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how can you assure that guys are serious about you?
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You can't. The man's mind is a mystery to a woman as a woman's mind is a mystery to man.
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How to tell if he's serious about the relationship
By Heidemarie Embrechts, published Jul 02, 2008
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/821761/how_to_tell_if_hes_serious_about_the.html

He Calls for no Reason
He'll randomly call you or message you just to hear the sound of your voice, using almost anything as an excuse. He wants to be with you so much that he feels the need to call you often and isn't afraid to let you know it.

His Friends Know All About You
If you hear him mention your name to friends of his who've never even met you and then notice that they know exactly who he's talking about, it's a definite sign that he's serious about you. It shows that he you're on his mind even when he's not hanging out with you. Also, the fact that his friends all know about you show that he wants you to be a part of his life and doesn't just see you as a temporary girl.

He Refers to the "Two of You" as "We"
His comments are obviously reflecting the fact that he already considers you as an integral (important) part of his life.

He Wants to Know About Your Interests
He'll want to know all about your interests and hobbies and will listen intently as you describe them, even if they are topics that coming from anyone else wouldn't interest him much. He isn't just trying to come up with small talk, he really wants to get to know you better and understand what makes you unique.

He's Nice To Your Friends
He'll take a sudden interest in all of your friends and will try to get to know them better. Whatever their interests are, he'll try to please them to get closer to you because he knows that becoming friends with them will ultimately make him closer to you.

If You Compliment a Shirt He'll Keep Wearing It
This shows that he wants to please you and that when he gets up in the morning to get dressed he's already thinking about you. Even though he may only see you a few hours a day, he's willing to wear a certain clothing article for the whole day just because you like it.

He Opens Up to You
Guys find it notoriously difficult to share their feelings with others. So if he tells you about himself and talks about deeper issues such as how he feels about his family and life changing events, not just ranting about his day at work, it means that he's pretty serious. That kind of trust takes the relationship to a whole other level.


In my own opinion, you'd need reassurance from his side of life
1) His friends know about you and they hear about you all the time
2) He's thinking of letting you meet his parents
3) He's thinking about bringing you along on trips or a night out with friends/family
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imho, girls have something that i would call a girls intuition. For some its particularly stronger, for others slightly weaker.

Strong girls intuition: One who is able to see through the motives and feelings with near or complete certainty. Whether it may be the ability to sense fear from the opposite sex, the attraction of the other sex to you, or the passion felt from the male to female. This is what i would refer to actually like a matrix in which you can screen out losers and guys who you know are trying to just bed you.

Weak girls intuition: Ones judgment of a guy is only right some of the time. The female may begin doubting her own judgments of the guy even if she may be correct.

Now if you are one with a weak girls intuition due to the lack of experience in a relationship, then you must break down the guy and see where his body exposes his feelings for you.

A guy will subliminally send what he usually thinks with his body language despite the fact that he may be trying to tell you something else with your mouth. For example if a male tells you that he doesn't like you but constantly wants to invade your personal space, leans in, always makes direct contact or averts it, constantly wants to touch you, or even constantly compliments you. These are all signs of interest from the male. If his body is not faced towards you during conversation, if his eyes are never in contact with yours, thats a sign of disinterest.

So just look for cues that's the body can send and they will be a good estimate of his interest for you.

Good luck.
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norika-chan wrote:

this guy is serious and i'm not sure because i think he is serious... he looks serious and he said he IS serious... and i hate to joke around about feelings... so what do you think? how can we know that a guy is really serious about us?
pls...help....


well if he said he serious you should belive him cause if your serious you should be able to trust him,
and if you dont trust him... well honestly it's not gonna last long...
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you cant
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who cares?
if he's not..
me too..ahaha
Posted 11/29/08
Umm...when he:

*misses you a lot
*think of you almost every moment
*tell you he loves you a billions of times.
*asks you to marry him
*loves you for everything that you are (no matter what)
*would do anything for you

and things like that. lol i dunno this is just all the things my bf does for me. ^_^
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h4x0rz wrote:

if he's acting like a super-gentleman, then he prolly is. If he spends on you,better.


that a lie....everybody can act gentle and use money.....when a guy seems to perfect to be true then he is just putting up an act. believe me, i seen it work and i used it myself and it does work....
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Posted 11/29/08

sakurafan318 wrote:

How to tell if he's serious about the relationship
By Heidemarie Embrechts, published Jul 02, 2008
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/821761/how_to_tell_if_hes_serious_about_the.html

He Calls for no Reason
He'll randomly call you or message you just to hear the sound of your voice, using almost anything as an excuse. He wants to be with you so much that he feels the need to call you often and isn't afraid to let you know it.

