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Posted 6/10/08
hmm, basically i have a guy bestie. we were pretty close. and my boyfren didnt even mind dat i go out wid him. cos its strictly platonic. den he started ignoring me and i found out he got back together wid his ex-gf. it kinda sucks..

wat do u tink happen?

and has it ever happen to you?
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I think it went like this: (I'm going to make up names since i don't know their names)

TUTUX'S POINT OF VIEW:
Tutux: so you don't really mind me going out with you?
Marc (boifrend): nah, not really *smile*
**days later**
T: Marc, how are you?
*Marc walks away*
***
T:Hey Marc! ^^
*Marc looks away*
T: .. marc.. :[
***
Jessica(another friend): hey tutux, didya know that Marc is back with his ex?
Tutux:Uh? No, i never knew that!
*tutux thinks: that's why he ignored me...*

MARC'S POINT OF VIEW:

Tutux:so you don't mind?
*Marc thinks: of, course I don't mind, im actually starting to like you*
Marc: Nah, not really. *smile
***couple days later***
Nikki: hey, Marc.
Marc: oh, um, hey.
Nikki: I.. I wanted to talk to you...
Marc: what is it?
Nikki: I stil like you, I can't think a life without you.
Marc: yeah, I've missed you too
*Nikki kisses Marc*
Marc: I.. um.
Nikki; why don't we go back together?
Marc: sure.
Nikki: listen, I've been seeing you hanging out with that Tutux girl lately, are you guys more than friends?
Marc: nah, she's just my best friend.
Nikki: I see, but I think you guys should stop staying always so close together, people's getting some ideas..
Marc: which people?
Nikki: doesn't matter, listen, do you still love me?
Marc: yeah.
Nikki: then stop hanging out with that girl plz
Marc: 'kay.
***days later**
*Marc thinks: oh crap, that's Tutux!*
Tutux: Marc how are you?
***oh, man, what do I do now?***
*Tutux stares at him*
**Marc thinks: arghh*
*Marc runs away*
*in another corridor Marc stops*
Marc: Im so sorry Tutux... but this is for the greater good.
***days later***
Tutux: hey Marc!
**Marc thinks: plz, tutux, don't make me do this*
*Marc looks away*
Tutux: ..Marc :[
**M thinks: im so sorry*
*marc walks away*
Nikki: heeey Marc! *wink*
Marc: hey babe
*Nikki hugs Marc*
Nikki:ehi, i saw you before, poor Tutux, but this is the best for us, right?
Marc: sigh, yeah.

So, yeah I kinda dramtized it, but it sounded kinda cool...
anyways regarding your second question, no it didn't even thought the guy I like started "getting further from me" :[

Well, I'm sorry that happened, Im sure it would've been a long, nice relationship.. just keep patience.
But if he chose her instead of you I would consider going back with him if he breaks up with her ex again.
Maybe look for a guy worthier for you. Just keep him as an awesome friend!

Posted 6/10/08

Toiletcat27 wrote:

I think it went like this: (I'm going to make up names since i don't know their names)

TUTUX'S POINT OF VIEW:
Tutux: so you don't really mind me going out with you?
Marc (boifrend): nah, not really *smile*
**days later**
T: Marc, how are you?
*Marc walks away*
***
T:Hey Marc! ^^
*Marc looks away*
T: .. marc.. :[
***
Jessica(another friend): hey tutux, didya know that Marc is back with his ex?
Tutux:Uh? No, i never knew that!
*tutux thinks: that's why he ignored me...*

MARC'S POINT OF VIEW:

Tutux:so you don't mind?
*Marc thinks: of, course I don't mind, im actually starting to like you*
Marc: Nah, not really. *smile
***couple days later***
Nikki: hey, Marc.
Marc: oh, um, hey.
Nikki: I.. I wanted to talk to you...
Marc: what is it?
Nikki: I stil like you, I can't think a life without you.
Marc: yeah, I've missed you too
*Nikki kisses Marc*
Marc: I.. um.
Nikki; why don't we go back together?
Marc: sure.
Nikki: listen, I've been seeing you hanging out with that Tutux girl lately, are you guys more than friends?
Marc: nah, she's just my best friend.
Nikki: I see, but I think you guys should stop staying always so close together, people's getting some ideas..
Marc: which people?
Nikki: doesn't matter, listen, do you still love me?
Marc: yeah.
Nikki: then stop hanging out with that girl plz
Marc: 'kay.
***days later**
*Marc thinks: oh crap, that's Tutux!*
Tutux: Marc how are you?
***oh, man, what do I do now?***
*Tutux stares at him*
**Marc thinks: arghh*
*Marc runs away*
*in another corridor Marc stops*
Marc: Im so sorry Tutux... but this is for the greater good.
***days later***
Tutux: hey Marc!
**Marc thinks: plz, tutux, don't make me do this*
*Marc looks away*
Tutux: ..Marc :[
**M thinks: im so sorry*
*marc walks away*
Nikki: heeey Marc! *wink*
Marc: hey babe
*Nikki hugs Marc*
Nikki:ehi, i saw you before, poor Tutux, but this is the best for us, right?
Marc: sigh, yeah.

So, yeah I kinda dramtized it, but it sounded kinda cool...
anyways regarding your second question, no it didn't even thought the guy I like started "getting further from me" :[

Well, I'm sorry that happened, Im sure it would've been a long, nice relationship.. just keep patience.
But if he chose her instead of you I would consider going back with him if he breaks up with her ex again.
Maybe look for a guy worthier for you. Just keep him as an awesome friend!



Thats Probably the best advice you can get. It happens here in my highschool and i bet it does in college. Some guys are like that with woman.
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Posted 6/10/08
Yeah, I would feel deluded if my guy would walk away from me like that.
That means he's just not worth it. >.>


[wow, that was my longest post in this group ever, haha im a fast typer :P]
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Posted 6/13/08
omg!! u guys misunderstood it..

its like diz..

i haf a guy fren A, who used to be wid his girlfren B...

and i haf a boyfriend X, who noes im close friends wid A..

my boyfriend X is the bestest cos he noes dat im juz frens wid A..

at some point, A broke up wid B.. and i hung out alot more wid A cos he's heartbroken n etc..

den A starts ignoring me.. and dats when i found out dat A is back wid B.

get it?
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Posted 6/13/08
Ooh, ok sorry! ^^;; (it's not our fault you weren't clear enough >.> :P) .

I would say that A is free to do what he wants. You helped him up when he was in a crisis and now that he's better he probably is grateful of you. That's the way of things, after you've gotten used to someone it's hard to see him walk away. Yeah, I know maybe you might've thought that it was unkind of him to just ditch you, but he's free to go on with his own life isn't he. Again, I'm pretty sure he's grateful of you.
Be happy, who knows maybe you'll find some cute guy in the same Spanish class as you.. (ok, it doesn't have to be spanish, it can be math, english or w/e u want :P)
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Posted 6/25/08
oh pls..
i noe he can go on wid his life. anyway, he's not grateful. cos gratitude needs to be expressed. wat he did is totally WTF. and he's not the only fren i have.. plus, i'll always have my boyfriend wid me, so im not losing anything.
Posted 7/25/08
A, and very possibly B, have issues. It's too much of a coincidence for him to start ignoring you just when he got back together with his ex. Either his ex asked him to stay away from you because she's jealous and insecure, or A would rather spend time with his girlfriend than you. Either way, he's doesn't sound like a very good friend. Forget about him. You have other friends who are actually worth your time. Choosing a girl/boyfriend over a really good friend who was there for you is just not okay in my book.
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