh or had my back for the last 5 yrs or even more. So yea I treasure my friends alot :D

If my best friend ever done that I would confront him about it and if he doesnt change then so long
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