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Fictional love = Real Life love?
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Well, I had always been wondering. Is those love stories we seen in animes/dramas/movies the same as love in real life? Or are they exaggerated? What're your intakes in it?

I need someone who has experience in a relationship to answer me this because I'm in my first relationship with a boy and need to know if I'm comparing too much with real relationship with those of fictional made.
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I call this the "female syndrome". To explain a little bit further it's a little like this. Females tend to watch an absurd amount of dramas/movies/animes relating to romance. Then they take the information found here and compare it to their lives. Should their lives not match up (and they never will) they proceed to wonder why. They then poke and prod their relationships in an effort to get them to work like they saw on television. This is an effort in futility and it ends up driving guys insane. It's kind of like watching Rocky I, II, III, IV, and V and then assuming all boxing matches are a toe to toe slug fest. There are moments and days where something will happen that is close to an on screen moment. Sometimes a guy will take your breath away or a girl will stop you in your tracks with a smile. For the most part though fictional love is just that fictional, directors, writers, and artists take the most beautiful moments they can think of and throw them together in a combined effort to make every girl on the planet think her guy is failing her in some way.
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*applauds*

That was so true. Great post.
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god this has cost me 2 gfs because they wanted a story book love


please spare your bf the suffering and jus go with the flow cuz chances are something will happen even if it is just a brief moment it is somethin
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Actually they are ... ive seen many romance series andmany of them remind me of my X and the thing i did and how it was to be rejected gaaaah..
tough and rough. THat is how life is and you cant run away from it.
Only one thing that all those anime have in comment that it is "I love you" instead of a crush. When ppl use the word LOVE they really mean it to someone they really wanna be with live with. At an age of 14-17 kinda hard to believe that LOVE is something to use. I did it myself but hey i was young before i also used LOVE many times but that is only words and after some years i finally found out. The person you eventually is going to be ur bride/groom is the one you should tell you LOVE and not some crush "you will feel that you love this person from an young age but keep it till you really feel ready to tell".
Btw boys use the word LOVE for SEX !!!! and because it is a big word every girl believe it.... gaaaaah

"every kind of love stories you have seen is based on real LOVE" so yes they are ;D

Good luck with u man
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Hopchow wrote:

I call this the "female syndrome". To explain a little bit further it's a little like this. Females tend to watch an absurd amount of dramas/movies/animes relating to romance. Then they take the information found here and compare it to their lives. Should their lives not match up (and they never will) they proceed to wonder why. They then poke and prod their relationships in an effort to get them to work like they saw on television. This is an effort in futility and it ends up driving guys insane. It's kind of like watching Rocky I, II, III, IV, and V and then assuming all boxing matches are a toe to toe slug fest. There are moments and days where something will happen that is close to an on screen moment. Sometimes a guy will take your breath away or a girl will stop you in your tracks with a smile. For the most part though fictional love is just that fictional, directors, writers, and artists take the most beautiful moments they can think of and throw them together in a combined effort to make every girl on the planet think her guy is failing her in some way.


awesome comment. totally agree. many females want everything to be perfect which is impossible.
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But there is nothing wrong in making an effort to at least make the that you ahve similar to those in fiction. Try being romantic for once.
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Well, thanks to all the comments! Like I said, this is my first relationship so I really do not know the difference. Heck! I don't even know the feeling I have for him is love or not. It's just that I was touched by his passion towards me (although now he no longer shows it) and agreed to make him my bf.

One more question. If your bf/gf is sad over the loss of someone/something important to them, would you comfort him/her and constantly stayed by that person side till they get better? Or would you think that it's best to let that person be and wait till he/she gets better then only it's save to aproach them?
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mystic7 wrote:

Well, thanks to all the comments! Like I said, this is my first relationship so I really do not know the difference. Heck! I don't even know the feeling I have for him is love or not. It's just that I was touched by his passion towards me (although now he no longer shows it) and agreed to make him my bf.

One more question. If your bf/gf is sad over the loss of someone/something important to them, would you comfort him/her and constantly stayed by that person side till they get better? Or would you think that it's best to let that person be and wait till he/she gets better then only it's save to aproach them?


That depends on the person. Some people like to be left alone in that situation while others really need people close to help them through it. You just gotta find out for yourself.
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mystic7 wrote:
I need someone who has experience in a relationship to answer me this because I'm in my first relationship with a boy and need to know if I'm comparing too much with real relationship with those of fictional made.


i'm shocked 19 and your first relationship regardless of whether you're classifying this as "real" or not cause i mean in anime and drama age really doesn't seem to be that big a factor and real is all your own perception and whether fictional love = real life love is all a matter of perception there are seriously ppl in relationships that have had a relationship that could seriously be a good plot line for a story or drama
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^Please try to use the 'Period' key more often.
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I have to admit though, I have met some girls in the 'Storybook' way in the past, and they turned into some pretty good relationships. But these are very rare, and in the end none of them really worked out.

Now I'd actually prefer to meet girls in the normal way (at clubs, bars, etc.) rather than the 'Storybook' way (saving her life, helping her in some major way, etc).
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Hopchow wrote:

I call this the "female syndrome". To explain a little bit further it's a little like this. Females tend to watch an absurd amount of dramas/movies/animes relating to romance. Then they take the information found here and compare it to their lives. Should their lives not match up (and they never will) they proceed to wonder why. They then poke and prod their relationships in an effort to get them to work like they saw on television. This is an effort in futility and it ends up driving guys insane. It's kind of like watching Rocky I, II, III, IV, and V and then assuming all boxing matches are a toe to toe slug fest. There are moments and days where something will happen that is close to an on screen moment. Sometimes a guy will take your breath away or a girl will stop you in your tracks with a smile. For the most part though fictional love is just that fictional, directors, writers, and artists take the most beautiful moments they can think of and throw them together in a combined effort to make every girl on the planet think her guy is failing her in some way.


Your post will find me guilty.
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Hmm, I guess it's different in the south. We get those kind of girls too but most are actually there to meet guys and start a relationship, not just to get hammered.
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i honestly gotta say they're exaggerated. why?!? been through a lot of relationships and i am now married. married life is not as sweet as it sounds, and there is no way there are guys as sweet as in those animes/dramas. for an example....there is no guy who is sweet like Zai Zai in Meteor Garden. NO WAY...!!! all the relationship i went through, none of them were the same all different experience. so....i got to say, i would really wish my life were as sweet as those animes and dramas
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hopchow's response was perfect actually....no girl is ever going to find a guy that is completely devoted to making her feel like she is his whole world....this just doesn't happen EVER. any girl who can say she has should thank her lucky stars....i watch a LOT of dramas and i am just glad i am not naive enough to think that there are guys like that out there (although it would be nice)....if you exist though, PROVE ME WRONG ^_^....and furthermore, what fun is a relationship if everything is sunshine and lollipops? one of the things that brings you closer together is working through your differences ^_^
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