His Friends Know All About You
If you hear him mention your name to friends of his who've never even met you and then notice that they know exactly who he's talking about, it's a definite sign that he's serious about you. It shows that he you're on his mind even when he's not hanging out with you. Also, the fact that his friends all know about you show that he wants you to be a part of his life and doesn't just see you as a temporary girl.

He Refers to the "Two of You" as "We"
His comments are obviously reflecting the fact that he already considers you as an integral (important) part of his life.

He Wants to Know About Your Interests
He'll want to know all about your interests and hobbies and will listen intently as you describe them, even if they are topics that coming from anyone else wouldn't interest him much. He isn't just trying to come up with small talk, he really wants to get to know you better and understand what makes you unique.

He's Nice To Your Friends
He'll take a sudden interest in all of your friends and will try to get to know them better. Whatever their interests are, he'll try to please them to get closer to you because he knows that becoming friends with them will ultimately make him closer to you.

If You Compliment a Shirt He'll Keep Wearing It
This shows that he wants to please you and that when he gets up in the morning to get dressed he's already thinking about you. Even though he may only see you a few hours a day, he's willing to wear a certain clothing article for the whole day just because you like it.

He Opens Up to You
Guys find it notoriously difficult to share their feelings with others. So if he tells you about himself and talks about deeper issues such as how he feels about his family and life changing events, not just ranting about his day at work, it means that he's pretty serious. That kind of trust takes the relationship to a whole other level.


In my own opinion, you'd need reassurance from his side of life
1) His friends know about you and they hear about you all the time
2) He's thinking of letting you meet his parents
3) He's thinking about bringing you along on trips or a night out with friends/family


you know.....i did this to the girl i liked recently....she showed signs of liking me back by going out on dates with me, brought her a puppy and she asked her friends to come see me and was say that she wants to get me a stable gf... but that all change when i told her that i liked her and i want to bring her back to singapore for a holiday. (ya i am paying for it and i am working in guangzhou now) she down right rejected me and say just be friends...she still answers my call and all and chat with me but she wont meet up with me anymore........sad very sad and painful....o well life is like that....stand up when u fall....

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you cant! if you trust him then be with him if you dont then stay away from him because you wont be happy! you will always worry! i trust my partner because he was there for me when i needed him and i was there for him in return. If someone cares then when there are bad times they will ALWAYS be there, if someone didnt care then they would go!
Posted 11/29/08
Our Secrets shall not be reviled....
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norika-chan wrote:

just that sometimes we will find many wrong people before meeting the right one... life's hard yet easy....


no. Life's hard but happy.
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Posted 12/2/08
Tell him you're pregnant, if he says he'll take responsibility he's a winner, if he leaves you to your own, well you know what he's up to and you don't have to go through the trouble of breaking up with him in time anyway.

But ofcourse there's always the risk that if he chooses the first option and stays, that after you tell him it was a joke he might not be amused. hehe
Posted 12/3/08
if he is willing to sacrifice anything for you.
lol. you'll find it corny.~
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you can never tell.. well here's some list..

-he goes to your house and gets to meet your whole family including your aunts, uncles, cousins, even the grannies; even present with family affairs..

-he apologies even if it's your fault (just because you are too stubborn to admit it.. and he doesnt want to lose you just because of that)

-he checks how your day went and how you are (u cant tell, maybe he's checking just so you wont catch him..lolz jkjk)

-he cries in front of you when you want to separate from him for something he did big time (but if he always do this, like a hobby :D, then it doesnt count as it may be fake..i also do this sometimes!! lolz )

-cant get enough of you, always want to be with you every where you go

-updates you of his whereabouts and what's up or new with him.. like when he gets a new haircut, he drops by your house just to show it!!

-he shares his deepest thought no matter how corny , silly or non sense that is..

-the ultimate is if he asks you to marry him!!

..well so far that's it.. i'll post some when i have more ideas..



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