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Would you adopt kids?
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Posted 12/9/11 , edited 12/9/11
Whatever your opinion is, which I respect, I've seen a lot of misconceptions.

1- No but i'll give money to orphanages : Giving money to orphanages is indeed good, but the main goal of orphanage is to provide basics needs until the kids grow to independence, but most of the time those kids lack of love, appreciation, encouragement, etc. Just helping orphanages will not give the kids what they need the most, love and families.

2- Must raise blood related children : Indeed, most parents feel great pride about their successful blood-bonded kids, like they own part of this success, but seriously, wouldn't you feel happy to see any kid you raised into an independent adult successful in life? Whatever he is born from your seeds or not, he lives, loves, dreams like any other kid and in his mind you are his parents either way.

3- Adopting is better 'cause you don't have to be pregnant / get the pregnancy complications (stop working, etc) : Utterly false. Most adopted kids are older than one year old. They have habits, languages (sometime from other countries), culture, traumas, etc, from their previous life (orphanages / last family). All this makes adaptation really difficult, you will have to make compromises and change to your life. The kids will sometime have strange habits (crying a lot, yelling in his sleep, inexplicably scared of strangers, violence, etc). Plus, all the paperwork for adoption is very long and complicated. You need good records (see here money and good education / work, most of the time). All this make probably adoption as much complicated as pregnancy.

Just my 2 cents to this discussion.

I am myself adopted (Korea), if it helps understanding my position.

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Posted 12/9/11
Only if my wife cant have any. (not getting married till im atleast 45 tho lol). a interesting question i would like to present is gay couple that want to adopt. Are you guys cool with that? personally idgaf but i know a lot who do have a problem with it.
Posted 12/9/11
yes. i would
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Posted 12/9/11 , edited 12/9/11
So many environmentally friendly people here. Call me a scrooge, but I'd rather have my own kids. Idk, adopting does something to you in comparison to actual kids which I would prefer. It also depends on my partner at the time so it's not really something I could go into detail but I would consider it on a later date.
Posted 12/31/11
Hmmm, I would if I couldn't get any kids.
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Posted 1/16/12
No. Im happy with my baby.
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yeah i want to adopt,i always like differences and to have a house full of them would ba a dream perhaps
Posted 2/15/12
depending on the situation but it would be better having kids coming from your own
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If I never settle down and get married I would seriously think of adoption from 45-50. I wouldn't mind raising a child in my golden years as long as I have my youth. I believe its a fair trade-off and it'd be nice to have a piece of me continue, whether they're my blood or not.

I would of course be honest and tell them they're adopted, I'm sure they'd know by my old butt, but still. It wouldn't be something I'd go into blindely and I would speak with other parents who adopted and what challenges they faced. I'd also ask people who are adopted how it felt, and what would they reccomend I do if I encountered a specific problem.

I would hope my adopted children wouldn't think of me as their adopted mother. I know a white boy who has a black mother, and he admits he just sees her as his mother, not adopted, just his mom. I think that's amazing, and I hope I would raise them in a way where when their kids asks them how come they didn't get the infamous family gap, they'd shake their head absently and remember 'oh yeah, I'm adopted.'

Family and bonds is so much more than blood.
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Posted 2/15/12
Never. I would never raise a child that is not related to me. I could only raise my own genetic son or daughter.
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Posted 2/15/12
If I ever decide I want kids then I wouldn't mind adopting. But I'm not sure I want to be a mum.
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Posted 2/15/12


That sounds rather cruel.
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Posted 2/15/12
I would say if you want to have biological children, go for it.

But if you're wanting more than 2 kids then that's just damn selfish as there are numerous kids in need of parents and adoption.

I see those morons on TV who have 4+ kids and the media is just encouraging people to do likewise in order to have an attempt at gaining national attention. Each release seems to be more and more.

I don't give a damn what people think of it, those who have more than 2 kids are selfish, given there are so many who want someone to love, adopt, and care for them when no one else has.
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Posted 2/15/12 , edited 2/15/12

eclair-lumiere wrote:



That sounds rather cruel.


How is it cruel? I don't understand. Cruel as in rigid in thinking?

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